Is there anyone else who finds it really hard to go clothes shopping with people smaller than them? I just end up feeling jelous of who ever im with and it ruins my whole day. I dont want to feel that way about people but I find it hard to be happy for people when they say stuff like 'ooh a size 10 was too big' or even 'a 14 will be too big for me'. Sorry for my rant, I'm just interested if anyone else feels this way? xx
jelous of family members?
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Instant_Karma
Lardy Lady
Definitely. My friends are not the sort of people to really judge, they are mostly size 12 or so, but my best friend is a size 10 and she's the only person I feel comfortable buying clothes in front of. She always tells me off for buying dark / baggy clothes and thinking that a size 16 is enormous. Once she made me try on a dress(!) that was quite modest, knee-length etc, and I bought it and wore it with a shrug. Stuff like, "Oh, a 14 buries me" annoys me as well though, espec. when whoever is speaking knows I would love to fit in one. I will by the end of May, I am adamant!!
chocolate_bananas
Silver Member
I know just what you mean! I don't get envious of their size, more that they know exactly what flatters them and looks good. I usually go shopping with my mum or sister though, so although they have really good figures (my mums is amazing for a 46 year old!) it's hard to be jealous of them.
I'm rubbish at shopping now, i don't have a clue what i should be wearing to flatter my shape and tend to go for the same sorts of things all the time. I'm really trying now when i go shopping though, trying to go for different styles and colours.
I'm rubbish at shopping now, i don't have a clue what i should be wearing to flatter my shape and tend to go for the same sorts of things all the time. I'm really trying now when i go shopping though, trying to go for different styles and colours.
judith55
Silver Member
My sister and I are both over weight and have a friend who is like a stick insect. She sometimes wears size 12 even though the clothes often hang off her. She dresses like a 60 yr old and we can't believe she doesn't make more of her figure. When we're shopping together we're the ones pulling yellow trousers and floral shirts off the racks while she tracks down all the grey and black in the shop. She actually has way more body issues than we do and seems to get hysterical if she puts on half a pound (and you can imagine how sympathetic we are when she goes on and on about it...not). So whilst I am jealous of her figure I'm aware that feeling comfortable with yourself and feeling easy buying clothes is way more complex than it might seem.
I'm jealous of my sister-in-law! We get on really well, but recently she has gone from a size 18 to a size 12 and admittedly she looks great. I know all the hard work she put in - I saw her go through it. The difference between her and me is that she has got really strong will power and when she puts her mind to something she does it! Although I am truly pleased for her, I hate it when all the family get together or if we're with mutual friends and they all go on, doesn't she look good....haven't you done well etc etc and I feel like the frumpiest person in the world. I have to keep reminding myself it didn't come natural and she really did and still is working hard at keeping the weight off. I just hope that when I get to target with Go Lower, people will be saying the same about me and then I can be even happier for her without feeling jealous!
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sugar_fiend
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I hate going shopping with friends/family, I always have to try stuff on because I'm about 2 sizes bigger on my bottom half so getting tops/dresses to fit is interesting, and at my weight and height trousers are a challenge too. The stuff invariably either looks terrible, or at best "it'll do" on me, but whenever anyone else picks something out to try on they always look amazing, so then I end up feeling miserable, buying nothing, and going home in a massive mood!
I can't win because I love shopping and new things but feel miserable every time I go, especially when I see all the things I want to wear but look horrible at this weight.
I can't win because I love shopping and new things but feel miserable every time I go, especially when I see all the things I want to wear but look horrible at this weight.
I hate shopping...but I am sure it because nothing looks good on me. Don't even like shoes as I have really small feet at a size 4, and they are really narrow so shoes all fall off me and make my feet hurt. Would love to go round barefoot all the time or in my trainers! I just can't win. Hopefully once I've reached target with Go Lower, which I am well on the way to doing, I'll love shopping, but don't think my bank balance will!
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Raspberry
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I know the feeling, it's very rare that i go shopping with anyone else! And if I do, I grab a size when their back is turned and hide the hanger! It's silly really.
I've just had to order a uniform for a volunteer job I do, it's at a care home so a tunic type thing. I'm dreading it coming and being too small - tops styled like that hate me. And then theres the staff there borrowing a size 12 from the cupboard and complaining it's drowning them!
I've just had to order a uniform for a volunteer job I do, it's at a care home so a tunic type thing. I'm dreading it coming and being too small - tops styled like that hate me. And then theres the staff there borrowing a size 12 from the cupboard and complaining it's drowning them!
sugar_fiend
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hbooth - now shoes I can buy - have loooads of shoes 
The amount of bags I have is steadily increasing at the moment too haha.
Raspberry work uniforms are always the worst! I think they must make them to be particularly unflattering and uncomfortable on everyone
The amount of bags I have is steadily increasing at the moment too haha.
Raspberry work uniforms are always the worst! I think they must make them to be particularly unflattering and uncomfortable on everyone
i always use the hanger hiding technique, ive only just let my fiance know what size i am, after over 2 years of being together!! i think it's hard for people who are comfortable with their bodies/weight to understand how people who aren't so comfortable feel. i havent been out clubbing in months, even though i should be!! i just cant stand to look at other people and think that they're disgusted in how i look, even though i know they probably haven't even seen me!! lol
You must try and get out and socialise with people. I know how hard it is, but it's no good staying at home and hiding. The first time out is always the hardest...Most of my friends whilst at uni were also tiny, size 0 type people, so I always looked enormous next to them! But my personality made up for it...I had loads of friends....now I'm just mummy...and my friends all have baby bellies, so I do feel better about that, except mine is still bigger than there's!
I also hide the hanger when I do go shopping, but now-a-days I tend to do my shopping on line and order a variety of sizes and send back the unwanted stuff. That way I get to look at home and my OH also tells me what he likes/dislikes...
Good luck
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