I know to succeed in shedding the weight via whatever method be it dieting or surgery that you have to be in the right frame of mind but how exactly? How do you know whether this has happened and if not how do you start?
I plan ahead and begin cutting down on carbs. Preparation and planning I find is key.
I get husband to take new photos and I do new body measurements.
I write down list of things I want to be able to do in the future and how I am feeling both physically and mentally.
I have everything ready to begin on a certain date...sometimes I have messed up the start day and has not gone as planned and I just keep going with the intention of doing better the next day and so on...
Gradually over the following days
my head begins to shift focus on where I want to be in a few months time, my cravings for sugar begin to subside due to less carb intake and this help me to get my head back into gear.
I find I have practised this so often now it does not take me very long to get in the mood for dieting.
Dunno how to explain that one, for me something has just changed, thinking and treating food in a whole differant way. Had lots of therapy mind you. I'm liking me loads for the first time in my life, and I think thats got a lot to do with it. Agree with all of the above too. I plan everything as much as I can, take loads of piccies. And minis!!! Can't put into words how much it has helped me
Thanks for your replies. It really hit me today that I need to get this weight off once and for all. The sweat was running off me on a winter's day, then I went into a cafe and the people I was with suggested we sit at the table and chairs secured to the floor. I joked to one of them sitting opposite if they wanted to swap as it was a tight squeeze and laughed but it was a half-hearted joke and it wasn't funny.
I found myself silently praying that I would be able to get out again as the embarrassment of being stuck in the damn seat would have killed me.:cry:
For me, I had to hit rock bottom. I had to reach a place where I felt no hope, no love, no future. And then I had to open up to the idea that I was wrong. I then started pulling myself out of it, making friends, building a life. THEN I was ready for LL.
Much of that may just have been how it affected me, but I do think for many people, it has to be accepted that you can't keep going as you are - that you have to do something real to stop what for me was a slide into oblivion.
I always tell people to start with a list of things they want to do, but feel they can't. And imagine how it would be to do them.
I think a lot of the time, we try but expect to fail - so it's important to expect to succeed to improve chances.
It took me ages to get into the right head space and start losing weight properly, and I just kept trying (and failing) until it happened. I knew that it happened because I stopped failing, I also stopped being so obsessed and uptight and worried about my weight and got on with it and it felt like a natural and enjoyable process rather than a forced and uncomfortable one!
For me, it's a conscious decision. I gained some weight very quickly (junk eating and no exercise) and took a good long look in the mirror and said "enough is enough". For me, that put my head in the right place to sit down and plan my attack; what to eat, what not to eat, how to do it, how to exercise, and most importantly, I set my goals realistically. I also went to my local GP and requested full blood tests to see my starting point with cholesterol, triglycerides, etc, so I could compare as time went along. So I suppose I just got very serious about it.