Sensitive?? More like extremely well restrained!Thank you am glad it wasn't just me being sensitive. Well done on SOTW and SOTM
..and thanks (aw shucks lol)
Sensitive?? More like extremely well restrained!Thank you am glad it wasn't just me being sensitive. Well done on SOTW and SOTM
It gets easier when you have won five previous Slimmer of the Months
Whether you have one stone or five stone to lose it still means you are unhappy with your body x
I'm definitely of the "don't want to talk about it" camp cos I don't comment on others appearances and wish they wouldn't on mine. It does set me off. I'm losing weight for me and hate it when people notice. I even had someone say the other day "you're always going on and off diets and losing and gaining weight aren't you?". I felt like punching her lights out. Whilst its true I just wouldn't dream of saying something like that to someone. In the past it would have affected the way I ate but luckily I seem to be getting better. I'm doing this for me and my health, not for others who think I should which is how it's always been in the past since I can remember. I think it's something which is very personal to each person and I'm happy to say I'd rather not talk about it. I'm perfectly happy talking on here where it's never about how you look.
And then on the other hand we regularly see threads on here from people who are upset because other people haven't commented and don't seem to have noticed!
"Other People" just can't win, can they?
It would make you feel much less awkward if you could just put yourself in their position for a moment. If you were them, what would you say? If someone is offering a compliment, even though it might not be quite what we wanted to hear, it is kind and polite to accept it graciously - just as you would want someone else to do if it were you giving the compliment.
*Emsie* said:I hate it at the moment because after getting to target I have gained a bit of weight back and now trying to work on that and am concious of what people may be thinking like oooh she is going to put it all back on etc and hopefully I'm not its just learning a different thing for me that have never done in the past (maintaining or trying to!)
I'm not saying they should have said that to you but do you think they meant to be rude though? People who have a battle with smoking probably get comments like that all the time and though its not personal to their appearance it must do their head in too. I'm not trying to say you were being oversensitive as I would have been gutted to just trying to look at it from the other side x
Thank you for understanding where I was coming from with my comment and yes we definitely are complicated creatures xThink you're right too cos what she said is actually the truth and I have yo yoed up and down all my life. So really don't think she was being rude just stating the obvious. It's just maybe that I don't state the obvious cos I'm never sure what peoples feelings are on discussing personal issues. It's just such a minefield and who knows what upsets people depending on what they are feeling at the time. We are such complicated creatures aren't we and I guess sometimes people can't do right for doing wrong!
Pleased to say I was a bit more gracious in my response today as I took note of what all you people said I actually said allowed 'yeh, thanks' when told id lost weight!
In saying that, this is the battle other people do face as I worked with all five of the people who have mentioned my weight to me in June and I maybe weigh a pound or 2 less than I did then yet it's like they've just noticed haha! Made me chuckle thinking about it given some of the comments made earlier in this thread lol!
*Emsie* said:Its when people say I must feel more confident it bugs me because in lots of ways I don't and actually don't like more about my body now .
And now I know there are things I can't do sod all about at least before I thought I could diet and improve my bodTotally get this one.