Deezer
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Dont have the cake!!!
You'll regret it!!!!
Think of how empowered and amazing you'll feel tomorrow!!!
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You'll regret it!!!!
Think of how empowered and amazing you'll feel tomorrow!!!
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Galorious
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I think you're all right. No cake. It's not like it's a special birthday and he's chosen a cake I make and have in the house frequently. He won't mind.
I just need to get my head round a few things. I faced a similar dilema just after starting LL. It was my parent's 50th Anniversary and we had them a party in my Dad's care home. He was sooo sweet and my mum was so aggitated about the whole thing. They were both sliding into dementia and it was affecting them in different ways. I considered it, decided they'd never have another 50th Anniversary and so I had cake. A little slice. They never had another anniversary as Dad passed away a few months later. Would it have made any difference if I hadn't had cake? Maybe not but I'll always KNOW I shared one last meal with them so I don't regret it. The hard part is accepting that isn't always what's going to happen. It's a judgment call. Sometimes it is a one off never to be repeated occassion and you make that trade off. Today isn't.
However, I will be jamming chocolate cake down the throats of every visitor through the door tonight so it isn't sitting in the kitchen calling my name for days!
Just back from my first Pilates class. Hilarious! Had visions of me bursting the giant ball when I sat on, or it shooting out from under my bottom and me crashing onto the floor. Neither happened! My balance is shocking! Every muscle round my tummy and bottom is trembling now but I really enjoyed it and didn't feel hungry or think about food for a whole hour!
Hope you are all enjoying your day and thanks for all the support!
xx
I just need to get my head round a few things. I faced a similar dilema just after starting LL. It was my parent's 50th Anniversary and we had them a party in my Dad's care home. He was sooo sweet and my mum was so aggitated about the whole thing. They were both sliding into dementia and it was affecting them in different ways. I considered it, decided they'd never have another 50th Anniversary and so I had cake. A little slice. They never had another anniversary as Dad passed away a few months later. Would it have made any difference if I hadn't had cake? Maybe not but I'll always KNOW I shared one last meal with them so I don't regret it. The hard part is accepting that isn't always what's going to happen. It's a judgment call. Sometimes it is a one off never to be repeated occassion and you make that trade off. Today isn't.
However, I will be jamming chocolate cake down the throats of every visitor through the door tonight so it isn't sitting in the kitchen calling my name for days!
Just back from my first Pilates class. Hilarious! Had visions of me bursting the giant ball when I sat on, or it shooting out from under my bottom and me crashing onto the floor. Neither happened! My balance is shocking! Every muscle round my tummy and bottom is trembling now but I really enjoyed it and didn't feel hungry or think about food for a whole hour!
Hope you are all enjoying your day and thanks for all the support!
xx
Deezer
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P.s..... How was the pilates....
I really want to do it but I'm scared lol!!! Feel like I'm still too big and I'll embarress myself!!!
Mrs.S.
Gold Member
Hi galorious!
Just read through your diary - you're doing so well!
I'm on day 2 and going ok so far! I've never done a vlcd so no idea what to expect.
I like you am a total cake junkie and I'd do anything for it: sell my soul/children/kidney - you name it and I'd do it for cake!! I think you're really brave for facing the temptation, but even stronger if you manage to say no!
Anyway we done and good luck for your journey xx
Just read through your diary - you're doing so well!
I'm on day 2 and going ok so far! I've never done a vlcd so no idea what to expect.
I like you am a total cake junkie and I'd do anything for it: sell my soul/children/kidney - you name it and I'd do it for cake!! I think you're really brave for facing the temptation, but even stronger if you manage to say no!
Anyway we done and good luck for your journey xx
Galorious
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Charlie wanted a Chinese takeaway for his birthday tea. I ordered chicken and mushrooms. Only managed about a quarter of it then wasn't hungry so I stopped. Cake still sitting uncut in the kitchen as he's off to play his new XBox game.
Deezer, pilates was great fun. I did yoga when I was 18 stone and nearly suffocated myself in my own cleavage! Pilates has some similarities. First thing she did was bring out the big gym balls and I was scared to sit on it in case it exploded under my ass or shot out from under me! But no, I made myself sit on it and I was fine! There were all shapes, sizes and abilities there. It isn't a jump about sweating and puffing class, but it is hard work and no doubt I'll feel it tomorrow. My legs were trembling and my balance was really bad. I'm hoping it will help me centre my balance a bit better. I've been worried about it since I saw photos of a girl on the LL site who had lost 10st and you could see her centre of balance was off from having to balance the extra weight for years. Also, my belly is shocking. No muscle tone at all. I felt that the wrong muscles were working today, I could feel it in my thighs and back rather than my stomach but she assured me my stomach muscles will start to respond eventually. I'd say go for it! Work at your own pace and go look in the mirror - you're pretty totty these days!
xx
Deezer, pilates was great fun. I did yoga when I was 18 stone and nearly suffocated myself in my own cleavage! Pilates has some similarities. First thing she did was bring out the big gym balls and I was scared to sit on it in case it exploded under my ass or shot out from under me! But no, I made myself sit on it and I was fine! There were all shapes, sizes and abilities there. It isn't a jump about sweating and puffing class, but it is hard work and no doubt I'll feel it tomorrow. My legs were trembling and my balance was really bad. I'm hoping it will help me centre my balance a bit better. I've been worried about it since I saw photos of a girl on the LL site who had lost 10st and you could see her centre of balance was off from having to balance the extra weight for years. Also, my belly is shocking. No muscle tone at all. I felt that the wrong muscles were working today, I could feel it in my thighs and back rather than my stomach but she assured me my stomach muscles will start to respond eventually. I'd say go for it! Work at your own pace and go look in the mirror - you're pretty totty these days!
xx
Loopeylou
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Have loved reading your diary. My MIL went into a care home 16 months ago due to dementia.
We had the most traumatic 18 months prior to this and although hard making the decision it was the right thing for her and the family too.
She has a severe form and was in a care home 2 years after diagnosis, she can't communicate at all. So sad, the boys have all had to mourn the loss of her already if that makes sense.
Wishing you loads of luck with your S&S journey and look forward to seeing those lb's melting away xx
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We had the most traumatic 18 months prior to this and although hard making the decision it was the right thing for her and the family too.
She has a severe form and was in a care home 2 years after diagnosis, she can't communicate at all. So sad, the boys have all had to mourn the loss of her already if that makes sense.
Wishing you loads of luck with your S&S journey and look forward to seeing those lb's melting away xx
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Galorious
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Hi MrsS. Cake. Oh blimey I live and breathe it! If I could own a wee tea room somewhere I'd be so happy! But I can't bake and not taste. I'd hate to serve up something that wasn't right. Although when I'm experimenting I often serve up dodgy cakes to my kids but they think I can do no wrong! I'm trying to balance my massive baking book collection with some healthy food cookbooks and learn to love cooking as much. Edinburgh has so many amazing bakeries and tea rooms. Temptation around every corner. My goal will be learing how to get the balance when I'm back on food ie if I'm going out for cake and coffee then no carbs with the rest of my meals.
If you've never done a VLCD before then you'll be amazed at how quickly you feel a difference! By the end of the first week, you'll see a difference too. You lose that bloated look and once you get over the first few days and aren't hungry, the freedom from food feels amazing.
x
Good luck, keep posting and coming on for advice and inspiration. It helps.
If you've never done a VLCD before then you'll be amazed at how quickly you feel a difference! By the end of the first week, you'll see a difference too. You lose that bloated look and once you get over the first few days and aren't hungry, the freedom from food feels amazing.
x
Good luck, keep posting and coming on for advice and inspiration. It helps.
Galorious
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Hi Loopylou, dementia is such an awful disease. I totally understand what you mean about mourning someone whilst they're still there. They aren't the same person so it is just like they've already gone. The only comfort you can take is that your MIL won't really be aware of what is going on. It's also difficult knowing what to do for your kids. You don't want to put them through anything distressing. It's a hard time, my heart goes out to you xx
My dad had vascular dementia caused by the breakdown of veins in his brain. He went through a few weeks of frustration but then he got to the point where he was just so happy most of the time. He'd start a sentance and only get about 4 or 5 proper words out before he lost the rest and they came out as total gibberish, but he'd just laugh. He was so delightful. Mum, on the other hand, is still having time when she's aware that she's struggling and finds it totally frustrating and takes it out on everyone around her.
How are you getting on with the diet?
xx
My dad had vascular dementia caused by the breakdown of veins in his brain. He went through a few weeks of frustration but then he got to the point where he was just so happy most of the time. He'd start a sentance and only get about 4 or 5 proper words out before he lost the rest and they came out as total gibberish, but he'd just laugh. He was so delightful. Mum, on the other hand, is still having time when she's aware that she's struggling and finds it totally frustrating and takes it out on everyone around her.
How are you getting on with the diet?
xx
Galorious
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Captains log....
Nah, it's day 5. Not sure how I'm feeling today. I need to make an effort to have my first drink of the day as soon as I get up. I'm still not sure if I'm hungry or not, or indeed, if I'm in ketosis. I ate last night although I stuck to chicken and beef and veg and didn't have much.
I did, however, cave into the cake. It was too dense and fudgy and the frosting too sweet. Son ate his, I had a couple of forkfuls that came back up. It's a dense and sickly enough cake at the best of times, but I think it was also a little underdone. My stomach couldn't take it. Still, at least it's put me off having any more for a while, and it'll take them a few days to eat their way through it in small slices so I won't have to bake again for a while!
It was one of those cakes I used to love. Most people couldn't eat a full slice so we nicknamed it Chocolate Defeat cake. Yet we used to munch our way through it and in fact, sometimes we had it with not just the buttercream, but also a layer of fondant icing if it was to be a decorated cake. It was a concocted from 2 different recipes and was intense to say the least. I think I'm going to have to find a much lighter recipe. Funny how tastes change when you get the chance to step back from food for a while.
So todays ups and downs have been reversed....
DOWN: a slip up of some chocolate cake
UP: The flippin' chocolate cake again.
I'll learn....eventually!
xx
Nah, it's day 5. Not sure how I'm feeling today. I need to make an effort to have my first drink of the day as soon as I get up. I'm still not sure if I'm hungry or not, or indeed, if I'm in ketosis. I ate last night although I stuck to chicken and beef and veg and didn't have much.
I did, however, cave into the cake. It was too dense and fudgy and the frosting too sweet. Son ate his, I had a couple of forkfuls that came back up. It's a dense and sickly enough cake at the best of times, but I think it was also a little underdone. My stomach couldn't take it. Still, at least it's put me off having any more for a while, and it'll take them a few days to eat their way through it in small slices so I won't have to bake again for a while!
It was one of those cakes I used to love. Most people couldn't eat a full slice so we nicknamed it Chocolate Defeat cake. Yet we used to munch our way through it and in fact, sometimes we had it with not just the buttercream, but also a layer of fondant icing if it was to be a decorated cake. It was a concocted from 2 different recipes and was intense to say the least. I think I'm going to have to find a much lighter recipe. Funny how tastes change when you get the chance to step back from food for a while.
So todays ups and downs have been reversed....
DOWN: a slip up of some chocolate cake
UP: The flippin' chocolate cake again.
I'll learn....eventually!
xx
Deezer
Gold Member
Loopeylou
Gold Member
I say the cake is a lessoned learned hun, just shows how you've changed 
I'm doing really well thanks, can't believe the weight loss in 4 weeks and back into my 16's .... Happy days!!
I'm off to Florida in June, last time I went I was a size 26 this year I'll be a 14/16 wohoo
Hope you have a great day xxx
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I'm doing really well thanks, can't believe the weight loss in 4 weeks and back into my 16's .... Happy days!!
I'm off to Florida in June, last time I went I was a size 26 this year I'll be a 14/16 wohoo
Hope you have a great day xxx
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Hey! Galorious, just read through your diary and wish you well on your journey. I've been there done and also done a similar thing to cake-gate (despite the great advice I was also given by Miniminers!!). Put it behind you but don't do what I did recently and allow one slip up to lead to another. I'm on Day 3 of SnS after switching from CWP which I spent 2011 on and off on although managed mid Dec 2011 to Jan 2012. I can relate to getting to day 3 or 4 and then caving in as I did that last year on CWP. I found I always had and excuse, and for me it is my habit of making excuses for myself that send me back to square one and then worse binge mode because I then get depressed. The depression takes over (or in my case probably more feeling sorry for myself). However, the other day I decided that the motivation from new starters (or re-starters) who got through the first few days or week or so was the motivation I needed as well as the motivation from others who have stuck to their plan since January or several weeks.
What triggered me out of my binge mode was telling myself "If I had stuck to it I would be at goal and working on maintaing" and also "If they can do it so can I"!! It is probably no less easier for those who stick to plan 100% for those who have a blip and continue. So I hope like me, you won't let this one blip but you back to square one and instead continue given your great start. x
What triggered me out of my binge mode was telling myself "If I had stuck to it I would be at goal and working on maintaing" and also "If they can do it so can I"!! It is probably no less easier for those who stick to plan 100% for those who have a blip and continue. So I hope like me, you won't let this one blip but you back to square one and instead continue given your great start. x
Galorious
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Dire weekend. Well, weekend was alright, diet was dire. I found myself picking all weekend. My TOTM is dragging on and I found myself struggling with the same weekend issues I struggled with when I did LL. Boredom. Distraction. And not drinking enough. I was out on Saturday and did a bit of clothes shopping with my 16 year old daughter. I thought seeing nice clothes would inspire me. And they did a bit but we popped up to my sisters to pick up my son's birthday pressie and she had laid on afternoon tea. I had the tiniest sliver of cake, but it set me off picking. Sunday, the kids went to their dads and I tackled the cleaning. I just got frustrated and felt like I was just moving piles of crap around and so I kept distracting myself with cups of tea. I did ok till the evening, then I picked all night. My son was upset when he came in from his dads. It's becoming a weekend ritual. My son was 6 months old when his dad left. He doesn't know him although he spent every Sunday together for years. They just don't want to go with him now but he won't accept that. My son starts feeling unwell and getting aggitated sometime after tea on a Saturday and comes in on Sunday annoyed, frustrated and angry. He'd asked his dad for a specific present and got 2 t-shirts, the same present he gets every birthday and Christmas. He was gutted. Took me hours to settle him. Then of course, I'm upset and frustrated and I start to pick. It's a cycle we HAVE to break as it isn't good for any of us.
Upshot is, my loss is far less than I would have hoped for, but it is a loss. I know there are things I can do, I just need to do them. Back at work today, hopefully son is settled too.
UP: my Blood Pressure
Down: my weight - a little!
Upshot is, my loss is far less than I would have hoped for, but it is a loss. I know there are things I can do, I just need to do them. Back at work today, hopefully son is settled too.
UP: my Blood Pressure
Down: my weight - a little!
Honey, I do feel for you! And well done on the loss no matter if it's little, it is a loss.
What may help is reminding yourself that eating, picking, nibbling away at food will not help how your son is feeling about his dad. It certainly won't make his Dad change his way! (been there done that with an ex!) and whatever else going on the stresses we have as simply being parents let alone all the other stuff eating any food even low calorie food will not make them disappear. I went through the same week last week and the week before and simply couldn't get past day 1. Once I managed to get past day 1 (is spent all day shopping, mostly window shopping!) I didnt have my first pack until evening. Again day 2 I got distracted to keep to plan. You know the drill, you've done it before. It has to "click" in your head before you can get started on a vlcd even SnS where the meal packs make it more do-able (well for me than CD).
As ever you'll have the support on here. When you are wavering come on. It hasnt' always worked for me in the past particuarly when I am in in binge cycle but I can save just that moment when you feel you want to eat to stop you to think. Hope this helps even a tiny bit. x
What may help is reminding yourself that eating, picking, nibbling away at food will not help how your son is feeling about his dad. It certainly won't make his Dad change his way! (been there done that with an ex!) and whatever else going on the stresses we have as simply being parents let alone all the other stuff eating any food even low calorie food will not make them disappear. I went through the same week last week and the week before and simply couldn't get past day 1. Once I managed to get past day 1 (is spent all day shopping, mostly window shopping!) I didnt have my first pack until evening. Again day 2 I got distracted to keep to plan. You know the drill, you've done it before. It has to "click" in your head before you can get started on a vlcd even SnS where the meal packs make it more do-able (well for me than CD).
As ever you'll have the support on here. When you are wavering come on. It hasnt' always worked for me in the past particuarly when I am in in binge cycle but I can save just that moment when you feel you want to eat to stop you to think. Hope this helps even a tiny bit. x
