alexisemma31
Full Member
Hi everyone,
as my title states really, I've called time on my marriage and I'm really scared for the future.
I've been married for 16 years and for the majority of it we were really happy. We have two kids; daughter age 19 and son aged 17.
We've been having problems for about a year, nothing too serious, just not getting on and for the first time I seriously thought about life on my own.
Back in November my hubby lost his job (he did know about this in September) and did nothing to line up another job. Since then he has done naff all, lying in bed till dinner time and just tinkering round the house. I work full time and am up at 6.30 every morning. I had been saving up money to pay for our son's university accommodation (he starts this coming September) but I had to use all of this to pay for Xmas.
It was only after a meltdown 2 weeks ago when I had called home for my lunch at 1.00 and he was still in bed that he half heartedly started looking for a job. He has applied for 2, had an interview for one of them 'but didn't fancy it'.
I called home yesterday at 1.00pm and he was still in bed again. I decided enough is enough. I told him it's over and he told me he won't move out as he has no money, and I told him I'm not moving out either. (btw the mortgage hasn't been paid since November)
So, our sons final exam is next Friday at which point I'm going to tell them the situation and put the house up for sale next weekend.
Can I force a sale if hubby doesn't want to?
Anybody got any advice or been in the same situation?
as my title states really, I've called time on my marriage and I'm really scared for the future.
I've been married for 16 years and for the majority of it we were really happy. We have two kids; daughter age 19 and son aged 17.
We've been having problems for about a year, nothing too serious, just not getting on and for the first time I seriously thought about life on my own.
Back in November my hubby lost his job (he did know about this in September) and did nothing to line up another job. Since then he has done naff all, lying in bed till dinner time and just tinkering round the house. I work full time and am up at 6.30 every morning. I had been saving up money to pay for our son's university accommodation (he starts this coming September) but I had to use all of this to pay for Xmas.
It was only after a meltdown 2 weeks ago when I had called home for my lunch at 1.00 and he was still in bed that he half heartedly started looking for a job. He has applied for 2, had an interview for one of them 'but didn't fancy it'.
I called home yesterday at 1.00pm and he was still in bed again. I decided enough is enough. I told him it's over and he told me he won't move out as he has no money, and I told him I'm not moving out either. (btw the mortgage hasn't been paid since November)
So, our sons final exam is next Friday at which point I'm going to tell them the situation and put the house up for sale next weekend.
Can I force a sale if hubby doesn't want to?
Anybody got any advice or been in the same situation?