hi all,
not really sure why I am posting this here, but guess all Minimin-ers have weight issues so can maybe understand this experience in someway.
To give some background, I have struggled with weight my whole life, has been worse the last 2 years since losing my mum to cancer. Since she dies, I had a great first attempt on CD and lost 5 stone. At present I have regained that 5 stone and an utterly miserable. It really does affect all areas of my life, dont feel like socialising, dont feel attractive etc. I should add that since the regain have non stop been trying to restart CD sole source, so in some ways I guess, stalled my life whilst struggling like this.
So for 3 weeks I have stuck to CD. Found an ace counsellor who is strict with me (in good way) and insists on weekly weigh ins, so I finally feel like I am making progress. Me and hubby had made plans for holiday mid sept and I really felt optimistic about the future for the first time in ages.
So yesterday out of the blue, he wakes in a total mood, silent all day, argumentative, then eventually states he is thinking of moving out. He says he cannot put his life on hold waiting for me to lose weight. That I am a big disappointment to him. That I always say things I do not mean, and that he actually thinks if he leaves me I will lose weight and that it will be the best thing for me. That the wii fit he bought me has been used twice and he is fed up with it.
To say I am shocked and upset is an understatement. I know he has a problem with my weight but cannot believe he would throw away our marriage because of this issue alone.
To clarify he is not a bad person. He just has never had weight issues and cannot understand how hard it has been to get back on the CD wagon.
any advice please?????
not really sure why I am posting this here, but guess all Minimin-ers have weight issues so can maybe understand this experience in someway.
To give some background, I have struggled with weight my whole life, has been worse the last 2 years since losing my mum to cancer. Since she dies, I had a great first attempt on CD and lost 5 stone. At present I have regained that 5 stone and an utterly miserable. It really does affect all areas of my life, dont feel like socialising, dont feel attractive etc. I should add that since the regain have non stop been trying to restart CD sole source, so in some ways I guess, stalled my life whilst struggling like this.
So for 3 weeks I have stuck to CD. Found an ace counsellor who is strict with me (in good way) and insists on weekly weigh ins, so I finally feel like I am making progress. Me and hubby had made plans for holiday mid sept and I really felt optimistic about the future for the first time in ages.
So yesterday out of the blue, he wakes in a total mood, silent all day, argumentative, then eventually states he is thinking of moving out. He says he cannot put his life on hold waiting for me to lose weight. That I am a big disappointment to him. That I always say things I do not mean, and that he actually thinks if he leaves me I will lose weight and that it will be the best thing for me. That the wii fit he bought me has been used twice and he is fed up with it.
To say I am shocked and upset is an understatement. I know he has a problem with my weight but cannot believe he would throw away our marriage because of this issue alone.
To clarify he is not a bad person. He just has never had weight issues and cannot understand how hard it has been to get back on the CD wagon.
any advice please?????