parfittaroles said:Dyjhiw your midwife is insensitive & nearly makes you cry x
oh no, why???
parfittaroles said:Dyjhiw your midwife is insensitive & nearly makes you cry x
Jess<3 said:DYJHIW you really want to finish your cross stitch but when it comes to it i get tons stuff to do then cba to do it!
I think I'm just being sensitive she said I have to be consultant led so I can't give birth in my local hospital and will have to go to the hospital 45 minutes away. I asked if I could still go to them for my weekly blood tests (i have a low platelet count) and she said no it was tough. She then said I might have a transfusion and that I can't have an epidural, meaning if I have to have an emergency Caesarian they'd have to knock me out. She could see I was upset by it all but she was very blunt & basically told me to get a grip as i'm only 18 weeks then sent me away
Sorry for the long post!
I'm exactly the same with my knitting really want to do it but just can't find the momentum to pick it up!!!
The way they spoke to you isn't acceptable and you should definately make a complaint via PALS.
Medically though they can refuse to have you give birth at a specific centre if you dont meet their criteria - its not so much policy as a legal thing. Midwife led centres and other types of birthing units have strict criteria that theyre allowed to operate under, and aren't insured for anyone outside that criteria. So the centre would be in breech of its insurance and the midwives could potentially be struck off for operating outside of safe criteria.
It's not much comfort to you I'm sure, but it really is based on medical risk and although the midwife has explained it in a shockingly bad way, the decision will have been made with yours and little ones safety at heart xx
Dyjhiw people start threads seemingly asking for advice, people take the time to reply and give them advice and then they don't respond at all half the time! Not necessarily on here of course
I think I'm just being sensitive she said I have to be consultant led so I can't give birth in my local hospital and will have to go to the hospital 45 minutes away. I asked if I could still go to them for my weekly blood tests (i have a low platelet count) and she said no it was tough. She then said I might have a transfusion and that I can't have an epidural, meaning if I have to have an emergency Caesarian they'd have to knock me out. She could see I was upset by it all but she was very blunt & basically told me to get a grip as i'm only 18 weeks then sent me away
Sorry for the long post!
jezzi999 said:The way they spoke to you isn't acceptable and you should definately make a complaint via PALS.
Medically though they can refuse to have you give birth at a specific centre if you dont meet their criteria - its not so much policy as a legal thing. Midwife led centres and other types of birthing units have strict criteria that theyre allowed to operate under, and aren't insured for anyone outside that criteria. So the centre would be in breech of its insurance and the midwives could potentially be struck off for operating outside of safe criteria.
It's not much comfort to you I'm sure, but it really is based on medical risk and although the midwife has explained it in a shockingly bad way, the decision will have been made with yours and little ones safety at heart xx
Happy Holidays said:I find this so annoying.
I find nurses are rather blunt & to the point & matter of fact, I know a few nurses and they're all the same, it doesn't mean they're not caring, they're just different types of people. .
Thanks I know it's for our own good that I can't give birth there as it is only a midwifery let unit. I was just upset at the way she told me. I thought they were suppose to be sensitive but almost every one I've met there has been short with me maybe they just find 1st time mums annoying because they don't know enough!
Ironically I'm a student nurse lol. I'm studying learning disabilities though, so maybe that's why I don't relate to all these other nurses lol
*Emsie* said:Dyjhiw people start threads seemingly asking for advice, people take the time to reply and give them advice and then they don't respond at all half the time! Not necessarily on here of course
jezzi999 said:Or throw a strop cos it's not the answer they wanted!
jaylou said:Exactamondo!!
Jenna88 said:Well it will be awfully sad when said individual remains overweight as they can't handle constructive criticism and advice from people who are trying to help. It amazes me why people ask a question when they're not prepared for the answer.