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Becoming a domestic goddess


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S: 17st6lb C: 14st2.5lb G: 11st0lb BMI: 30.2 Loss: 3st3.5lb(18.65%)
Hi Everyone,

Since starting this diet I have become obsessed with cookery programmes, cookery books and baking. I know this is very common on VLCD but it has become an obsession. I love feeding other people and getting my food relationship through them. I have had so many baking books/utensils for christmas.

This is bad as it shows I am still not handling my relationship with food very well. Even though Im not eating Im enjoying the process of cooking and watching others eat. Ive become a FEEDER. Oh no! At least its only my skinny husband who is "suffering" at the moment.
What can I do to stop this? Im worried that food is still of major importance to me even though Im not eating. Food should be less important so it does not control me or my emotions etc. im due to start RTM in a couple of weeks. HELP!

Sorry for my rambling but just wondered if anyone had any thoughts. I know food should be enjoyed but I want to just enjoy it like "normal" people not think about it 24/7 which is what I do on any diet.
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S: 12st6lb C: 10st8lb G: 9st7lb BMI: 28 Loss: 1st12lb(14.94%)
hi there
i was exactly the same - my 'food porn' by hubby used to call it.

unfortunately tho since finishing RTM ( sept 09) i haven't had the good relationship I had hoped I would do with food and have slipped into a strange relationship with food.

i loved being abstinent, loved cooking etc, but now I have to eat I don't like food and I don't want to cook. so I deliberatly eat rubbish - even tho I know it is doing me 'harm'

very strange - and obviously this will not automatically happen to you!

your post did make me think however, i was obsessed with food whilst abstinent but I could control it - ie not eating, but I have the same obsession now, but its a hate thing rather than a love thing!

Think I need to think about this some more.....

Daisy x
S: 14st4lb C: 9st10lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 21.9 Loss: 4st8lb(32%)
Its really interesting to read this thread because, although I was very into baking/cooking before LLT, I have baked and cooked myself into a frenzy since being abstinent - to the extent that I get quite crabby if there is no reason (i.e. noone to eat it!) to bake!!

I'm now on day 3 of RTM and am 'cooking' my first proper meal for me and the hubby (spicy chicken with salad) and its just not giving me the pleasure I normally get...

To be honest I've never enjoyed cooking low fat, always enjoyed cooking rich sauces and goey cakes so that's probably one of my issues :eek:(

Did you watch "The Great British Bake Off" this year Aloize? The guy that won had lost 10stone and kept it off but still enjoys his hobby of baking - he's my inspiration to keep baking but still keep the weight off!

Laura x


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S: 17st6lb C: 14st2.5lb G: 11st0lb BMI: 30.2 Loss: 3st3.5lb(18.65%)
hiya Laura,

Yes, I did watch it. Didn't know he'd lost that much weight though. Very inspiring. I get crabby too if there is nothing to bake for or no-one to eat my efforts.

I have also been thinking about low fat food from the supermarket. i read something recently saying that buying low fat dairy is good but low fat everything else is a waste of time because its full of other ingredients.I have always bought low fat everthing because I have been on a diet on and off for the last 15 years. however, i am still fat so obviously this doen't help. i am thinking that if I eat properly and enjoy what I eat then maybe I will be able to control my weight. Instead of low fat food just eat normal food but not as much. this is obviously not rocket science but I always used to feel guilty if I bought "proper" versions of my favourites instead of the low fat version. Then i would feel like I missed out. I always use to kid myself on weight watchers that if I just ate salad for tea then I could have x amount of low fat pointed treats. Stupid I know.

I have been cooking for others using butter, olive oil and cream. I would never contemplate eating these myself yet I was/am still overweight.


*sorry if this topic is more suited to the RTM board but i am still on TOTAL and starting to think about how I will cope on RTM. Ive tried not to reference any food items.I do not want to yoyo anymore!*

Pinkie :)

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S: 12st6lb C: 10st13lb G: 9st0lb BMI: 28 Loss: 1st7lb(12.07%)
I've never been a great cook, so am far from being a domestic goddess... However, I can associate with the 'food porn' part!! lol...

What I do, is recommend my boyfriend eats certain things for each meal, most often, things I am especially missing, or the food I'd have that particular day if I wasn't on Total! He is naturally slim, and happy to oblige... however, he then has to describe in great detail, the taste, texture, how good it is... and even if it's not good, to say it is reaaaally good!!

So, do I have deep routed issues?! Lol... Hmm... I think so! I am nearly 5 weeks in to LLT, and as started during xmas season, my LLC wasn't doing the classes, just pop-ins to take weights... so, maybe when the counselling properly gets under way this year, I'll get more of a grip! Maybe!

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