AmandaJayne
Trainee Maintainer
Mornin' Tiger Girl!
"but I did read your management thread avidly, and I know you did lose significantly in management.
Any thoughts?"
I did LL from beginning through development and to the end of management mostly in adaptive child mode. I was afraid to make a mistake and fall off the tightrope - what if I couldn't get back on again? It's only now that I HAVE fallen off the tightrope that I am learning to live in adult mode, and see that I CAN get back on track. What is it they say? You can't make an omelette without cracking an egg.
Mrs L suggests that you take a break for a while and return to SSing at a later date. One of the ladies at my group has done this. She has already lost more than 10 stone and still has another three to go. She has recently finished management and is a slim size 16 down from a 32. She intends to return to SSing next summer (when the weather is warmer) to finally get down to a healthy BMI. Is this an option for you?
You just have 21lbs to lose to get to goal? That's fantastic, you're nearly there.
I think too that we have to think carefully about our subconscious desires. These are what really guide our behaviours and decisions. So, while we consciously WANT to lose weight and be slim and healthy, subconsiously we might actually feel 'safe' being fat - we are in our comfort zone and its safe and comfortable there. Being slim suddenly throws up challenges and difficulties we don't want to deal with.
For example, if you are told to lose weight in order to qualify for medical procedures to enable you to become pregnant and have your own family, you would immediately start dieting. However, as you near your goal, suddenly you can't get rid of the last few lbs, no matter how much you try. What's going on?
What may be happening is that you are coming close to leaving your comfort zone. Suddenly, the dream can actually become a reality and it is scary. What if, when you get slim and have this treatment and you get pregnant and have a baby, what if you can't cope. What if, what if, what if? You may not even be aware that you have these worries, but if they are sitting there in your subconsious mind, it could be a powerful tool that prevents you from successfully losing the last bit of weight. What do you think TG?
"but I did read your management thread avidly, and I know you did lose significantly in management.
Any thoughts?"
I did LL from beginning through development and to the end of management mostly in adaptive child mode. I was afraid to make a mistake and fall off the tightrope - what if I couldn't get back on again? It's only now that I HAVE fallen off the tightrope that I am learning to live in adult mode, and see that I CAN get back on track. What is it they say? You can't make an omelette without cracking an egg.
Mrs L suggests that you take a break for a while and return to SSing at a later date. One of the ladies at my group has done this. She has already lost more than 10 stone and still has another three to go. She has recently finished management and is a slim size 16 down from a 32. She intends to return to SSing next summer (when the weather is warmer) to finally get down to a healthy BMI. Is this an option for you?
You just have 21lbs to lose to get to goal? That's fantastic, you're nearly there.
I think too that we have to think carefully about our subconscious desires. These are what really guide our behaviours and decisions. So, while we consciously WANT to lose weight and be slim and healthy, subconsiously we might actually feel 'safe' being fat - we are in our comfort zone and its safe and comfortable there. Being slim suddenly throws up challenges and difficulties we don't want to deal with.
For example, if you are told to lose weight in order to qualify for medical procedures to enable you to become pregnant and have your own family, you would immediately start dieting. However, as you near your goal, suddenly you can't get rid of the last few lbs, no matter how much you try. What's going on?
What may be happening is that you are coming close to leaving your comfort zone. Suddenly, the dream can actually become a reality and it is scary. What if, when you get slim and have this treatment and you get pregnant and have a baby, what if you can't cope. What if, what if, what if? You may not even be aware that you have these worries, but if they are sitting there in your subconsious mind, it could be a powerful tool that prevents you from successfully losing the last bit of weight. What do you think TG?
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