Things that annoy me about being big - how about you?

[Jesca]

This is to rant about all the things that annoy me, and to encourage others to let go!

1. Making an appt to be shown around my local David Lloyd, and the bloke taking me to the board with all the info on free/paid for courses etc, then going on endlessly about the Lose it and shape up programme, telling me how much weight the most successful member had lost etc. I got really annoyed, I never asked him about it and people were walking past overhearing it!
2. It's a mistake to tell anyone you're trying to eat healthily, because most of them say at some point, while you're tucking into something you enjoy and are allowed "I thought you were dieting...?"
3. Friends who think they're helping by sticking their head in the sand and telling you, at 25st, "oh you're ok" when I'm clearly not just a few pounds/stone overweight!
4. If anyone knows you're dieting, they only want to talk about food 90% of the time.

All these are understandable but annoying nevertheless!

Your turn!

 

[Dreamer]

I really empathise with point 2 and 3! It's awful! I've lost 2 stone, if I want 1 chocolate then I'll damn well have one! And I hate arguing with my friends against them saying my weight is ok, because it's not good psychologically for me to have to say I'm not ok repeatedly. I'm obese, I have about 13 diabetic aunts and uncles out of 15 of them. My father is diabetic. My mum and brother are overweight too. Strokes run in the family. It's not ok for me to ignore the health implications, and the psychological impact of me being so big!

Another thing I hate, is when I make an effort to exercise outside, I get sarcastic whistles and 20something yr old guys laughing at me. It's horrible. I feel they're nothing but bullies. They don't realise heckling at someone while driving past, even just one comment, it can be enough to make that person want to crawl back home and eat more food, and not think of going out exercising again!

 

[rugbykirsty87]

i empathise with all of those points.

The one thing i don't like is when somoene who is clearly not overweight keeps on saying 'im so fat i need to lose at least a stone'. I used to think, try having to lose 5 of them!!

ive also been told, I used to be ugly when i was fat but now im not as fat I look prettier, its as if because ive lost some weight its okay to be rude to me, and that im doing this purely for vanity. Ill admit im liking how im changing, but having had one stroke already and im only 23, I dont want to have another one and nobody seems to understand that.

 

[Dia Dhuit Puisín]

I hate listening to my (stick thin) MIL and SILs talking about the sartorial decisions of other women e.g. "She's too big to be wearing that.", "I can't believe she's wearing that." or "What is she wearing?" knowing that they'll probably be saying the same thing about me once I'm out of earshot.

Not being able to get clothes I like in shops due to my size.

Getting those looks in the gym or swimming pool when I go to exercise.

 

[rugbykirsty87]

I was so paranoid when I worked in a gym I use to give 'those' looks although I was a big person myself.

 

[Just Peachy]

Getting looks while working out definitely sucks.

Feeling guilty whenever I eat pretty much anything in public other than an apple.

Shopping is such a task.

People telling me I'm 'curvy', not fat. It's just another nice word for it.

In social situations, people giving me bigger plates and portions than others because they figure I eat more than everyone else, or offering me a second serving of dinner or even dessert.

People not taking you seriously when you say you're watching what you're eating.

How bigger clothes always look uglier than smaller clothes, and how much more space they take up in a suitcase lol.

I'm pretty sure the list could go on and on..

 

[Poppy_2010]

This is to rant about all the things that annoy me, and to encourage others to let go!

1. Making an appt to be shown around my local David Lloyd, and the bloke taking me to the board with all the info on free/paid for courses etc, then going on endlessly about the Lose it and shape up programme, telling me how much weight the most successful member had lost etc. I got really annoyed, I never asked him about it and people were walking past overhearing it!
2. It's a mistake to tell anyone you're trying to eat healthily, because most of them say at some point, while you're tucking into something you enjoy and are allowed "I thought you were dieting...?"
3. Friends who think they're helping by sticking their head in the sand and telling you, at 25st, "oh you're ok" when I'm clearly not just a few pounds/stone overweight!
4. If anyone knows you're dieting, they only want to talk about food 90% of the time.

All these are understandable but annoying nevertheless!

Your turn!

Hahaha, love it lol, and totally agree. I get really peeed when people say to me ''you're not fat, you're voluptuous'', or ''you're not overweight your fine'' or the best one.,....''you're just big boned''....I know they're trying to be nice but lying to me isn't gonna change the size of my butt. And the ''aren't you on a diet thing''.....there's been so many times where I've exercised perfect self control and had one rolo for example, only for someone to say ''er should you be eating that?...and get me so annoyed I end up eating the whole bloody tube just to spite them.

 

[thistimeisdifferent]

People's attitudes annoy me far more than being fat actually does! I sit on a bus, and I guarantee I will be the LAST PERSON that anyone will sit next to - I don't know if they think I am going to eat them. In fact I have noticed people would rather sit next to a tramp or a smack head than a fat person. And they cringe if you dare speak to them, like they're mortified that a fatty has spoken to them. Grrrr. I also hate that any solitary thing I eat in public attracts complete strangers shaking their head in disgust, like I should NEVER eat a thing! Any exercising I do seems to bring out the loal retards shouting various derogatory remarks, I was once swimming and some blokes were making coments about calling Greenpeace as there was a beached whale! That was awful, I wanted to get out but couldn't as everyone was looking at me. I was the last one out and cried. I could understand nasty comments if I was sat there eating cream cakes and lard but I was trying to do something about it. People can be disgusting.

 

[Poppy_2010]

I could understand nasty comments if I was sat there eating cream cakes and lard but I was trying to do something about it. People can be disgusting.[/QUOTE]

That sounds awful, if you're trying to change your health and stuff for the better people should be encouraging you not making comments. I wouldn't worry about it, they sound like the same mindless idiots that would pick on anyone regardless of their fault, to make themselves feel better about their own sad little lives. Ignore them, and keep doing what you're doing, it'll be worth it in the end!

 

[thistimeisdifferent]

The saddest thing for me is that given the choice I would swim every day, I love it. But I just won't go now. At one point I used to hire the entire pool all for myself lol, it cost £40 for an hour hah how mad was that?!!

 

[Jesca]

Another thing I hate, is when I make an effort to exercise outside, I get sarcastic whistles and 20something yr old guys laughing at me. It's horrible. I feel they're nothing but bullies. They don't realise heckling at someone while driving past, even just one comment, it can be enough to make that person want to crawl back home and eat more food, and not think of going out exercising again!

TBH that's the reason I go to a gym, people are generally far more interested in themselves and their own goals to worry about anyone else, plus I like the air conditioning lol!

ive also been told, I used to be ugly when i was fat but now im not as fat I look prettier, its as if because ive lost some weight its okay to be rude to me, and that im doing this purely for vanity. Ill admit im liking how im changing, but having had one stroke already and im only 23, I dont want to have another one and nobody seems to understand that.

I'm sorry to hear that, I had no idea you'd had a stroke, I hope you're ok now but people just won't understand because luckily they've had no experience of it.

Fat doesn't equal ugly any more than skinny equals beautiful, I'm glad you've brought this up actually because people used to say to me (family moreso!) that "you'd be so pretty if you were slim!" and I used to wonder how, I mean my face will still be the same face!

Luckily I haven't heard that in a long time, I must have the right friends, besides, I think I'm pretty in my own way, and that's all that counts!!

I hate listening to my (stick thin) MIL and SILs talking about the sartorial decisions of other women e.g. "She's too big to be wearing that.", "I can't believe she's wearing that." or "What is she wearing?" knowing that they'll probably be saying the same thing about me once I'm out of earshot.

TBH that's not the preserve of the slim, I do that too but it's more because I see some people with lovely figures who dress dreadfully, I just want to take them and give them to Gok Wan for a makeover! But then I'm a judgemental person, unless I know you, then you won't hear a peep and I won't think it!

How bigger clothes always look uglier than smaller clothes, and how much more space they take up in a suitcase lol.

Thank you!!!! Whenever I go away with any of my friends, they always comment that I pack so much - I always explain that I don't bring more, but my clothes are over twice the size, so it makes sense that my suitcase would be bigger, they all go "yeah right, whatever hahaha!", but it's true!!

Hahaha, love it lol, and totally agree. I get really peeed when people say to me ''you're not fat, you're voluptuous'', or ''you're not overweight your fine'' or the best one.,....''you're just big boned''....I know they're trying to be nice but lying to me isn't gonna change the size of my butt.

:8855:hahahahaha!!:8855:

Medical people. My nurse had a real go at me about attending a weight loss clinic , ignored a problem i'm having at the moment with my leg and blamed my weight! The ****** ****** can ***** and I never swear.
Why not treat me as a person instead of a load of lard?

Another thing- i'd like to have a friend I could text/call to rant about weight. It's hard being open with people you know at my size , they don't understand being more than 2 stone overweight and judge you. Grrrrrr

You need to see someone else, I'm always on guard about that but I feel lucky that my GP surgery is a good one and they never fob me off, if they did I'd get a second opinion fast!

You do have friends you can moan to, you have us!

The saddest thing for me is that given the choice I would swim every day, I love it. But I just won't go now. At one point I used to hire the entire pool all for myself lol, it cost £40 for an hour hah how mad was that?!!

Sorry, I laughed out loud when I read that, it's not funny really but it tickled me! Probably because I can see myself doing exactly that hahaha!

I pay £66 a month now to go to a gym (David Lloyd) with an adults only pool as they tend to not pay any attention plus it's almost always nice and quiet, how about seeing if you can find somewhere like that?

 

[assj]

i echo most of the above, one that gets on my tits is when i am out and i have a small healthy meal, people look at me as if to say "yeah right, she'll be stuffing her face full of junk when she gets home" grr
i hate to say this but my OH really pees me off when he looks in the mirror or grabs his belly (hardly anything) and says "i am sooooo fat, i need to lose so much weight, i have tits etc etc" erm excuse me that belly your moaning about is called skin! and those "tits" you supposedly have are called nipples!! lol

 

[DopeyAngel]

Ugh. Whenever I used to talk about my weight some of my size 8 friends would go 'Oh, you don't, you're already gorgeous, I need to lose loads, look at this <as they grab non-existent fold of flab>, I hate myself <as they walk around beach in nothing but a pair of bikini bottoms>'

So I went to the Doctor. And got him to tell me to lose weight. So then I just said, 'Err, well I really have to lose weight. The GP says I have to lose 4 stone.' And that shut them up a bit.

 

[Just Peachy]

Jesca, I know it's ridiculous! And I find that I need stuff that slim people don't need, like lycra shorts to go under my skirts so my thighs don't rub, and a beach shawl to go over my swim suit, and cardigans to cover my flabby arms. Bet they didn't think of that, eh?

I also want to give a lot of people Gok Wan makeovers

 

[Hope123]

I hate not being able to wear shorts, mini skirts or a dress that goes above my knee's. I hate the way I haven't worn a bathing suit since I was 11. I hate always looking for tops that will cover or hide my arms or top. I dislike summertime...Hopefully those things will change soon.

 

[Lynn_]

Im just over half way to goal now, but my pet hate is people telling not to lose too much, that i will be too thin at my goal (chance would be a fine thing haha). I weigh just over 14st now, and i want to be just over 11st which will put my BMI at 24.9, JUST inside the normal weight range. No one can tell me thats too thin, but they try to and it really pees me off. Even my hubby has started saying it grrrrrr...

Ok, thats not really the answer to this thread, but its the thing that most annoys me at the moment. So, what really annoys me about being big? I guess my own mental attitude. I really still feel very awkward about going into 'normal size clothes' shops. I just cannot shake the feeling that i really shouldnt be in there lol

 

[Toots]

xxxxx

 

[thistimeisdifferent]

I thought of something else!! I hate the sanctimonious health care 'professionals' who repeatedly tell you than any and every ailment you present with is because you're overweight. Then, in a final smack in the face they tell you that they can't do very much to help you unlerss you're a normal BMI. I have had this a few times, latterly with a laparoscopy I needed but they won't do until I am fifteen stone. Heroin addicts get help, anorexics get help BUT if you're fat you're simply told to just not eat so much. Well why not try telling smack heads to take less drugs!!

 

[x Nee x]

People's attitudes annoy me far more than being fat actually does! I sit on a bus, and I guarantee I will be the LAST PERSON that anyone will sit next to - I don't know if they think I am going to eat them. In fact I have noticed people would rather sit next to a tramp or a smack head than a fat person. And they cringe if you dare speak to them, like they're mortified that a fatty has spoken to them. Grrrr. I also hate that any solitary thing I eat in public attracts complete strangers shaking their head in disgust, like I should NEVER eat a thing! Any exercising I do seems to bring out the loal retards shouting various derogatory remarks, I was once swimming and some blokes were making coments about calling Greenpeace as there was a beached whale! That was awful, I wanted to get out but couldn't as everyone was looking at me. I was the last one out and cried. I could understand nasty comments if I was sat there eating cream cakes and lard but I was trying to do something about it. People can be disgusting.

I know exactly what you mean by the bus thing, I was travelling daily on a bus and was always the last one people would sit next too, but then to top it off, the somehow start a conversation about how they need to lose weight like WTF is it to to tell me I need to or is it because they feel so awkward sitting next to a fat person???

My biggest hate is how people look at me when Im out, there is this stare that turns into a double take and if Im really lucky a third and even better than that a stand still and stare!! I know Im big, why make it even worse for me by making me feel like an alien!!!

Another thing that gets me really low is my 2 closest friends, one is a size 8 and has started saying how she needs to lose weight..>WHY??!!! and the other is 5ft 10, was 14st and now 11st and looks great, but still wants to shift that bit more and whilst we were out yesterday I know what I chose to eat was good food and she was umming over it and then watched how much I left which was more than both of them

Love them to bits but seriously, cant they see what it makes me feel like, I even said yesterday about hating being fat and hoping my diet is working and they say 'no, your fine'

Ooooh that turned out to be a longer post than I had planned

 

[fortyandfat]

the thing i hate the most is the non support from my family. i have recently given up smoking and when i say i really want a ciggie (my other half smokes, but he goes in the garden or out the window!) they all say no way and give me horrid looks.
when i was stuffing my face with pizza last night they were all trying to get me to eat more. i pointed out the fact and had a very heated discussion with my partner and my 16 year old daughter that they stop me from lighting up but encourage me to eat more!! made me sooo mad.
felt like throwing in the towel last night. was so depressed but then relised today that it was totm and had a bit of pmt so im fully back with the land of the living today and if they get me to eat food im going to ram it down their skinny ass throats