Oh Kam, I am so glad you talked to your DH, we don't always give our men the credit they deserve do we? Sometimes mine really surprises me by understanding when I don't expect him to - having said that sometimes he is on a different planet entirely!LOL.
I think you have to remember that although your bod is not how you would like it to be, your Dh just sees 'you', the woman he loves, ok you've been through a lot but he has still got you and that is the main thing. I think it is brilliant that he is happy for you to have surgery if that is what you want, but reading between the lines it is for you not him. he loves you whatever and if that doesn't put a smile on your face nothing will! Good luck at the docs, you really should not have to be putting up with this headache stiil 14 days is too long. make sure your Gp realises how bad it is - DO NOT BE BRAVE about it - tell it like it is.
let us know how you get on. Love and hugs