Here we go (again) :-(

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Hello everyone,

I started Exante this morning. My husband and i have been trying to conceive for 8 months now. Went to see a fertility specialist just to get checked out as i am in my thirties. He basically told me that I was too fat to have a baby and that even if there was a problem he wouldn't treat me. I expected my weight to be an issue and that was the first thing i said to him. However, he still felt the need to tell me "just to lose weight". As though it had never occurred to me before to lose weight!! He then more or less told me that if hubby and i get pregnant, i will likely miscarry because i am so fat.

Anyway, a week later having indulged myself with sobbing like a child I have decided to try and do something about it. I lost 4 stone before on Cambridge a few years ago but then met my husband and got "happy fat" again!

I am hoping that keeping a diary will help with the motivation this time around!

So far i haven't cheated... lets hope i can keep it up!

:)
 
Welcome along, all I can say is what a w***k**!

Get through the first 3 days and you’ll be flying. You’ve done this before and can succeed again.

I have PCOS and was told I’d never have kids as don’t ovulate. 10 years later I have a 8 and 6 year old. I lost 4 stone living low GI, had my daughter and put on 6 stone, then did CWP and fell with my son 8 weeks later.

Keep the hope lovely x
 
Hi, welcome! WTH is wrong with some health care providers? Maybe tough love or something? Or just lack of bed-side manners and empathy. Good work having already started on Exante. Let us know how you go and we will cheer you along this journey :)
 
Thanks everyone- i feel like it is even more of a mountain than it usually does. I am a very strong person usually but for some reason this chap being so appalled by my weight has really got to me.

As you say, onwards and upwards- really appreciate the support. My family try to help but when my size 10 baby sister tells me how awful she looks i really do have to try very hard not to throttle her!!

:)
 
End of day two and I have managed to stick pretty much 100%. I am doing the man plan so 800 calories a day. Have just tried konjack noodles with dinner and I think they may save my life! Bulked it out and made a small meal look much more substantial.

Feeling really positive today. Hoping day three will crack it and I'll be flying. :)
 
Hi Boggle :)
What a horrible doctor! There are ways and means of passing along information! But what a wonderful incentive you’ve got 😀 Wishing you all the best, sounds like you’ve made a great start :) xx
 
Hey hope your well, I’m so sorry to hear what a tw*t the doctor was but I had exactly the same reaction from my doctor so I know the feeling, makes you feel like it’s your fault I also have pcos and a blocked tube but after trying for 5 years and no help we went with private help and not once was my weight mentioned and we conceived I have a lively nearly 3 year old, please don’t listen to the negative people and good luck on your journey x
 
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Hey hope your well, I’m so sorry to hear what a tw*t the doctor was but I had exactly the same reaction from my doctor so I know the feeling, makes you feel like it’s your fault I also have pcos and a blocked tube but after trying for 5 years and no help we went with private help and not once was my weight mentioned and we conceived I have a lively nearly 3 year old, please don’t listen to the negative people and good luck on your journey x
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Thank you so much. Yes it makes you sure it is your fault! He actually was a private doc as well!! Said if I got pregnant I would be a high risk of miscarriage. He may as well have just said "if you miscarry it's your fault".
Anyway- it's good to hear that there are good outcomes out there!
 
Has a pretty good day today. Reeeeaallly wanted a massive Starbucks cream this afternoon but managed to drive past without stopping. Had a bit of cheese when I got in from work as I was starving but apart from that on plan.

Quite proud of myself actually. Feels like I should already see results though. Sadly not. :)
 
You're doing great, Boggle. Any stir away from tempations and learning how to deal with them is a step forward! Keep on going, hun, you're doing bril!
 
Day 4- pretty good day. I am however going to murder the hubby if he doesn't stop talking about how hungry he is! He is cutting back as well and you would think his throat had been cut!! I shall be a good wife and bite my tongue. Blunt force trauma is probably excessive. :)
 
Boggle said:
Day 4- pretty good day. I am however going to murder the hubby if he doesn't stop talking about how hungry he is! He is cutting back as well and you would think his throat had been cut!! I shall be a good wife and bite my tongue. Blunt force trauma is probably excessive. :)
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🤣 I felt like the same with my husband who came back with a kebab and chips and kept offering me saying oh 1 bite won’t hurt go on have a bite, honestly felt like biting his hand and saying ok 1 bite doesn’t hurt Lol men don’t get it
 
Day six. Did ok yesterday and my "cheat" meal on Friday night was lettuce fajitas. Not in ketosis which is odd I think. Just resisted the usual largesse of a Saturday morning breakfast and had a shake.

I can't decide whether to weigh myself. I feel like I have lost weight but I wanted to do first weigh after 14 days. It's weird how you become almost scared of the scales!!

Decisions decisions!
 
It was all going far too well. Made low carb Bolognese to freeze and batch up and have with courgetti. Basically grazed on the ingredients and the pot all afternoon. In such a bad mood with myself. Just so silly. :mad:
 
If it’s all low carb don’t be to hard on yourself.

It’s a journey mostly of mind control rather than physical hunger.

It’s a blip and tomorrow is another day
 
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