I have not had this problem, YET, but I do think your mind has to be in the right place.
For me I could not wait to get started and when I did I kept myself really busy and went to bed early each night. Was a weird first week but ever since I have had no problems. Stuck to SS on my birthday without thinking of eating, I do get moments I see someone eat something tasty and evny them.
BUT, I want to be slim and healthy much more than I want to put food in my mouth.
I have a calendar that I have wrote Day 1, Day 2 etc and I have crossed each day out. I can not tell you the satasfaction I get from putting an X on it at the end of each day.
I really hope you both can find something that works, once you do you will be flying!