Chelsea Lou - The Ventura adventure, not a sinking ship!

[Chelsea Lou]

:hug99: Self esteem and confidence take a while to build back up (mine's at a low ebb at the moment), but you've got a great personality and such a lot going for you, someone would be very, very lucky to have you.

Aw thanks Dis, sorry you are feeling low about yourself too. What are we women like eh? It is such a waste of our time and energy really. We are what we are and I am working on the confidence thing. After all if I don't like me much then I can't expect anyone else to can I?
xx

Dis & Chels... you are BOTH awesome, beautiful and strong women, so quit argueing! I know what you mean about the confidence on the floor, we all have this... the sadness of gaining weight and the ordeal of losing it again, and it IS an ordeal this time around... but we are still here and still working on this, and we WILL get there. This journey has to make us stronger, surely.

Chels, you are so kind and lovely in personality, so funny & clever, and so beautiful too... you'll be mixing-your-men before you know it. (Actually that sounds a bit odd, but yknow what I mean!!!) The problem will be more about whether they are good enough for YOU. So there!

Yay to the baggy trousers, you are wasting away!!!

xxx

Katy, I nearly spat out my cuppa reading about mixing the men Made me sound like a right old trollop hahahaha. Thank you for your lovely words. It is astonishing that everything we feel seems to be linked to a number on a scale. It is the fear of not having the weight to hide behind, which is how I got before in 2009. I won't be like that this time though. I am going to get this head stuff sorted, accept who and what I am and if that isn't good enought for my mix-a-man........then tough. I have a life for myself......sort of lol and I will make it better, get some confidence and a bit of backbone to go out and 'do it'.

That is ridiculous thinking. You and I have never met, but I know what a wonderful person you are. Kind, warm, friendly, outgoing, intelligent, funny, loyal, trustworthy and decent. And much less important, going by your by photo's, very good looking.

That is what I, someone who's never met you sees. So when your weight loss gives you the confidence you need you'll WOW them! xxxx

Do you know, you girls are the nicest people. I am not recognising this person that you are all describing but if that is really me you are seeing, then perhaps I am not so bad after all. Wow....I'm really ok Does Beck do a book on self-esteem/confidence I wonder???

Mmmmwwaaahhhhhhhh !!!!

 

[Chelsea Lou]

Day 48 update thingy

Just to fill you in with what's been happening this pm.

A colleague of mine, who I am quite close to came by my desk earlier and commented on how 'skinny' I was looking. I explained that I had 13lbs more to lose before I was at goal of 10 stones. She was horrified that I wanted to lose more and said that I had lost enough and was starting to look scrawny. She then went on to say that she was 12 stones and had never been that weight before, even when she was just about to give birth to her daughter. She is my height 5'2", really pretty but struggling to get her head round starting a diet. That's two people now who I used to weigh more than, both telling me I look scrawny. Like I said before, my ideal weight for height ranges from 7.5 stones to 9.5, so I don't think scrawny would quite describe it.

I don't think today's comments from my friend was horribly meant but people don't like it when you become lighter than them and they can see that you have decided to do something about yourself.

Anyway, just wanted to share and to see if you have any comments.

The day has been a good one. Just a porridge to go now and Benidorm will be on soon

xxxx

 

[MinnieMel]

Hi Chels (or should I say Yang) --

Also, it is often a case of people not being "used" to you looking a certain way. They might genuinely see as you being too thin, scrawny, etc. because that is not how you are "supposed to look."

Also, if they are people who really like you, love you, etc. you probably did not look "all that bad" before, e.g. "love is blind."

As a teenager I had a very good friend with dreadful skin. But, when someone said something about it one time -- I argued with them. Then, the next time I was with my friend, I actually noticed that she did have dreadful skin. I did not see the acne when I looked at her: I saw my friend.

You will know when you feel comfortable and, of course, like me... you are of a "certain age" and to paraphrase the Idiot Proof Diet book -- we may need to choose between our arse and our face. I know from having been at goal, that had I gotten down to what I weighed at 26, it would not have been pretty.

Have you skipped ahead in Beck and read the some of the Maintenance section? In it she talks about finding a weight that is maintainable. I plan to find a weight that I can maintain without a constant battle, that is healthy and, I feel, looks good. And, if someone else thinks I look too thin, too bad. If they think, "She could stand to lose a few pounds," too bad.

I have RC Zumba at 9:30 tomorrow, so do not work too hard on the bike ride from 9:30 to 11:00 (in case we throw things off balance). After that -- go for it!

MM

 

[DisneyParis]

I don't think today's comments from my friend was horribly meant but people don't like it when you become lighter than them and they can see that you have decided to do something about yourself.

Know what you mean. I have a friend who l have known since college, who has lived abroad for over 20 years, she comes back to Scotland at least once a year, so we've kept in touch. She has always been very confident and slim.
I met her for lunch last year after l had lost over 4st and although l say it myself l looked quite different she never even mentioned it, but l could see by the look on her face when we met that she noticed straight away. She's the only person l know who hasn't commented on it, even people who live on my street who l don't know that well have. I lost the weight for myself and not to impress other people, but l found her reaction interesting and rather amusing.

 

[Chelsea Lou]

Hi Chels (or should I say Yang) --

Also, it is often a case of people not being "used" to you looking a certain way. They might genuinely see as you being too thin, scrawny, etc. because that is not how you are "supposed to look."

Also, if they are people who really like you, love you, etc. you probably did not look "all that bad" before, e.g. "love is blind."

As a teenager I had a very good friend with dreadful skin. But, when someone said something about it one time -- I argued with them. Then, the next time I was with my friend, I actually noticed that she did have dreadful skin. I did not see the acne when I looked at her: I saw my friend.

You will know when you feel comfortable and, of course, like me... you are of a "certain age" and to paraphrase the Idiot Proof Diet book -- we may need to choose between our arse and our face. I know from having been at goal, that had I gotten down to what I weighed at 26, it would not have been pretty.

Have you skipped ahead in Beck and read the some of the Maintenance section? In it she talks about finding a weight that is maintainable. I plan to find a weight that I can maintain without a constant battle, that is healthy and, I feel, looks good. And, if someone else thinks I look too thin, too bad. If they think, "She could stand to lose a few pounds," too bad.

I have RC Zumba at 9:30 tomorrow, so do not work too hard on the bike ride from 9:30 to 11:00 (in case we throw things off balance). After that -- go for it!

MM

Mel, bless you, as ever the voice of sense and reason. You are so right on all of the above. That is what I am aiming for.

 

[Chelsea Lou]

Know what you mean. I have a friend who l have known since college, who has lived abroad for over 20 years, she comes back to Scotland at least once a year, so we've kept in touch. She has always been very confident and slim.
I met her for lunch last year after l had lost over 4st and although l say it myself l looked quite different she never even mentioned it, but l could see by the look on her face when we met that she noticed straight away. She's the only person l know who hasn't commented on it, even people who live on my street who l don't know that well have. I lost the weight for myself and not to impress other people, but l found her reaction interesting and rather amusing.

Dis, I suppose we have to take is as a compliment but I fail to understand why a person cannot just be really pleased for someone elses achievement. Anyway, we have each other on here for that, plus my DDs......that's good enough for me xxx

 

[DisneyParis]

Chels, l keep thinking about you going on your cruise, you are going to look super duper. Looking forward to hearing about any new outfits (and swimwear) you buy for it.

Hope you have a good weekend.

 

[Chelsea Lou]

Chels, l keep thinking about you going on your cruise, you are going to look super duper. Looking forward to hearing about any new outfits (and swimwear) you buy for it.

Hope you have a good weekend.

Do you know Dis, I just can't wait to hit the shops...I've seen one frock online, which I really like for the wedding. I will try to find it and post a pic of it and see what you and others think. Be back in a mo xx

 

[Chelsea Lou]

can anyone tell me how to copy and paste a photo? it wont work for me boo hoo

 

[Chelsea Lou]

 

[MinnieMel]

Yang,

You can save the image to your computer as a .jpg file, then use the attachments (paperclip when you go advanced) to attach it.

MM aka Ying

 

[Chelsea Lou]

Yay!!! Done it lol. I wouldn't be wearing a hat but what do you think for a mother of the bride frock for the wedding?

 

[MinnieMel]

LOL nevermind!

I LOVE IT!!! So lovely -- almost My Fair Lady-ish!

MM

 

[MinnieMel]

Chels/Yang --

I like the hat -- but you are right. Vertically challenged people tend to look like mushrooms when they wear big hats.

MM/Ying

 

[Chelsea Lou]

On the Debenham's website they have a catwalk video of the frock and it has a really lovely sway to it. Probably the way the model walks but I could give it a go.....jaywalking would probably produce the same effect :8855::silly:

 

[Chelsea Lou]

Chels/Yang --

I like the hat -- but you are right. Vertically challenged people tend to look like mushrooms when they wear big hats.

MM/Ying

Ying, I have never found a hat that didnt make me look like a complete and utter pillock. I would love to be able to wear hats. My DD1 pulls on a beanie hat and looks the business. Soooooo annoying

 

[Chelsea Lou]

I might look into a jaunty little fascinator though very a la mode!!! In fact very hoity and very toity

 

[MinnieMel]

Yang,

I think this a video of how we'd look "on the catwalk".

Ying

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JDAELmGP3GQ

 

[MinnieMel]

Yang,

Waz a

pillock

? I have a huge head (and thick hair) -- so, unless it is a ten gallon cowboy hat... it ain't gonna go on my head!

MM/Ying

 

[Chelsea Lou]

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