OK, so I thought I had signed off for the night, had a bath but kept thinking about this and about Karion's post about addictive desire (AD). And peptides. Karion - I think I missed the bits about peptides...??
Anyway, do read the thread; it's worth it.
So, here are some questions (that are on my mind and that may be relevant to Sarah (Cerulean) too):
Karion - how do you do moderation? I have noticed that I start eating but then can't stop (slipping nicely into self-sabotage). I put in my blog - abstinence I can do, moderation I can't do. And I really want to get to the bottom of it.
My issues seem to be boundaries (how are they for everyone else?) and...moderation. Some would argue that moderation is also tied up with boundaries. I don't know but the way I feel when I eat is that abstinence is WAAAAYYYYY easier! As we have said, it's a quieter place!!
But unlike other addicts, we CAN'T stop eating (as in be abstinent for the rest of our lives from the substance to which we are addicted). We have to learn moderation. HCW - do you have any thoughts on this?
Sarah - fruit - there is a school of thought (ie the anti-candida school!) that says fruit is severely if not totally restricted. If you are doing the anti-candida diet, you are allowed no fruit! Something about fermentation, I think...so that may be why it's such a trigger for you. But hey, I don't want to start diagnosing over the net....
And the second question, to Karion, as a successful weight holder (!) is...how has a VLCD and subsequent maintenance affected your friendships and other key relationships? Has it had a positive/negative effect? Do you feel changed as a person? Do you feel - now that you have recognised ADs - that some of your friends/peers/family won't ever understand? And if so, how do you feel about that? Do you feel as if you have been on a massive journey but that other people will only see the weight loss?
This year I have been physically (geographically) removed from many friends; so many of them know nothing about LighterLife and my weight loss. As I progress with my interpretative Route to Management, it's dawning on me how different my life is going to have to be (to sustain this weight loss/smaller frame). I'm not seeing that necessarily as a bad thing but it will affect how I live my life in future.
My view, right now, is that the 'dieting' element of LighterLife has got me to a starting point (of a good weight/size) but it's only really now and in the coming weeks that the REAL work begins. It's as if the losing weight was the warm-up!
This is where I am right now, as I wrote in the blog tonight:
"I just wish I could apply what I have learnt so far, which is as follows:
* it takes me AGES to feel full (as in several hours) so overeating catches up (with my system) eventually - but it's certainly A LOT longer than the 20 minutes that every diet book seems to mention;
* if I am deriving very little pleasure from what I am eating, chances are, it isn't what I want (or need);
* it's amazing how LITTLE food I need day-to-day - that's taking A LOT of mental adjustment;
* eating late at night = weight gain, FACT (for my body);
* unless I sit down, calmly, and eat a meal, uninterrupted, I don't feel satisfied - I don't register what I am eating;
* without routine, my eating becomes chaotic and unstructured ie a lot of picking goes on and a lot of food gets eaten, which isn't enjoyed and doesn't feel 'worth it';
* sandwiches really don't agree with me - they do make me feel bloated;
* tiredness will make me eat ANYTHING sweet, crispy or chewy - crisps, biscuits or cakes (and the biscuits/cakes thing is new and...unwelcome);
* when I feel in control, I am in control of my eating and when I am in control of my eating, I feel marginally better;
* I know what different weights feel like and can now guess - accurately - what my weight will be in the mornings;
* what I eat affects my self-esteem (more on this later - thanks to Gillian Riley for insight)."
Really look forward to some more of your insights....
Thank you and goodnight!
Mrs Lxxxxxxxxx
Anyway, do read the thread; it's worth it.
So, here are some questions (that are on my mind and that may be relevant to Sarah (Cerulean) too):
Karion - how do you do moderation? I have noticed that I start eating but then can't stop (slipping nicely into self-sabotage). I put in my blog - abstinence I can do, moderation I can't do. And I really want to get to the bottom of it.
My issues seem to be boundaries (how are they for everyone else?) and...moderation. Some would argue that moderation is also tied up with boundaries. I don't know but the way I feel when I eat is that abstinence is WAAAAYYYYY easier! As we have said, it's a quieter place!!
But unlike other addicts, we CAN'T stop eating (as in be abstinent for the rest of our lives from the substance to which we are addicted). We have to learn moderation. HCW - do you have any thoughts on this?
Sarah - fruit - there is a school of thought (ie the anti-candida school!) that says fruit is severely if not totally restricted. If you are doing the anti-candida diet, you are allowed no fruit! Something about fermentation, I think...so that may be why it's such a trigger for you. But hey, I don't want to start diagnosing over the net....
And the second question, to Karion, as a successful weight holder (!) is...how has a VLCD and subsequent maintenance affected your friendships and other key relationships? Has it had a positive/negative effect? Do you feel changed as a person? Do you feel - now that you have recognised ADs - that some of your friends/peers/family won't ever understand? And if so, how do you feel about that? Do you feel as if you have been on a massive journey but that other people will only see the weight loss?
This year I have been physically (geographically) removed from many friends; so many of them know nothing about LighterLife and my weight loss. As I progress with my interpretative Route to Management, it's dawning on me how different my life is going to have to be (to sustain this weight loss/smaller frame). I'm not seeing that necessarily as a bad thing but it will affect how I live my life in future.
My view, right now, is that the 'dieting' element of LighterLife has got me to a starting point (of a good weight/size) but it's only really now and in the coming weeks that the REAL work begins. It's as if the losing weight was the warm-up!
This is where I am right now, as I wrote in the blog tonight:
"I just wish I could apply what I have learnt so far, which is as follows:
* it takes me AGES to feel full (as in several hours) so overeating catches up (with my system) eventually - but it's certainly A LOT longer than the 20 minutes that every diet book seems to mention;
* if I am deriving very little pleasure from what I am eating, chances are, it isn't what I want (or need);
* it's amazing how LITTLE food I need day-to-day - that's taking A LOT of mental adjustment;
* eating late at night = weight gain, FACT (for my body);
* unless I sit down, calmly, and eat a meal, uninterrupted, I don't feel satisfied - I don't register what I am eating;
* without routine, my eating becomes chaotic and unstructured ie a lot of picking goes on and a lot of food gets eaten, which isn't enjoyed and doesn't feel 'worth it';
* sandwiches really don't agree with me - they do make me feel bloated;
* tiredness will make me eat ANYTHING sweet, crispy or chewy - crisps, biscuits or cakes (and the biscuits/cakes thing is new and...unwelcome);
* when I feel in control, I am in control of my eating and when I am in control of my eating, I feel marginally better;
* I know what different weights feel like and can now guess - accurately - what my weight will be in the mornings;
* what I eat affects my self-esteem (more on this later - thanks to Gillian Riley for insight)."
Really look forward to some more of your insights....
Thank you and goodnight!
Mrs Lxxxxxxxxx