Hi Amanda,
Have to agree if you can get on track imediately I would try. You could treat yourself to something special instead like some new clothes or smellies as you defo deserve it. You now have an even better excuse, looking after you FIRST.
If it is any consolation I have been talking to my 21 daughter and she split with her boyfriend 2 weeks ago. She went clubbing last night and he was there telling every male in sight that she was an old slag and not to touch her with a barge pole, nice aint it. She is 5' 8" very slim and stunning. So it goes to show men will use any weapon they can to get back at you.
Needless to say she was hurt, but after a good chat she didnt let it bother her and it has only helped her get over him. The bastxxd.
So move on take the highroad and stuff him and love yourself, you are such a pretty girl
Alone...hmmm isnt that a scary word? (or is that just me)
Thanks Katie
It has been nice to think today and have the space to do it. I have spoken to some of my real life friends who apart from all saying thank god, have promised to constantly remind me what he managed to do to me, about which they are completely right
I had a really abusive (physical and emotional) childhood, to the extent my dad served a lengthy prison term for what he did to us. I also managed (doh!) to get pregnant at 16, at which point everyone just thought my life was over and I was destined to be a council estate single breeding factory with multiple kids by multiple men - you know what I mean. I decided however, that that wasn't going to happen to me, and despite lacking family support, I decided that I was going to make something of myself and make sure that my child wanted for nothing in any way.
Anyway, I managed to stay at school, get all my GCSE's, straight A's at A level, did my law degree and went to Bar school....where I came in the top 10 and got a few prizes for it. I qualified as a barrister and very quickly had a massive practice and got loads of acolades for that. Then I started my own firm doing international law, which is growing day by day and is fairly sucessful. Along the way I got married to dad of baby number 1 and had another baby. Pretty good life really.
Then I met this idiot, thought I had fallen in love, and he managed to persuade me that I was fat, ugly, stupid and pretty worthless. There was also some violence and tons more manipulation. I turned to food and drink to hide and ended up pretty depressed. I was turning the corner at the end of autumn time, and then decided in Jan to get everything back on track. When I started LT I went through the whole diary thing, cried lots and decided I wanted my life back. Since the begining of Jan I have been trying to get rid of him and now finally done it.
I am also fast starting to look at my life and realise that actually, I have a fair bit going for me, and that I am not stupid or as unatrractive as he wanted me to believe, nor am I worthless, although I am overweight , but dealing with that!
So....I think that is why, after the initial shock of actually watching him pack up his car and get the hell out of my house (oh yeah, forgot that bit, the leech was actually living in my v nice house that I paid for!), that I am feeling fairly positive...I have chatted all day with my friends, who bless them have pointed out my good points and I feel like I am rediscovering me.....and so far, I quite like me!
Thanks Katie
It has been nice to think today and have the space to do it. I have spoken to some of my real life friends who apart from all saying thank god, have promised to constantly remind me what he managed to do to me, about which they are completely right
I had a really abusive (physical and emotional) childhood, to the extent my dad served a lengthy prison term for what he did to us. I also managed (doh!) to get pregnant at 16, at which point everyone just thought my life was over and I was destined to be a council estate single breeding factory with multiple kids by multiple men - you know what I mean. I decided however, that that wasn't going to happen to me, and despite lacking family support, I decided that I was going to make something of myself and make sure that my child wanted for nothing in any way.
Anyway, I managed to stay at school, get all my GCSE's, straight A's at A level, did my law degree and went to Bar school....where I came in the top 10 and got a few prizes for it. I qualified as a barrister and very quickly had a massive practice and got loads of acolades for that. Then I started my own firm doing international law, which is growing day by day and is fairly sucessful. Along the way I got married to dad of baby number 1 and had another baby. Pretty good life really.
Then I met this idiot, thought I had fallen in love, and he managed to persuade me that I was fat, ugly, stupid and pretty worthless. There was also some violence and tons more manipulation. I turned to food and drink to hide and ended up pretty depressed. I was turning the corner at the end of autumn time, and then decided in Jan to get everything back on track. When I started LT I went through the whole diary thing, cried lots and decided I wanted my life back. Since the begining of Jan I have been trying to get rid of him and now finally done it.
I am also fast starting to look at my life and realise that actually, I have a fair bit going for me, and that I am not stupid or as unatrractive as he wanted me to believe, nor am I worthless, although I am overweight , but dealing with that!
So....I think that is why, after the initial shock of actually watching him pack up his car and get the hell out of my house (oh yeah, forgot that bit, the leech was actually living in my v nice house that I paid for!), that I am feeling fairly positive...I have chatted all day with my friends, who bless them have pointed out my good points and I feel like I am rediscovering me.....and so far, I quite like me!
That is such a lovely story I am blubbin!!!!!! Ah TOTM
Well done for everything uve achieved, especially ur two gorgeous kids
Definately put him behind u, start afresh and you'll have a great time. There is nothing wrong with being single, just enjoy having time for yourself...
...And there will be "down days" but for every one of those, you will have lots more happy ones Here's to the future... and that gorgeous man who invited u 2 dinner hehe!!
Thanks sweetie...LOL at the TOTM comment!
Trust me - he is gone and there is no way he is coming back (despite all the grovelling texts!)
I know the bad days will come...and I know I will be on here or moaning to my mates, and probably crying myself silly; but as one of my mates said today...I just have to remember every night I cried myself to sleep when we were together.
As for single life...you know what I can't wait. I met my hubby when I was 14 and went straight from that to this, so I have never been single...am all excited!!!!!
Thanks Isis....I am feeling the fire in my belly again today that I used to get me through uni etc.
Am sat here doing the management accounts and re-writing the business plan so I can get work even more rockin this year. More profits = more holidays and lots of new clothes....yipppppeeeee. The only way is up!
AmandaThanks Isis....I am feeling the fire in my belly again today that I used to get me through uni etc.
Am sat here doing the management accounts and re-writing the business plan so I can get work even more rockin this year. More profits = more holidays and lots of new clothes....yipppppeeeee. The only way is up!