fillymum
synful soul
Yesterday a very elderly friend of ours was admitted into hospital. We were with her. She has pneumonia and is quite ill.
During the 10 hours we waited for a bed she started to talk about a John she knows. It was John this and John that and John's lent me his mobile phone blah, blah, blah.
It transpires that this John is the guy who delivers her butane bottles. He has been calling round at the house on a regular basis and even though I speak to her everyday she hasn't mentioned it.
Yesterday I spoke to him and told him what was happening with her and that she would come to recuperate at our home and that he was welcome to come and see her. He was quite indignant and brusk with me . He said no, no she can come and stay in an apartment I have in town. I rent it out but she can have it for nothing. I very politely told him that was not on and was not going to happen.
Talking to her later she mentioned that he has several houses he rents out duhhhh am I being wicked here or do I see a pattern emerging ??
As we left her she asked me to ring John and give him her love.
When we got home I rang her friends to let them all know what was happening and one of them expressed some concern about this John !! By now alarm bells are ringing. I rang him to let him know how the old lady was and unfortunately woke him up. It was very late when we got home, but what the hell. He started to tell me what good friends he is with the old lady so I thanked him for all he has done for her and his kindness to her and told him were she is if he wants to visit. He said he is too busy today. Hmmmmmm.
Now the old lady allows everyone to think she has no family which is not true. She has a niece who obviously will inherit the house. She has no money and struggles on her pension.
Do you think we are just being bad minded thinking that he is in there with an eye to the main chance ??
He is a 40 something year old Romanian man who has told her he is divorced but made no mention of the woman he lives with. To contact him the number he has given the old lady comes up as Ingrid when he rings her. He was in bed asleep with her when I rang . He asked her to pass him a pen so that is how I know.
There is nothing wrong with any of the above and he could genuinely be the nicest most caring man in the world but somehow it doesn't feel right.
What can I do to protect her if in fact she needs protecting.
During the 10 hours we waited for a bed she started to talk about a John she knows. It was John this and John that and John's lent me his mobile phone blah, blah, blah.
It transpires that this John is the guy who delivers her butane bottles. He has been calling round at the house on a regular basis and even though I speak to her everyday she hasn't mentioned it.
Yesterday I spoke to him and told him what was happening with her and that she would come to recuperate at our home and that he was welcome to come and see her. He was quite indignant and brusk with me . He said no, no she can come and stay in an apartment I have in town. I rent it out but she can have it for nothing. I very politely told him that was not on and was not going to happen.
Talking to her later she mentioned that he has several houses he rents out duhhhh am I being wicked here or do I see a pattern emerging ??
As we left her she asked me to ring John and give him her love.
When we got home I rang her friends to let them all know what was happening and one of them expressed some concern about this John !! By now alarm bells are ringing. I rang him to let him know how the old lady was and unfortunately woke him up. It was very late when we got home, but what the hell. He started to tell me what good friends he is with the old lady so I thanked him for all he has done for her and his kindness to her and told him were she is if he wants to visit. He said he is too busy today. Hmmmmmm.
Now the old lady allows everyone to think she has no family which is not true. She has a niece who obviously will inherit the house. She has no money and struggles on her pension.
Do you think we are just being bad minded thinking that he is in there with an eye to the main chance ??
He is a 40 something year old Romanian man who has told her he is divorced but made no mention of the woman he lives with. To contact him the number he has given the old lady comes up as Ingrid when he rings her. He was in bed asleep with her when I rang . He asked her to pass him a pen so that is how I know.
There is nothing wrong with any of the above and he could genuinely be the nicest most caring man in the world but somehow it doesn't feel right.
What can I do to protect her if in fact she needs protecting.