Jessaqua
Full Member
Omg this is so typically me! Almost 1 week into TFR and a guy I've been speaking to for almost a year & a half via email (we originally met in person whilst on a night out & got talking but at the time he was in a relationship, so we swapped email addy's but agreed nothing could happen between us as unfair to the other person).
Long story short he had wanted to break up, but circumstances dictated it wasn't so simple at that time. We spoke for almost a year & tbh then I let things go a little as didn't see any point.
Last week he messaged me to say they broke up at the of last year & since then he has been sorting things on the home & job front & asking how I was etc & tonight he has messaged again asking if he can take me for a drink next week!
It is such rubbish timing, almost one week into my TFR & I so want to do this! I ideally wanted to do 2 months, but think even one would make a huge difference. I'm currently 2 stone heavier than when we last met & I don't really want him to see me this heavy. My dilemma is how can I stall him about another 4 weeks without sounding weird, disinterested or like i have someone else on the go!
I've not been in a relationship for a couple of years & my last date was around a year back. I like the guy, but don't want to come across as being vain & preoccupied with weight, it's just I want to feel confident when I meet him not insecure over my crappy weight & I'm hoping 1 month from now if I work at this my weight with roughly be at the point it was when we originally met, so no "big" surprises! Oh and he's pretty sporty & health conscious just for good measure! Lol
So any suggestions on how a girl dedicated to doing TFR for at least another month can stall?
Long story short he had wanted to break up, but circumstances dictated it wasn't so simple at that time. We spoke for almost a year & tbh then I let things go a little as didn't see any point.
Last week he messaged me to say they broke up at the of last year & since then he has been sorting things on the home & job front & asking how I was etc & tonight he has messaged again asking if he can take me for a drink next week!
It is such rubbish timing, almost one week into my TFR & I so want to do this! I ideally wanted to do 2 months, but think even one would make a huge difference. I'm currently 2 stone heavier than when we last met & I don't really want him to see me this heavy. My dilemma is how can I stall him about another 4 weeks without sounding weird, disinterested or like i have someone else on the go!
I've not been in a relationship for a couple of years & my last date was around a year back. I like the guy, but don't want to come across as being vain & preoccupied with weight, it's just I want to feel confident when I meet him not insecure over my crappy weight & I'm hoping 1 month from now if I work at this my weight with roughly be at the point it was when we originally met, so no "big" surprises! Oh and he's pretty sporty & health conscious just for good measure! Lol
So any suggestions on how a girl dedicated to doing TFR for at least another month can stall?
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