Hi all, I just wanted to post something on here, in order to stop myself eating and see if any one can help.
Briefly I had a visit from my parents today. I love them dearly but we tend to clash on most things. The topic of this particular clash is where me and OH will move to. We have decided to move back to my home town to be closer to my family as they hardly come to see me (usually 6months if I am lucky). Anyway, they arrived and I was trying to hide the fact that I am on LL as I have tried it before and they were not happy; I don't really need their opinion but they give it freely anyway.
However, we got into a discussion about moving house and I said that I wanted to move to an old property with character. My mum was insistent that she thought that we would be better in a new build which, is not what I want. I very careful and in an adult fashion explained why I didn't want to move to new build. This went on deaf ears and we didn't argue but were stern with each other.
Anyway, I felt upset because I had been assertive with my mum and I could see that I had upset her by not liking her idea. This is very Parent and Child and not adult like feelings. In order to cover up my participation with LL, I ate with them at lunchtime!!
Sorry to talk food but I ate roast beef coleslaw, pork pie and potato salad. I know I could've said to my parents about LL and asked for their support but I have been here before and my mum's comments haven't been helpful and there are so many issues between my mum and I that this forum would be bored to tears lol!!!
So how to I stop beating myself up about all of this and not reach for the chocolate????
Sorry for the long post but desperate times call for desperate measures
Thank you for reading xxxx
Briefly I had a visit from my parents today. I love them dearly but we tend to clash on most things. The topic of this particular clash is where me and OH will move to. We have decided to move back to my home town to be closer to my family as they hardly come to see me (usually 6months if I am lucky). Anyway, they arrived and I was trying to hide the fact that I am on LL as I have tried it before and they were not happy; I don't really need their opinion but they give it freely anyway.
However, we got into a discussion about moving house and I said that I wanted to move to an old property with character. My mum was insistent that she thought that we would be better in a new build which, is not what I want. I very careful and in an adult fashion explained why I didn't want to move to new build. This went on deaf ears and we didn't argue but were stern with each other.
Anyway, I felt upset because I had been assertive with my mum and I could see that I had upset her by not liking her idea. This is very Parent and Child and not adult like feelings. In order to cover up my participation with LL, I ate with them at lunchtime!!
Sorry to talk food but I ate roast beef coleslaw, pork pie and potato salad. I know I could've said to my parents about LL and asked for their support but I have been here before and my mum's comments haven't been helpful and there are so many issues between my mum and I that this forum would be bored to tears lol!!!
So how to I stop beating myself up about all of this and not reach for the chocolate????
Sorry for the long post but desperate times call for desperate measures
Thank you for reading xxxx