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Not hungry anymore...but hell I feel lonely

S: 18st12lb C: 17st2lb G: 10st7lb BMI: 36.5 Loss: 1st10lb(9.09%)
Hey gang,

Well... I'm sat here on a Saturday night twiddling my thumbs and waiting to feel tired enough to get to sleep.

On many levels I love LT. It takes the hassle out of shopping, portion control etc. It's an all or nothing programme and I'm an all or nothing kind of girl. The hunger and headaches are now really controllable. I rarely feel physically rubbish *crossed fingers* and I'm looking forward to my 4th WI on Tues.

I don't know why I'm feeling so down really. I can't explain it...but this diet is making me feel incredibly lonely. It's not that I feel like I'm 'missing out' exactly...just that my life is in limbo...waiting to get slim so I can ENJOY it again. There are only so many warm baths and candles a girl can have before she craves a little fun and excitement. I know in the grand scheme of things a few months isn't a long time....but I'm feeling really isolated and lonely at the moment.

I feel like I've lost a bit of my glow- I'm usually the life and soul and not I'm just sipping water and smiling serenely. I guess it's just a bigger adjustment than I'd realised.

Thanks for listening :)

Sheeeeeesh :(

Luce xx
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♥3 Years Maintaining♥
S: 19st6lb C: 11st6lb Loss: 8st0lb(41.18%)
ahhh honey :hug99:

We all have days like this - we just have put our heads up and get on with it. Its a small price to pay to get to the end result of being skinny, healthy and happy :)

I know exactly how you feel and it isnt nice. You feel sort of isociliated (sp?) and alone but ya know its not forever and the feeling does pass :) xxx :hug99: xxx


Life is not a Rehersal!
S: 14st4lb C: 11st6lb G: 10st7lb BMI: 28.3 Loss: 2st12lb(20%)
Hi Luce

Well done on getting to where you are at the minute...it does take a lot of adjustments to be honest...but I was determined that I wasnt going to miss out. I tried to be just as normal, but without food. It is a whole different ball game and it is mind over matter.

Start to look positively...dont see not eating as a chore.....you can still do things, just because you are not eating shouldnt make you feel lonely. Dont lock yourself away, etc..not sure in what way you feel lonely. As we can feel lonely in a crowded room, or whether it is the fact you are not going out and seeing folks.

If it is the latter,,,,,change it asap! You can still go and see friends, family...I did. I didnt let it stop me one bit. The most important thing in life is friend/family..not food and being the life and soul of the party. I am sure there is more to you than that ;-)

It really does get easier and before you know it you will be at your goal and you will be so glad that you decided to stick with it.

I think just writing down how you feel helps as well, as I am sure you will get a lot of feedback and help/inspiration on how to cope with the feelings.

Again, like I said at the beg of the post, you are doing so well and just hang in there and keep posting..before you know it you will be that lovely slim, happy, contented person that you want to be! The times on LT will fade and you will just be proud of yourself that you stuck with it!

Take care
S: 17st9lb G: 10st0lb
I couldn't agree more hun at night time i wait for the minute i get tired and go to bed my husband only said to me last night that i am very subdued and quiet now since i started LT (he wants me to stay on it for life only for peace n quiet ha ha) but i know what you mean we are constantly thinking of being thin i don't drink alcohol but i am missing my cup of tea more than anything and a nice glass of ice cold diet coke an i can say hand on heart when i have lost it all it is NEVER coming back on as i will not be putting myself through all this again and i will appreciate my body an health more if it wasn't for all you girls on here i would find it hard going x


Back 2 finish my journey
S: 19st11lb C: 15st12lb G: 12st0lb BMI: 35.8 Loss: 3st13lb(19.86%)
hey i know how you feel i feel like i have become a recluse since starting CD i've been on it for 12 weeks now and last night was the first time i have been out with friends since i started, i drove everyone in to town and stuck with my iced water whilst they all got very drunk and i drove everyone home again at 4am they were all saying 'go on have a drink it won't hurt we'll get a taxi' but i didn't as i want this weight loss more than anything. They all understood and you know what i laughed soo much and had a really great time even had a little boogie, you've just got to get on with it stay strong and keep your friends round you.


Back on the diet train...
S: 17st1lb C: 17st1lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 41 Loss: 0st0lb(0%)
hey determined girl sori u feelin abit down but i no wot u mean. even tho this diet is great in the main coz its quick and hassle free, i think we forget that food was a big part of are lives and its not that we wana stuff ourselves agen coz we wana get away from that cycle but its the simple things like avin a drink wiv friends or goin 4 lunch that we miss, the socialisin part. :sigh: an not feelin like the odd bod in the group.

plus i no that alot of my energy came from the wrong foods an was really just a 'sugar rush' which is why i needed more an more, so to not av that yet still b the life an soul whilst drinkin water is hard.

the main thing u gota remember hunny is that u doin this for u, to feel healthier and confident. so even tho at the moment u feel in 'limbo' it wont always b like this, soon u will b struttin about in ur skinny clothes :) an feelin glad u gave a few months to get there.

we always here hunny if u ever feel lonely. :)

hugs hun :hug99:xox
S: 13st10lb C: 10st13lb G: 11st5lb BMI: 21.3 Loss: 2st11lb(20.31%)
Hey Luce,

I think we all know where your coming from.

I have recently split with my boyfriend of 6 yrs, could have used that as an excuse to be really down & I did think that it was LT which was making me unhappy, but now realise it was a number of things that have imploded whilst also being on LT.

I am of the opinion that your life is in limbo whilst you become slimmer as socialising now disappeared unless you like to drink water & watch others eat.

I am now looking at this weightloss project as a long term kind of thing. So yeah bummer relationship over after 6 yrs, but there are bigger & better things out there for me as soon as I get my life back & am in charge, not only of my weight but everything else.

Your mojo will be back before you know it & wahey lookout when it does - ding dong!!

Its all about the bigger picture :)))) xxx
S: 15st0lb C: 15st0lb G: 9st0lb BMI: 36 Loss: 0st0lb(0%)
I'm sorry you feel this way Luce. Would you believe me if I said it gets easier? This is the time to find you! You need to realise that food and drink don't make you who you are. You can be the life and soul of the party without being stuffed or drunk! It's the confidence that you're missing not the calories babes. And it's false confidence into the bargain, if you ate or drank anything you'd only be facing the guilt of it all after the event. Make plans, stick to them. I by no means sat smiling serenely when I went to a gig a few eeks back. I was up bopping away! The thing is, in a crowded bar or anywhere, everyone who doesn't know about the diet will assume you're doing as they are. Learn to just let go and realise that food consumption is just that. You are so bubbly and affectionate on here, and I don't think you're sitting there glugging wine and pasta! Get up, get out and start living your life -what exactly are you waiting on? When the scales give you a random number that in your head means 'skinny -time to live'? Madness!

Come on you! Trust yourself more.
S: 18st12lb C: 17st2lb G: 10st7lb BMI: 36.5 Loss: 1st10lb(9.09%)
Thank you all so much for your comments...once more I'm reminded what a Godsend this forum is. Just reading through these fantastic messages of support has renewed my determination and given me some much-needed perspective!!

Tanya- you're absolutely right- it IS a small price to pay for the end result.... I was just in one of those moods! Can't even blame it on TOTM!!

Scotsmist- it's so true that just writing down how I was feeling made me feel instantly better. It's just a case of having a rant from time to time I guess!

Nightnight- DEFINITELY worth it in the end!!

Skinnytobe- I feel exactly the same. I really want to make sure that at the end of this I change my ways and don't put it all back on. I'm sure it's easier said than done but I really don't want to be back on this again!!

Debra- it's good to know that fun can be had without the food and booze. I guess I just have to bite the bullet and try a night out without my usual crutches!!

Bex- I know you guys are always here- and that means the world. I've said it a million times but there's no way I'd be getting through it without you lot!

Claire- thanks for reminding me about the bigger picture. Sometimes when I'm feeling down I can forget about what I'm really doing this for and just focus on that hour or whatever. It's good to get some perspective!

Blackrose- your comments, as ever, have hit home (in a good way!!) I think I have this idea in my mind that when I get to a certain size my life can 'begin' or something which is ridiculous. Thanks for reminding me that life isn't a rehearsal!!

Lots of love to my fab girls!!

S: 11st4lb G: 8st4lb
Hey mrs, Glad your feeling back on track!

Being on TFR can sometimes feel like you are a caterpillar, and you are turning into a butterfly! Like Slim Metamorphosis!

I did a course to keep me busy last summer, that gave me something positive to focus on and the time flew by.

Its like the law of the world that when something is removed then it needs to be replaced. If you have stopped socialising then maybe think about what else you can do... if it is going to make you miserable sitting in, then listen to what Black Rose says and get out there and enjoy yourself.

I didnt mind sitting in cos I just thought about my grand debut new me appearance! Oh yes... but it does get lonely sometimes and we all need to get out and meet people.

I enjoy playing poker and thank fully no food or drink is required (and its free black coffee!) so I play poker to get out of the house and enjoy myself. Maybe you could think of a hobby or club you could take up to get you out of the house without being around food?

Have you ever wanted to go horse riding? Or archery? Or painting?

Hope you can think of something to keep you happy and sane!!! :)

S: 18st12lb C: 17st2lb G: 10st7lb BMI: 36.5 Loss: 1st10lb(9.09%)

I used to have horses actually!! Would love to start horse-riding again...but might wait until a point where I won't crush the poor creatures' spines!!

Besides...the image of me in jodphurs right now??? It would be enough to give small children YEARS worth of counselling!


irish molly

Maintaing LT loss on GL
S: 21st0lb C: 12st12lb G: 12st12lb BMI: 27.4 Loss: 8st2lb(38.78%)
great thread. It is definitely a side effect of LT that we don't think about. That is,just how much of our lives revolves around food and drink! I'm just finishing week 2 and already I am wondering what the hell am I going to do with myself. This weekend,I stayed in as going out would have depressed me. Every paper I picked up seemed full of food or wine reviews. But just have to grin and bear it and realse that there is so much more to life. Have to find new interest for all this free time.

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