SLACK ALICE
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As per my other post, I didnt want to clog it up with my worries, so I'll put it here where i could do with some advice, help, guidance - call it whatever, but right now i dont know what to do, say or think...
please read
on the wednesday before christmas i went to work at night and as i was going up the hill the van slid on ice and then it slid down the hill sideways - very scary then the van came to a halt - called hubby to come get me - he came and then another car appeared at the top of the hill and the guy got out and walked down the hill and told me if i didnt move my van then he would....by ramming his car into the side of it !!!. OMg IT was very frightening. As hubby was getting out of van he slipped on ice and hurt his arm. On Christmas day hubby was moaning that his arm was hurting -so we went to A and E, turns out he had broken it and had been at work the day before lifting stretchers and made it worse. Anyway we managed to get the van turned around and back down the hill. I couldnt go to work as the other hill was too bad to go up aswell. My eldest daughter arrived to see if she could help but we was fine.
Then daughters MIL phoned to tell them that Daughters boyfriends workshops had been broken into and all his welding things had been stolen - there was thousands of pounds worth of stuff in there, so we was all gutted, they found fingerprints and blood etc- and this week they have finally caught the thieving bleeders..
.....So finally could this year get started??
NO !!
this week my hubby foned me at work to tell me Alec had died... I just totally lost it.. Alec is my brother !!...I just couldnt do anything ...I slammed the fone down on him and ran of the desk to find another fone ... and when i did he then explained to me that he did say it was my uncle Alec (whom i dont really know) and that he wouldnt have foned me anyway to tell me that my brother had died- so you can well imagine what my heart was doing ... I was in a right state...
THen yesterday i went into work and i said hello to a friend and she said 'hi' and i said'hi' ...then she said had i heard about Trish?.. I immediately thought that my other friend of 26 yrs(Trish)had finally left her lazy, good for nothing husband. who lays in his bed all day and does nothing, Trish does it all - as in all of it - even going out and cutting wood for the house whilst he lays in bed Her 3 kids treat her like crap and dont respect her and one of her brothers uses her as a babysitting service and has done for the past 11 years!!... But Trish being Trish never says no...
So I said to this friend 'No, whats happened'..?......
she told me that Trish has tried to kill herself - with a gun OMG
My heart was pounding, my head thumping i wanted to throw up ...I had this vision in my head... and i just stood there in the middle of the foyer in Tescos crying... I went out the back , i couldnt breathe, god what do i do ???
I didnt know what to do ,,,I couldnt talk .I was just crying over and over again...how the hell did things get that bad for her to do that ??
My boss got someone to take me home and i walked in the house..hubby said why you home? you ok?, have you crashed the car? etc .. in the end I told him it wasnt me or the bloody car it was Pat (friends name is Patricia, some call her Pat ,others call her Trisha- same person though)
he asked what.. and i couldnt speak i was just blubbering and mumbling????
I told him and he was so shocked it was unreal
WE managed to phone her other brother and arranged to go see her in hospital.
Omg ,she is in such a mess, I have never seen so many tubes and machines , when we walked in she was asleep in ICU and i just looked at her and thought OMg Pat what have you done.?
The nurse woke her and asked if it was ok to see us (as she has been turning people away) and she said yes. I went over and held her hand ..OMG Shes in a mess. She obviously meant to kill herself but she missed , but took part of her face off.OMG Both me and hubby didnt know wot to say to her and we said this to her (she is unable to talk but the nurses have given her pen and paper). She just replied ,''not a lot to say '' :cry::cry:
I cant believe she has done this - why on hell if things were that bad ,didnt she just get out, but not that way please, I just dont what to say, its bad. It turns out that her lazy git of a husband has accused her of having affairs (she never would) and then to make thing worse her son started accusing her aswell ... Imean what kind of idiots are these ?
Pat being pat will just shrug it all off and just say ''oh well'' !! But its not fine she should never had gone this far. its so wrong- she has 3 kids and a granddaughter . AARRGGHG I just feel I need to blame someone , she shouldnt be like this
its so sad , its just not right.
You see I dont know what to say or do for the best.. I keep going over how she did it in my head, cos obvioulsy it was told to us in a lot more detailed way than I have put on here. but i'm just muddled and scared for her , I feel lost and i dunno what I feel - shes a friend .....
sorry
please read
on the wednesday before christmas i went to work at night and as i was going up the hill the van slid on ice and then it slid down the hill sideways - very scary then the van came to a halt - called hubby to come get me - he came and then another car appeared at the top of the hill and the guy got out and walked down the hill and told me if i didnt move my van then he would....by ramming his car into the side of it !!!. OMg IT was very frightening. As hubby was getting out of van he slipped on ice and hurt his arm. On Christmas day hubby was moaning that his arm was hurting -so we went to A and E, turns out he had broken it and had been at work the day before lifting stretchers and made it worse. Anyway we managed to get the van turned around and back down the hill. I couldnt go to work as the other hill was too bad to go up aswell. My eldest daughter arrived to see if she could help but we was fine.
Then daughters MIL phoned to tell them that Daughters boyfriends workshops had been broken into and all his welding things had been stolen - there was thousands of pounds worth of stuff in there, so we was all gutted, they found fingerprints and blood etc- and this week they have finally caught the thieving bleeders..
.....So finally could this year get started??
NO !!
this week my hubby foned me at work to tell me Alec had died... I just totally lost it.. Alec is my brother !!...I just couldnt do anything ...I slammed the fone down on him and ran of the desk to find another fone ... and when i did he then explained to me that he did say it was my uncle Alec (whom i dont really know) and that he wouldnt have foned me anyway to tell me that my brother had died- so you can well imagine what my heart was doing ... I was in a right state...
THen yesterday i went into work and i said hello to a friend and she said 'hi' and i said'hi' ...then she said had i heard about Trish?.. I immediately thought that my other friend of 26 yrs(Trish)had finally left her lazy, good for nothing husband. who lays in his bed all day and does nothing, Trish does it all - as in all of it - even going out and cutting wood for the house whilst he lays in bed Her 3 kids treat her like crap and dont respect her and one of her brothers uses her as a babysitting service and has done for the past 11 years!!... But Trish being Trish never says no...
So I said to this friend 'No, whats happened'..?......
she told me that Trish has tried to kill herself - with a gun OMG
My heart was pounding, my head thumping i wanted to throw up ...I had this vision in my head... and i just stood there in the middle of the foyer in Tescos crying... I went out the back , i couldnt breathe, god what do i do ???
I didnt know what to do ,,,I couldnt talk .I was just crying over and over again...how the hell did things get that bad for her to do that ??
My boss got someone to take me home and i walked in the house..hubby said why you home? you ok?, have you crashed the car? etc .. in the end I told him it wasnt me or the bloody car it was Pat (friends name is Patricia, some call her Pat ,others call her Trisha- same person though)
he asked what.. and i couldnt speak i was just blubbering and mumbling????
I told him and he was so shocked it was unreal
WE managed to phone her other brother and arranged to go see her in hospital.
Omg ,she is in such a mess, I have never seen so many tubes and machines , when we walked in she was asleep in ICU and i just looked at her and thought OMg Pat what have you done.?
The nurse woke her and asked if it was ok to see us (as she has been turning people away) and she said yes. I went over and held her hand ..OMG Shes in a mess. She obviously meant to kill herself but she missed , but took part of her face off.OMG Both me and hubby didnt know wot to say to her and we said this to her (she is unable to talk but the nurses have given her pen and paper). She just replied ,''not a lot to say '' :cry::cry:
I cant believe she has done this - why on hell if things were that bad ,didnt she just get out, but not that way please, I just dont what to say, its bad. It turns out that her lazy git of a husband has accused her of having affairs (she never would) and then to make thing worse her son started accusing her aswell ... Imean what kind of idiots are these ?
Pat being pat will just shrug it all off and just say ''oh well'' !! But its not fine she should never had gone this far. its so wrong- she has 3 kids and a granddaughter . AARRGGHG I just feel I need to blame someone , she shouldnt be like this
its so sad , its just not right.
You see I dont know what to say or do for the best.. I keep going over how she did it in my head, cos obvioulsy it was told to us in a lot more detailed way than I have put on here. but i'm just muddled and scared for her , I feel lost and i dunno what I feel - shes a friend .....
sorry
