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I will succeed!!!
Sorry to post again about weddingy stuff, but I honesty feel like crying right now.
Who said weddings are meant to be fun? So far, all the 'fun' aspects have somehow gone t*ts up and I'm starting to see why people elope!
First of all, my Mum upset me when wedding dress shopping by going on about a dress I didn't like over the one I LOVE. And I mean it was along the lines of 'No no no, the other dress was stunning unlike the last dress'. My MIL to be stepped in (she'd been there) and defused the situation when she saw I was about to cry and since, Mum has luckily said sorry about it and that she wasn't feeling herself that day (to be fair she wasn't feeling 100%) etc. Still, I am worried the dress I want is wrong now.
Second of all (I posted earlier this week about this), I've had to 'sack' a BM who was causing trouble and had totally betrayed my trust. This went reasonably well, but has caused weeks or torment (Sarah Jayne - thanks for the support in this on FB chat hun).
Now...my sister isn't talking to me! She lives in Australia and is visiting next November for another wedding. As we'd liked the idea of a winter wedding, we said we'd try to have it a few weekends later so they didn't need to travel twice. I didn't make any promises to her and explained it was only a 'maybe'. A couple of weeks ago she put a message on my FB wall saying 'X's wedding is the 6th so can you make it closer to that date - ta muchly'. I was raging - not a 'Hi how're you' or anything...a 'can you book to suit me please'. Gah!
Anyway, we can't go for the date we wanted (20th) cause two other friends have set dates in the two weeks running up, so for costs (being guests etc) and the fact we'll not have two of our closest friends there, we decided on May 2011.
I emailed my sister this 5 days ago so she had lots of notice for flights etc. No reply. But her FB status changed to something along the lines of 'well this will be a day of dissapointments'. I emailed her again and said I hoped my earlier email hadn't caused any stress and nothing. She's been online loads in the last 5 days and ignored both of them.
She's 8 years my senior and had managed to put a dampner on so many important things for me. My GCSE results celebration went wrong cause she didn't like where I picked to go and eat with the family...so she stormed out. A Level results I deliverately went out with friends cause it looked like it would be the same again. My degree graduation - you only get 2 tickets but can apply for more. I asked her if she wanted 2 for her and her hubby as my other sister was coming. She said no, then went ape sh*t about not being 'invited' and sent me a really nasty text an hour before the ceremony...she always manages to do this.
So I shouldn't be surprised, but I am raging.
And...Mum just said 'awww well you know X is like this so don't worry, she'll come around.'
SHE'LL come around? To WHAT? Me and Jim wanting what we want for our wedding? She is such a brat! She's meant to be my MOH and I thought she'd be supportive and sisterly...but I have a feeling she will say won't come now.
I understand the flights aren't cheap - but it was her choice to move across the world. And Dad paid for her wedding - we're paying for it ourselves so it's not like we're able to just book the next date - we need to save up.
Argh!
I feel deflated. Sorry for ranting but I just wanted a nice, enjoyable wedding - am I asking too much?
:cry::cry::cry::cry:
Who said weddings are meant to be fun? So far, all the 'fun' aspects have somehow gone t*ts up and I'm starting to see why people elope!
First of all, my Mum upset me when wedding dress shopping by going on about a dress I didn't like over the one I LOVE. And I mean it was along the lines of 'No no no, the other dress was stunning unlike the last dress'. My MIL to be stepped in (she'd been there) and defused the situation when she saw I was about to cry and since, Mum has luckily said sorry about it and that she wasn't feeling herself that day (to be fair she wasn't feeling 100%) etc. Still, I am worried the dress I want is wrong now.
Second of all (I posted earlier this week about this), I've had to 'sack' a BM who was causing trouble and had totally betrayed my trust. This went reasonably well, but has caused weeks or torment (Sarah Jayne - thanks for the support in this on FB chat hun).
Now...my sister isn't talking to me! She lives in Australia and is visiting next November for another wedding. As we'd liked the idea of a winter wedding, we said we'd try to have it a few weekends later so they didn't need to travel twice. I didn't make any promises to her and explained it was only a 'maybe'. A couple of weeks ago she put a message on my FB wall saying 'X's wedding is the 6th so can you make it closer to that date - ta muchly'. I was raging - not a 'Hi how're you' or anything...a 'can you book to suit me please'. Gah!
Anyway, we can't go for the date we wanted (20th) cause two other friends have set dates in the two weeks running up, so for costs (being guests etc) and the fact we'll not have two of our closest friends there, we decided on May 2011.
I emailed my sister this 5 days ago so she had lots of notice for flights etc. No reply. But her FB status changed to something along the lines of 'well this will be a day of dissapointments'. I emailed her again and said I hoped my earlier email hadn't caused any stress and nothing. She's been online loads in the last 5 days and ignored both of them.
She's 8 years my senior and had managed to put a dampner on so many important things for me. My GCSE results celebration went wrong cause she didn't like where I picked to go and eat with the family...so she stormed out. A Level results I deliverately went out with friends cause it looked like it would be the same again. My degree graduation - you only get 2 tickets but can apply for more. I asked her if she wanted 2 for her and her hubby as my other sister was coming. She said no, then went ape sh*t about not being 'invited' and sent me a really nasty text an hour before the ceremony...she always manages to do this.
So I shouldn't be surprised, but I am raging.
And...Mum just said 'awww well you know X is like this so don't worry, she'll come around.'
SHE'LL come around? To WHAT? Me and Jim wanting what we want for our wedding? She is such a brat! She's meant to be my MOH and I thought she'd be supportive and sisterly...but I have a feeling she will say won't come now.
I understand the flights aren't cheap - but it was her choice to move across the world. And Dad paid for her wedding - we're paying for it ourselves so it's not like we're able to just book the next date - we need to save up.
Argh!
I feel deflated. Sorry for ranting but I just wanted a nice, enjoyable wedding - am I asking too much?
:cry::cry::cry::cry: