Hi, I have PCOS and have 2 gorgeous girls. I had surgery to remove really large cysts and as soon as I got the all clear I went on the CD, lost 2 stone and got pregnant on my first. I was still 16 stone when I got pregnant and developed gestational diabetes which luckily I was able to manage through the diabetic diet. It was tough, really really tough but the thoughts that my weight and my blood sugar was directly affecting my child and could actually harm them was devastating. But the thoughts of eating junk and by that even white bread and butter was spiking my childs blood sugars and causing them to have their own blood sugar problems or making them grow larger than normal was enough to keep me on the straight and narrow. Even then when she was born she had to have her blood sugar monitored as it would go from really low to high. I was induced at 37 weeks because she was measuring larger for her dates around her middle(a sign that they are in trouble blood sugar wise) I then fell pregnant unexpectedly when my daughter was 4 months old. I started the diabetic diet the minute I found out. I luckily was only borderline for gestational diabetes but it was hard work with the diet and I actually lost 2 stone while pregnant but my daughter was taking into the NICU for 3 days because of low blood sugar. I cant tell you how much I cried and felt like I failed her. She was kept in hospital for 11 days, I will never forget it and still blame myself.
I dont want to scare you or anything like that but give you my story. My daughters are very healthy strong children but I always worry that they will develop childhood diabetes as because of my gestational diabetes they have a higher chance of developing it. I dont want type 2 diabetes myself but I am heading there. I watch what they eat, limit sugar and I breastfed them for a long time to help bring down the chances of developing diabetes. I would love another child but I will make sure I lose the weight first before even thinking of getting pregnant. It was actually the reason for me to start dieting, I faffed around with WW and SW but nothing was shifting. I tried lowcarbing for a while but I wasn't really trying. I found myself bawling crying watching a maternity programme and it was the kick up the arse I need to take my weight and diet seriously. I will need to go on Metformin and Clomid when we start trying again, but I am hugely overweight and my doctor wont give it to me, I dont want him to give it to me. I want to have a healthy pregnancy without the constant worry and guilt.
I would really suggest you go on either liptotrim,exante,cambridge or slim and save to get some weight off. If you really stick to it you could have a lot of the 9stone gone in 9 or 10 months. Try low carbing or following a diabetic diet. Those of us with PCOS have it harder with blood sugar, hormones and losing weight but there has to come a time when you say "no I will not let my PCOS take away my body and my chance at a family from me". It took me a long time with excuses for my weight and there are days I just want to binge, its easy to use my PCOS as an excuse but I am so unhappy in myself and I dont want my children being affected not only in the womb but now when I have no energy to run around with them, I dont want them to think my size is ok. Sorry I sound really preachy but I just want to assure you that yes you can lose the weight and you can have a happy and healthy pregnancy with support from your doctor, but if you got pregnant at the weight you are you are putting both yourself and your baby at risk, i am sorry to be blunt. Take it a day at a time, get support from where you can and I wish you all the best in the world. We had been trying for over 2 years for a baby and it wasn't until I lost that first chunk of weight that I got pregnant. Best of luck, you can do it