So shocked and upset
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majic1982
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Yikes.. I'm sorry hun.. that's awful 
What a huge shock... *hugs*
Everyone else has given great advice so far, and I don't think I can really add to it, except to say that I'm just learning the meaning of "things happen for a reason" so maybe once it becomes clear what the reason is, it'll help you move on *hugs* for you xx
What a huge shock... *hugs*Everyone else has given great advice so far, and I don't think I can really add to it, except to say that I'm just learning the meaning of "things happen for a reason" so maybe once it becomes clear what the reason is, it'll help you move on *hugs* for you xx
westiegirl
Gold Member
Hi Sarah, the same thing happened to me a few years ago. My partner of 14 years decided that he didn't love me anymore and wanted to split up. The thing is that he told me 2 days before Christmas when we were staying with his family in the Isle of Man. I had no family of my own around me and stuck with no way to get home. Needless to say it was the worst christmas I have had in my life.
We had previously had troubles and had almost broken up but I honestly thought that we were working things through and were getting back on track. Thing is he didn't, and instead of talking to me about it he was talking to another woman!
Anyway I'm sounding bitter here, and the thing is I am really not. Of course it was tough at the time, I went through hell and back - selling the house, finding somewhere new to live (with a friend sharing a flat - I agree with Irene, don't move home unless you absolutely have to) and splitting all our possessions.
Now I am single and having an absolute ball. I barely think about my ex and I am enjoying my life and my independance. It will take a while but I have faith that you will be ok.
((((Hugs))))
We had previously had troubles and had almost broken up but I honestly thought that we were working things through and were getting back on track. Thing is he didn't, and instead of talking to me about it he was talking to another woman!
Anyway I'm sounding bitter here, and the thing is I am really not. Of course it was tough at the time, I went through hell and back - selling the house, finding somewhere new to live (with a friend sharing a flat - I agree with Irene, don't move home unless you absolutely have to) and splitting all our possessions.
Now I am single and having an absolute ball. I barely think about my ex and I am enjoying my life and my independance. It will take a while but I have faith that you will be ok.
((((Hugs))))
silhouettes
Silver Member
:grouphugg:
sorry you are going through this, im sure that after it stops hurting that you wll realise that you are far better off without someone who would do this to you.
sil
sorry you are going through this, im sure that after it stops hurting that you wll realise that you are far better off without someone who would do this to you.
sil
scrubs up well
Member
Oh Sarah,
I'm so sorry to hear that, like the above postings say, take time out for yourself. I too had a similar thing happen and thought my world had ended but am now, a year on with a lovely respectful man who I wouldnt trade for the world and I'm not half as gorgeous as you x
I send you a big big empowering virual ***hug*** xx
I'm so sorry to hear that, like the above postings say, take time out for yourself. I too had a similar thing happen and thought my world had ended but am now, a year on with a lovely respectful man who I wouldnt trade for the world and I'm not half as gorgeous as you x
I send you a big big empowering virual ***hug*** xx
Jelly belly
Member
Hi Sarah,
Just agreeing with everyone else really.
It's good news that you may be able to stay in the house and as for everyting else just take each day as it comes.
Your probably gonna cry a shed load of tears but each day will get a little easier and then 1 day you'll realise that you havn't cried at all.
We never know what life will throw at us and what lies round each corner.
Take care hun
Jo xx
Just agreeing with everyone else really.
It's good news that you may be able to stay in the house and as for everyting else just take each day as it comes.
Your probably gonna cry a shed load of tears but each day will get a little easier and then 1 day you'll realise that you havn't cried at all.
We never know what life will throw at us and what lies round each corner.
Take care hun
Jo xx
skinnymonkey1day
Silver Member
hugs
:grouphugg:big hugs to u sarah, sorry to hear about your split. if u need to chat u know where we all are.xxx
:grouphugg:big hugs to u sarah, sorry to hear about your split. if u need to chat u know where we all are.xxx
sarah just wanted to say so sorry to read your sad news babes
sending you lots of love and hugs, we all here for u to help you through this xxxx
know how you are feeling, my ex hubby decided to leave a 7 yrs ago after 8yrs together! diffrence being we had 3 kiddies together!
sending you lots of love and hugs, we all here for u to help you through this xxxx
know how you are feeling, my ex hubby decided to leave a 7 yrs ago after 8yrs together! diffrence being we had 3 kiddies together!
everchangingme
Full Member
Sorry to hear your news but as someone else said as one door closes another door opens. If its any help I am nearly always online and my msn log in is [email protected] add me if you like im always good at listening!!
Hugsxxx
Everchangingme
Hugsxxx
Everchangingme
Dobbie
I will get to goal .....
Hey Sarah,
There is hope chick - you might not think so right now, but it's there. I promise. Just over a year ago I went through something similar and at 26 thought that was it for me ... doomed to a life as a spinster!
Without boring you with the details the result of the break-up has been that I am now with a man who adores me and I love him to bits. I too had to rent a room in the house out and now have a great new friend who is also my lodger.
Try and stay positive (I know it's hard) but this is the time you need to focus on yourself and it will get better.
Chin up - and anything you need just give us a shout xx
There is hope chick - you might not think so right now, but it's there. I promise. Just over a year ago I went through something similar and at 26 thought that was it for me ... doomed to a life as a spinster!
Without boring you with the details the result of the break-up has been that I am now with a man who adores me and I love him to bits. I too had to rent a room in the house out and now have a great new friend who is also my lodger.
Try and stay positive (I know it's hard) but this is the time you need to focus on yourself and it will get better.
Chin up - and anything you need just give us a shout xx
Sarah M
Getting the hang of this
Morning everyone, and thank you so much. Ive gone into work today, thought it might help me to keep busy. My lovely little brother stayed at mine last night so i could try and get some sleep, it helped a little although i must have only got about 4 hours with all the tossing and turning - im not used to having a bed to myself!I dropped some stuff of at my husbands mums yesterday that he will need for work and i also got the door keys back, she said that he wasnt there but i suspect that he was hiding in another room. I really hope that he will soon understand that we have to talk about financial stuff, the longer he leaves it the worse its going to get.I dont feel too bad today, tearful but thats probably because ive had to tell my work colleagues, i still dont think it has sunk in.Thanks for all your great advise and for being there everyone xxx
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