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so miffed off with my parents today. they say i'm going to give my daughter a complex about food the way i'm going on... not regarding my diet that is.
what happened was what always happens. my mother gives my daughter whatever she wants when she wants it and when i challenge her she then tells my 3 year old girl "Mummy say's NO!". this, i feel, sends out messages that i'm the bad one who isn't letting her have stuff but grandma would have let her etc etc. today she wanted a hot chocolate (options). i said no you can have milk or water. my mother said the mummy says no malarky and i was so pissed off i challenged her again saying that there is nothing good in options hot chocolate. she then said that she could have an ordinary one but i said no again as that is full of sugar. both my mum and dad then started on me about giving her my complex about food. i don't see it this way though i see it as being sensible, learning to enjoy food and drink but in a sensible way in moderation (e.g i don't let her have biscuits unless she has eaten all of her dinner and only occasionally. it was getting so bad at my mum's house re-biscuits that she was eating them every single day as we are round lots. i've tried to compromise by saying that friday could be treat day at her house for emily but that is just not good enough).
i was never told about moderation and was left to eat as much as i wanted whenever i wanted. one day my mum was at a hospital app and she left me with one of her friends in the waiting room with about 5 bars of chocolate. i was about 6-8 years old. not sure of my age but around that age. i had one bar then asked for another and i got it from my mum's friend. when i asked again she told me no as i'd had enough. i'd never been told this before and was miffed. anyway on the way home on the tube (mum's app was in london) i got another 1 or 2 bars to eat. so not a good thing to have really but being young my mum should have taken control and not bought me so many and limited them. however, my parents don't know about moderation. they are both overweight with type 2 diabetes, heart problems and my mum has had several strokes which have left her with limited mobility. you'd think that they'd be more careful about things regarding my daughter but no, no, no, no! i'm just angry.
my mum doesn't understand why she doesn't loose weight and my dad looses it then puts it on again then looses it then puts it on again etc. mind he's 71 and she's 66 in june.
i suppose what i'm saying is that i'm a food addict cause i never learnt about moderation or was never told not to eat so much of certain foods and it made me big as a child which resulted in me having a truly terrible childhood at school where i was bullied and taunted which resulted in me eating more etc. being a fat child is not nice and i don't want that for my kids. i want to teach them about moderation, about having certain foods as treats and only once in a while. i don't want fat kids, for their sake not mine :cry:
i just don't know how to get through to my mum. will she ever understand what i'm trying to do? does she just plainly not understand at all?
so miffed off with my parents today. they say i'm going to give my daughter a complex about food the way i'm going on... not regarding my diet that is.
what happened was what always happens. my mother gives my daughter whatever she wants when she wants it and when i challenge her she then tells my 3 year old girl "Mummy say's NO!". this, i feel, sends out messages that i'm the bad one who isn't letting her have stuff but grandma would have let her etc etc. today she wanted a hot chocolate (options). i said no you can have milk or water. my mother said the mummy says no malarky and i was so pissed off i challenged her again saying that there is nothing good in options hot chocolate. she then said that she could have an ordinary one but i said no again as that is full of sugar. both my mum and dad then started on me about giving her my complex about food. i don't see it this way though i see it as being sensible, learning to enjoy food and drink but in a sensible way in moderation (e.g i don't let her have biscuits unless she has eaten all of her dinner and only occasionally. it was getting so bad at my mum's house re-biscuits that she was eating them every single day as we are round lots. i've tried to compromise by saying that friday could be treat day at her house for emily but that is just not good enough).
i was never told about moderation and was left to eat as much as i wanted whenever i wanted. one day my mum was at a hospital app and she left me with one of her friends in the waiting room with about 5 bars of chocolate. i was about 6-8 years old. not sure of my age but around that age. i had one bar then asked for another and i got it from my mum's friend. when i asked again she told me no as i'd had enough. i'd never been told this before and was miffed. anyway on the way home on the tube (mum's app was in london) i got another 1 or 2 bars to eat. so not a good thing to have really but being young my mum should have taken control and not bought me so many and limited them. however, my parents don't know about moderation. they are both overweight with type 2 diabetes, heart problems and my mum has had several strokes which have left her with limited mobility. you'd think that they'd be more careful about things regarding my daughter but no, no, no, no! i'm just angry.
my mum doesn't understand why she doesn't loose weight and my dad looses it then puts it on again then looses it then puts it on again etc. mind he's 71 and she's 66 in june.
i suppose what i'm saying is that i'm a food addict cause i never learnt about moderation or was never told not to eat so much of certain foods and it made me big as a child which resulted in me having a truly terrible childhood at school where i was bullied and taunted which resulted in me eating more etc. being a fat child is not nice and i don't want that for my kids. i want to teach them about moderation, about having certain foods as treats and only once in a while. i don't want fat kids, for their sake not mine :cry:
i just don't know how to get through to my mum. will she ever understand what i'm trying to do? does she just plainly not understand at all?
