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Help/Advice needed

It's my brother in law's 30th birthday next Saturday & the extended family is going for an Italian meal at a friends restaurant.
I have several problems:
1) My wardrobe is 14/16. I am 15 1/2 stones. I clearly don't fit in anything. I'm surviving in leggings & baggies for work which would be inappropriate to wear. I don't want to spend £ on an outfit I never want to fit in/wear again.
2) Everyone will be eating and expecting me to eat. I don't want to. I was going to have grilled chicken but really don't want to. I don't want to create a bad impression to his extended family but what else can I do?? I would be offending their friends who own the restaurant if I ate nothing.
I'm at the point where I don't want to go at all now but don't want to let my partner down who would then go without me.
Opinions please lol....
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S: 17st12lb C: 16st12lb G: 11st6lb BMI: 38.1 Loss: 1st0lb(5.6%)
Id pull a sicky, im sure your boyfriend will understand and there really is no point eating anything at this stage as it can be so hard to stick to after that (trust me I know).. hope it works out whatever you decide to do x
Thank you. To be honest I have a disability directly related to my bowel so I have an excuse not to eat I suppose. I'm just concerned I'm letting people down.
If I pulled a sicky, it'd be really obvious...
Suppose I'm going to have to go and sit there drinking water faking a sore tummy all miserable in my PJ's lol.


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S: 20st7lb C: 15st2lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 36.4 Loss: 5st5lb(26.13%)
Hello Louise,

I feel for your dilemma.

If you feel that you could be there and that not eating for yourself would not be an issue, then how about a little white lie? Perhaps you could say that you have had a tummy bug and that you have been advised by your GP to only have water/hydration salts for 24hrs? - that would also tackle the fact you were only drinking water ;)
Clothes may be a little difficult, do you have any charity shops close by where you might pick up something cost-effective. Failing that what about the discount stores like Matalan, QS, Peacocks, Primark?

Love Myr xxx
I might try that. Could always say my bowel is playing up. Thanks!!
I just think buying something in a size 20 would be psychologically damaging in terms of my diet, moreso than being in a restaurant.


Eyes on the Prize!!
S: 16st13lb C: 16st3lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 39 Loss: 0st10lb(4.22%)
For once you must be strong and be selfish and do what is right for you. There is a reason you have chosen to forgo food altogether its not a decision made lightly and each day completed is a huge victory.
Thanks hun. Feel I'd be giving in having chicken even if it does keep me in ketosis. Think it'd be detrimental to me to be there & not eat never mind trying to get dressed to go.
Suppose I'll have to think of a way to get out of it or go to support my partner & feign illness.

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