cocktailprincess
Still rockin' it
Hi all
You may have read my post about my mad SW conversation with my Mum who is starting the plan- here is the update so far..........and I feel really upset about it!
Basically my Mum is dangerously overweight, and despite only being 60 has to walk with a zimmer frame and has trouble standing for short periods. This is all to do with her size. She has been offered treatment for her knees which are crumbling under the strain, but they will only perform an operation if she loses weight.
She has put on a lot of extra weight over the past year, and pretended at one point to go to WW, and kept the pretence up for weeks, but we then found out she wasn't. Her Dr has also tried several plans with her, but Mum always seems to have a reason why it doesn't work for her.
I have lots of scary images of my Mum being in a wheelchair soon, having to go into care, or even worse dying and having to be winched out of her flat by the fire brigade (I know this is really horrible, but it is a realistic prospect)
I know you cannot help someone who does not want to help themselves, but rather than sit on the sidelines I decided to try and teach her SW again as I though she might like EE
I have told her that I will take her to class evey week (a 40 mile round trip for me) , pay for her, and take a bag of 'free foods' for her every week. I did this on monday and paid for 6 weeks in advance. I promise I have done all this out of love and with respect for her feelings, and told her I will only offer her support and encouragement.
I spoke to her on the phone yesterday and I can tell she is lying about what she is eating. I know she is not following the plan. I didn't let on, and just offered her more encouragement.
I feel so desperately unhappy. Everyone tells me I can't make someone do what they don't want to but the alternative is watching my Mum die and I don't see how I can just sit back and watch that happen without trying everything to stop it
I am really opening my heart to you all, crying my eyes out as I type. I feel really desperate, alone and powerless
If anyone can offer any guidance at all on this, I would be really grateful
x
You may have read my post about my mad SW conversation with my Mum who is starting the plan- here is the update so far..........and I feel really upset about it!
Basically my Mum is dangerously overweight, and despite only being 60 has to walk with a zimmer frame and has trouble standing for short periods. This is all to do with her size. She has been offered treatment for her knees which are crumbling under the strain, but they will only perform an operation if she loses weight.
She has put on a lot of extra weight over the past year, and pretended at one point to go to WW, and kept the pretence up for weeks, but we then found out she wasn't. Her Dr has also tried several plans with her, but Mum always seems to have a reason why it doesn't work for her.
I have lots of scary images of my Mum being in a wheelchair soon, having to go into care, or even worse dying and having to be winched out of her flat by the fire brigade (I know this is really horrible, but it is a realistic prospect)
I know you cannot help someone who does not want to help themselves, but rather than sit on the sidelines I decided to try and teach her SW again as I though she might like EE
I have told her that I will take her to class evey week (a 40 mile round trip for me) , pay for her, and take a bag of 'free foods' for her every week. I did this on monday and paid for 6 weeks in advance. I promise I have done all this out of love and with respect for her feelings, and told her I will only offer her support and encouragement.
I spoke to her on the phone yesterday and I can tell she is lying about what she is eating. I know she is not following the plan. I didn't let on, and just offered her more encouragement.
I feel so desperately unhappy. Everyone tells me I can't make someone do what they don't want to but the alternative is watching my Mum die and I don't see how I can just sit back and watch that happen without trying everything to stop it
I am really opening my heart to you all, crying my eyes out as I type. I feel really desperate, alone and powerless
If anyone can offer any guidance at all on this, I would be really grateful
x