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hey girls and guys.

just wondering would anyone like to buddy up? I'm 20st 12lb want to get to around 14 then re-evaluate :). would love someone to chat to along the way. I have a hubby who's great but its good to have someone in the same position to talk to. I have a few female friends but because I'm shy I couldn't bring up the subject. :eek:


lou x
 
hi lou
your more than welcome to chat to me but all the girls will support you we are all in the same boot and they give you loads of help you found the right place to come welcome x x x
 
hey girls.

Thanks for the support. going to try and calorie count for a while. Ive tried everything. so back to something that I know works and isn't too strict in the "you can't eat that" sense. have myfitnesspal set up. just need to get going on it.

thanks everyone for lending an ear. I find it very helpful to get my feelings out there without being judged. Going thru a bad patch at the moment. doubting myself and being v.paranoid in public about what people think of me and my size. vicious circle of binge eating resumes then!

Louise

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Hello Louise! Welcome! You did right to come here. Here you really can find great support and help! Don't be shy to ask me for support any time! would be very glad to make friends with you and chat often;-)) Good luck!!
 
Hi lovely, well done for taking a big first step. I'm like you, I'm heading for 13st 7lb as a goal to start with as I'm not sure what I look like at that size (I haven't been sub 22stone for a LONG time, at least 8 years!) and as I'm relatively tall I don't want to get TOO slim as I think I'd look daft.

We're always here to help and as we're in the same situation we know how it feels :) x
 
hi louise
i know what you mean about being paranoid i lost some of my weight was going well then i lost my job and a death comfort ate put it all back on and now i want to kick myself but im back on it so im happy had a good week x x
 
hey all

so how is everyone today? I'm feeling a but better. at least I'm facing the problem now instead of running (who am I kidding...slow walking) from it.

my problem is sometimes that i'm a big thinker. think and worry too much over things alot. the thing running thru my head today was that I've wasted my life. 31 this year. 17yrs unhappy and fat.

lou
 
thanks lottie. I'm wide awake here thinking about things again. and I've to be up for work at 5.30 :eek:

I can't keep making it worse. every time I try and fail another stone goes on. so im 21st now. I've failed alot. I've so much to lose now it's scary. months and months to knuckle down now and I've never lasted more than 3 weeks :(
 
Don't be so hard on yourself try to accept the past I am 29 21st 6lb & been dieting from 8years old. Until 3 weeks ago I was struggling big time even the doctor telling mr my blood pressure was so high I was / still am at high risk of a stroke wasn't enough for me to start losing weight . What I focused on was accepting that in the past I just didn't try hard enough no excuses I wanted to lose weight but I didn't want to put in the work. I didn't want it enough I was happy comfortable. But then I turned into a paranoid wreck convinced people were staring at me , when I got on a bus people wouldn't sit next to me no matter how bus the bus was I used to think it was a good thing then I realised there not sitting next to me coz I almost take up both seats . Sick of only being able to shop for clothes in 2 shops 1 of which can be out my price range & the other there plus size section is always at the back of the store so I feel like I'm doing a walk of shame . But the main thing I've started to realise is I deserve so much better than this. You can do this try writing down your reasons why you want to lose weight was very helpful to me x
 
Going to have a sit down later today and think about all the reasons. then post them up here to come back to. I hate sounding like a big pity merchant. I'm not normally like this. Just having the odd dark day lately.

lou
 
I know how hard it is so don't be sorry at all when I wrote the reasons why I'm doing this it was the 1st time I was ever totally honest with myself don't get let the reasons get you down.
It's not easy if you can find that bit of determination inside you feed it let it grow do things to make yourself proud. One is the things i don't to make myself proud was simple things like stopping eating when in full ordering something healthy when out for a meal. Rewarding my achievements with things rather than food. I don't really drink so my social life mainly consists of eating so rather than treating myself to dinner lunch etc I have started putting £5 on a gift card & I'll keep adding to it . Are you sticking to a eating plan? X
 
kers pink i think that is a brill idea
 
Thanks chezz I it works for me £5 isn't a lot when I would spend £10-£15 on takeaways or lunches etc at least 2/3 times a week x
 
Give yourself a break lovely! I was hospitalised at 23 weighing approx 24st and told I wouldn't see 30 if I didn't do something about it. I'm 29 now and at my highest about 3 years ago I was 27st 8lb.

The past is unimportant now, all that matters is we're going forward now and finally have had our lightbulb moment that is making us REALLY do it. If you're not ready, you're not ready.

Now you are - now it's the time to go forward :)
 
kers_pink said:
Thanks chezz I it works for me £5 isn't a lot when I would spend £10-£15 on takeaways or lunches etc at least 2/3 times a week x
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Definitely not - and the worst thing is after eating them, it made you feel even worse about yourself! But you still kept on doing it(!) I did it regularly. No more!

The reward is a great idea :)
 
PrincessSparklePants said:
Definitely not - and the worst thing is after eating them, it made you feel even worse about yourself! But you still kept on doing it(!) I did it regularly. No more! The reward is a great idea :)
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After a few weeks I would then buy something like clothes or that something that you would never think about buying coz it's to expensive. X
 
Thanks girls.

feel so much better after hearing all your posts. don't feel like a big softie that's making excuses for myself. Thank you for making this a safe place where I can be myself.

have wrote out my list. It's long....I'll post it up this evening after work. be nice to look back at hopefully when im on the road.

a question or two on plans? what do ye find works? ive tried everything. diet plans, shakes etc. I go great for a few weeks then the bingeing starts. anyone been thru this before?

lou
 
louise_eire said:
Thanks girls. feel so much better after hearing all your posts. don't feel like a big softie that's making excuses for myself. Thank you for making this a safe place where I can be myself. have wrote out my list. It's long....I'll post it up this evening after work. be nice to look back at hopefully when im on the road. a question or two on plans? what do ye find works? ive tried everything. diet plans, shakes etc. I go great for a few weeks then the bingeing starts. anyone been thru this before? lou
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I currently calorie count which works for me I also make sure I only have 15g of fat a day it does work for me as if I want something I can have it. Although this doesn't work for everyone, everyone is different. What I tend to do is save some calories & use them at the weekend. It's hard I feel like giving up ALOT but this time is different I'm focused & determined. I've lost 3.5lb in 2weeks I'm happy with that I've also been prescribed orlistat from the doctors which is why I'm watching my fat. It's about picking yourself up when you fall at a hurdle. As I have a lot of weight to lose I know it's going to be a long process but I try not to think about that I focus on losing 7lb at a time. I also write a blog not on here but I might start on here to & the comments & encouragement from people helps me stay focused & it makes me feel like im helping other people but the support is amazing :). Things that help me stay focused I have taken pictures of myself in a swimming costume from different angles it's my wallpaper on my phone also considering putting it on my fridge lol I read over & re-evaluate why I'm doing this at least once a week or when I'm feeling low. Writing everything down I eat & I mean everything! Looking for positive quotes & posting them on Facebook etc Coming on here helps & writing my blog it works for me to keep me focused I hope this helps you. I know you can do it !! X
 
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