Does anyone have a good grasp on this concept who could maybe explain it a bit for me? We have done it a couple of times and I understand the basic concept but I dont really know how to work out what ego state I am in. I have a confession. I was having a brilliant week until Saturday when emotional eating reared its ugly head and I have now had a 3 day mega binge. I am off to class in a couple of hours to see how I have done this week and we are talking about ego states tonight which will be a great help considering where my head has been these last three days. Its quite sad really that we let things totally out of our control affect us the way they do, however on the positive side at least I am learning to recognise these traits in myself and learn the skills to prevent them happening. Basically it was Megan's birthday on Saturday and she was 13. My ex-twat forgot her birthday and didn't send her a card or present. It eventually turned up on Monday but wasn't posted until Saturday so he had obviously forgotten. Quite plainly with the carry on at the weekend I was so not in my adult when I went on a binge. I am pretty sure I was in rebellious child or possibly critical controlling parent, not quite sure. I know what I should have done to be in my adult but didn't know that until after the event.