STS- Why the hell does it happen

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  1. pancras

    pancras Full Member

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    Sorry everyone but I just need to vent. I sts this week and I feel so mad. I have been on this diet since march and I won't be off it untill next may 2010. In my group the majority have eaten their way though foundation lost and dropped out. I have stuck it out and remained 100% ss. Yet my losses have dropped off and now I have sts. I no longer feel motivated to go to group as over the last month it normally just me and whoever has decided to rejoin and I never see them again.

    The rational part of my brain realises I have lost loads in a short period of time, so maybe it is just my body trying to catch up, however the irrational side of brain feels very short changed and feels why am I spending so much money not to lose weight and attend counselling sessions at which nobody really attends and I am learning zilch.

    Anyway I just wanted to have rant so I could get rid of the negative feelings I am having and not make a silly mistake. I feel better now and I am going to bed and start tomorrow afresh.
     
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  3. thin_inside

    thin_inside I Can Do This!

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    Pancras - vent away.

    It is VERY frustrating when the initial quick losses seem to drop right off. I started in Jan, have been 100% on the programme and it has happened to me. I now expect to be in abstinence until Nov. And I too am the last man standing.

    Congratulations - You have lost loads of weight and must be feeling the difference already. Try and take as much as you can from the meetings. Are you getting the four week module books to work through? I am finding these quite helpful. I know I am still not ready for food again so am trying to focus on some of the CBT stuff and really get my head sorted.

    I have been venting a bit in the January thread, but trying to stay focused and positive and appreciate how far I have come. I know that BL, also 100% abstinent throughout, had some STS weeks. I have had quite a few weeks of just 1lb loss.

    Have you done the milk weeks? I did my first one at 27 weeks after being very frustrated by weeks and weeks of 1-2lb losses. Last wi, week 29, I lost 4.5lb which equals my biggest loss (excluding week 1) and gave me a real boost.

    <<<<< Hugs >>>>> You know this diet works well if you stick to it. Write down all the things you know have changed for the better - face shape, neckline definition, body measurements, small goals achieved, positive strokes received, clothes size, comfort in public spaces, ... there must be loads of them.

    Before you know it it will be next week. Fight the rebellious child one hour, one day at a time.

    And vent away here if you need to. I think this place is a great haven away from the temptations. xx
     
  4. Blonde Logic

    Blonde Logic Yes. You can.

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    Aw, Pancras - I know how frustrating that must be....so as TI said, you vent away lady!!! As you said, your body is just trying to catch up with it all. But I fully appreciate how frustrating that must be.

    People like us, and SB, and others who have a lot to lose - we have really got to show what we are made of to get through this. Losing 100+ pounds is no easy tastk. Daunting at best. And when it slws down, it can indeed give the urge to toss it. But we don't - we stay TOUGH, cause we ARE tough, and we persavere - through all the blood, sweat and tears, and we get through it - and we WIN!

    It takes a lot of bravery to stick to a diet like this as long as we had/have to. A lot. But look what you have acheived already!!!! Would you have ever acheived that on a cheaper alternative like WW? Or SW? I know those diets work - but for massive losses like we have taken on - they generally don't, end up taking three times as long - costing just as much. Try not to look at the financail aspect - I know - easier aid then done - but you ARE losing. Just not this week.

    And those that return and dissappear - well - they are not as strong as you.

    Hang in there.....we are here with you and for you. And the time will pass. In the end, it will seem it passed much much faster, then it seems it will pass now. I treid not to look at the end too much, because it seemed so far away. Try looking at next month - when you will be another stone lighter.

    You are doing amazing....and I am proud of you for doing this!! And doing it so well. ANd by losing the amount of weight you want to lose - when you get to the end, you will know so very well how much this effort was worth it - and you will feel such pride in yourself - and you will value that loss more then anything that it will all feel worth it.

    I don't mean to say losing only 2, 3 or 4 stone is easy. But for us ladies who were really big, and are tackling 9, 10 and upward stones to lose - wow - THAT is amazing. And we CAN and we do, and YOU WILL TOO - we do it.

    Hang in there - your bod will kick into action again. ANd there may be times again in the future you sts, you willlll get there.

    <<<hugs>>> You are not alone, we're sharing the ride with you, and we are here to help push you up that hill, when you feel to tired or frustrated to do it yourself.

    I hope you wake and feel refreshed, and ready to beat those scales!!!!

    You will get through this dip. You will. :) :) :)

    <<<<<<<<<<<hugs>>>>>>>>>>>

    XXX
     
  5. Morticia

    Morticia Happy in my own skin

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    Hi,

    Lots of great advice from BL and TI which I don't have anything to add to. Just wanted to show my support, hang in there, you've done brilliantly so far and it will no doubt pass.

    I also was 100% on the prog, and probably had the smallest losses in my group, but I had to just ignore how others were doing and concentrate on how good I was feeling.
     
  6. Minerva

    Minerva ...passing through.

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    Stay Strong! :)

    You're doing brilliantly! I've found that those with slower weekly losses actually keep the weight off better than those who lose the whole lot in one go... ;) ... And always remember to look at the bigger picture, a weekly loss is insignificant in comparison to the monthly one.
    When I did abstinence, I was the last one standing also... I had extremely slow losses, often 1lbs per week, in the end - in 9 months I had lost 8 stone; so I never quite got the 1 stone per month! But, in the end it made me stronger. By going on, by remaining patient, I slowly built a belief in myself. A sense of self-worth. Why shouldn't I keep going? After all, I was doing it for myself.

    Let me ask you: Who are you doing this for? I know it's hard, but at the end of the day, are you not worthy of your own patience and effort? ;) Of course you are. You would go the extra mile for a loved one, so why not yourself?

    :D Keep going. It's so very much worth it.

    xx
     
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    Pancras, I can't add anything further, but just wanted to let you know I hope you're feeling better today, and can put your amazing losses to date in perspective - you really have done so well, and this is just a tiny blip I'm sure.

    Stay strong, you're doing fab, and we all need a rant every now and then :)
     
  8. jcjazzy

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    Hi Pancras, You've done the right thing posting here,instead off going off the rails.Like you I was the "last one standing" in my foundation group,and I really didn't get much from the CBT sessions at all.However I tried not to focus on that too much.
    At the end of the day I lost a lot of weight in a short time,as you have already, and I was doing it for me.I too had the odd slow week,but found things picked up the following week.Our bodies aren't predictable and behave in odd ways sometimes.Don't lose sight of the long term goals and vent away if it helps.Thats why these boards are here!! xx
     
  9. Needs2losealot

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    Aww i do feel for you hun you have worked so hard and been 100% to sts would upset me to but wow your total loss so far is nothing short of amazing and fantastic keep going your super strong you can see this through.Hope your feeling better now you have had a vent.
    Sending virtual hugs.

    x x x Sam x x x

    x x x Sam x x x
     
  10. pancras

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    I just want to say thank you all for your kind and thoughtful posts. I do feel much better this afternoon and I aim to continue this journey as losing the weight is more important than one week of sts.

    I have also decided that I am going to change my counsellor and do another foundation group elsewhere for the next 100 days. I have about another 6 weeks until the end of this 100 days.

    I think many of my frustrations are to do with the group and I need a new enviroment and new people who are feeling enthuastic and optimistic about the diet to help keep energy levels going.
     
  11. Needs2losealot

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    I think you are so right the group support is so inportant i am lucky to have a great group of ladies.We were talking last night and i said seeing how strong they all are keeps me going because i dont want to be the one that gives up and a few months down the line bump in to one of them having lost there weight and im fatter than i was at the start that thought keeps me strong we have had 3 drop out already and i dont want to be the next and im not going to be the next.Keep strong hope you find a great group and reach your goal.

    x x x Sam x x x
     
  12. Blonde Logic

    Blonde Logic Yes. You can.

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    GReat idea Pancras!!! :)

    Let us know how that goes - thats a very good plan!! good on ya!!

    xx
     
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    Good on you Pancras! You've made the right decision to keep you focused and motivated.Let us know how you get on xx
     
  14. Morticia

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    I think that's a good idea too. The support from the group is a lifeline at times. Good luck with the new one...:)
     
  15. thin_inside

    thin_inside I Can Do This!

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    That's a REALLY good idea to switch LLC and start a new FOundation group. I am still to get to grips with some of the key CBT/TA aspects such as Thought Records and it would be good to do this afresh.

    I know what you mean about the developers group. The folk in mine change so much I can never remember anyones name never mind form any bond. I am already started on my third 'Foundation' :eek:. This is going to be my last set though :D.
     
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    well done pancras =sounds like you've come up with a plan x
     
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