On what should have been a special day, a little comment has really upset me today.
There was a family gathering and my sister's fiance's parents came along, although my sister and fiance are on holiday. I don't see his parents that much, as they are quite overbearing and inappropriate at times, which was confirmed today...
My sister's future FIL walked into the room, and very loudly in front of everyone said to me "Wow Sarah, you've lost a lot of weight, you were very tubby before weren't you? You needed to lose all that tubbiness!" I've had lots of people commenting on my weight and that I look good, which is fine, but the fact he said very publicly I was fat upset me. Yes, I know I was overweight, but I don't think people should say it outright to someone unless they truly know that person and know if a comment like that is not going to upset them.
What upset me more is the fact that he then made a further comment about my sister needing to do the same thing as myself and lose weight. My sister lost over 3 stone with SW over a year ago but due to ill health she has gained it all back. She has been finally diagnosed with a rare disorder and is undergoing an operation next week, then hopefully once she's feeling better she can get back on SW. He knows all of this so I can't believe he made such a comment about his future daughter in law and have no care about her health and instead making criticism about her looks. I'm relieved she wasn't there, it would have really upset her. I have found out it's not the first time he's made a comment about my sister's weight - it's totally out of order. He's no oil painting himself!
Rant over!!
There was a family gathering and my sister's fiance's parents came along, although my sister and fiance are on holiday. I don't see his parents that much, as they are quite overbearing and inappropriate at times, which was confirmed today...
My sister's future FIL walked into the room, and very loudly in front of everyone said to me "Wow Sarah, you've lost a lot of weight, you were very tubby before weren't you? You needed to lose all that tubbiness!" I've had lots of people commenting on my weight and that I look good, which is fine, but the fact he said very publicly I was fat upset me. Yes, I know I was overweight, but I don't think people should say it outright to someone unless they truly know that person and know if a comment like that is not going to upset them.
What upset me more is the fact that he then made a further comment about my sister needing to do the same thing as myself and lose weight. My sister lost over 3 stone with SW over a year ago but due to ill health she has gained it all back. She has been finally diagnosed with a rare disorder and is undergoing an operation next week, then hopefully once she's feeling better she can get back on SW. He knows all of this so I can't believe he made such a comment about his future daughter in law and have no care about her health and instead making criticism about her looks. I'm relieved she wasn't there, it would have really upset her. I have found out it's not the first time he's made a comment about my sister's weight - it's totally out of order. He's no oil painting himself!
Rant over!!
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