Yambabe
Bad Girl
Hi Gina, I hope you don't mind me writing this down as a kind of open letter rather than a pm. I kind of thougt that some of the things I wanted to say might be useful for others at some point too.
I don't know you, we've never met, but I've been following you on your weightloss journey via here for 4 months now and I've seen you start and stop, start and stop, and now you seem to be losing heart with it all.
Please don't. You've been such an inspiration to me and others. Your strength, determination, humour and sheer willpower when things weren't going quite the way you wanted them to have been truly awesome to watch.
What I'm going to suggest now might seem a bit off-the-wall but please take some time to think about it.
I think you shold stop dieting! No really. I don't mean you need to immediately go and slap your face into a pile of cake, but I think the time has come (as it will for us all) where you are so close to goal that you are perhaps losing focus a bit.
After all, at the end of the day, what is "goal"? It's an arbitary number that we have chosen cos we like the sound of it, or we've seen a photo of someone else who weighs that and we'd like to think we will look like her when we reach it. It's not real, and it's not necessarily the be-all and end-all of where we are going.
Reading your recent posts it seems that you despair of ever reaching that number, so my advice to you is - stop trying. Concentrate instead on what matters to you. You seem to be unhappy with your shape still, so instead of watching those numbers on the scales work on your body. Losing more weight will still not necessarily give you the bod you want, doing some research and some targetted excercise might though!
Stick with the WS or even Simple for maintenance if you like, work through the refeed process, but don't let that goal be the only thing that matters.
You have done such a fantastic job so far, and what's more you've done it twice.
So chin up girl, look the world in the eye, work that body and be proud of what you have achieved. You deserve to be.
Love
Yam
I don't know you, we've never met, but I've been following you on your weightloss journey via here for 4 months now and I've seen you start and stop, start and stop, and now you seem to be losing heart with it all.
Please don't. You've been such an inspiration to me and others. Your strength, determination, humour and sheer willpower when things weren't going quite the way you wanted them to have been truly awesome to watch.
What I'm going to suggest now might seem a bit off-the-wall but please take some time to think about it.
I think you shold stop dieting! No really. I don't mean you need to immediately go and slap your face into a pile of cake, but I think the time has come (as it will for us all) where you are so close to goal that you are perhaps losing focus a bit.
After all, at the end of the day, what is "goal"? It's an arbitary number that we have chosen cos we like the sound of it, or we've seen a photo of someone else who weighs that and we'd like to think we will look like her when we reach it. It's not real, and it's not necessarily the be-all and end-all of where we are going.
Reading your recent posts it seems that you despair of ever reaching that number, so my advice to you is - stop trying. Concentrate instead on what matters to you. You seem to be unhappy with your shape still, so instead of watching those numbers on the scales work on your body. Losing more weight will still not necessarily give you the bod you want, doing some research and some targetted excercise might though!
Stick with the WS or even Simple for maintenance if you like, work through the refeed process, but don't let that goal be the only thing that matters.
You have done such a fantastic job so far, and what's more you've done it twice.
So chin up girl, look the world in the eye, work that body and be proud of what you have achieved. You deserve to be.
Love
Yam