mod-karen79
rainbows holiday buddy :)
so sorry to hear about your dad vicky - am thinking of you and hope the antibiotics do the trick. take care xxx
Vicky82's SW Diary
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Vicky
There is not a lot I can say but my thoughts are with you. I have been there with my mum who had cancer and if you ever need a rant please just get in touch. Sounds to me like you are doing everything he could ask so be proud of yourself but dont be ashamed to cry or say you need help - after all you are but a mere mortal x x
There is not a lot I can say but my thoughts are with you. I have been there with my mum who had cancer and if you ever need a rant please just get in touch. Sounds to me like you are doing everything he could ask so be proud of yourself but dont be ashamed to cry or say you need help - after all you are but a mere mortal x x
united_trekkie
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Tottally agree with Tenbars - been through it myself with my mum, she was only 56. Vicky you are doing all you can, and doing him proud
Thanks everyone. Hes getting worse by the hour to be honest. Last saturday he was out cutting the grass and going for a meal with they guys he used to work with before he retired. Now he cant feed himself, walk properly cause his coordination is so poor. He told me he wanted a smoke, I got him one and he said, what do I do with it? Then for a while hes joking and talking about something on the tv.
When we found out before xmas that he had terminal lung cancer I thought my world had fell apart, I knew that at some point things would get bad and the lung cancer would overcome him but I never ever thought this would happen.
We dont know for sure yet that it is cancer on the brain but the Doctor has said basically theres nothing else it could be to cause this. The nurse was out today and filled me and mum in on things that might happen like fits, losing his sight, hearing, slurring words.
Im not a very strong person and im finding it so bloody hard to cope. Me and mum have agreed that it probably best that dad dosnt know about the cancer moving to his brain cause he would just go to pieces. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Its at times like this that I wish I had a brother or sister. Sorry for going on but im just devestated and feel lost.
When we found out before xmas that he had terminal lung cancer I thought my world had fell apart, I knew that at some point things would get bad and the lung cancer would overcome him but I never ever thought this would happen.
We dont know for sure yet that it is cancer on the brain but the Doctor has said basically theres nothing else it could be to cause this. The nurse was out today and filled me and mum in on things that might happen like fits, losing his sight, hearing, slurring words.
Im not a very strong person and im finding it so bloody hard to cope. Me and mum have agreed that it probably best that dad dosnt know about the cancer moving to his brain cause he would just go to pieces. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Its at times like this that I wish I had a brother or sister. Sorry for going on but im just devestated and feel lost.
Nanny Jax
getting back on track
Awww Vick, i am so sorry hun, I am sure all the girls on here agree with me when I say you are doing great, you are a strong person Vick, you even leave a skid mark!!!!! You will do yur dad proud, thank you for keeping us updated babe, we are all thinking about u and ur troubles chick, take care XXX
united_trekkie
GO TEAM FFF
Vicky - please come on here anytime and tell us how you feel ..if that helps..we are all here for you, and as some of us have said, we've been there and know exactly what you're going through:cry:
So much has happened in the past few days. Saturday we had to call an ambulance as our nurse was very concerned about daddy. Long story short, sunday he had a brain scan and it was confirmed that the cancer has moved and spread. They started him on a high dose of steroids and hes like a new man now, up walking with me and nearly back to his old self.
He knew something was wrong with him and we had to tell him in terms that he would understand. That was hard but he said ok, lets get on with it cause we have fought so much.
Then we spoke to a specialist and our world came to an end. We thought with the steroids that he would maybe get a few months. The steroids will only work for a week or so, because the cancer is still spreading fast. We have been told its only a matter of weeks.
We have arranged a special bed and wheelchair and everything that he needs so we can bring him home which will be tomorrow and he cant wait. He has no idea thats its going to be that fast but everyone agrees that it would do him more harm to tell him.
We have been at the hosp from 6am to 11pm every day and im so knackered. We have all the nurses lined up to help, thank god I did my 3rd level of nursing years ago before I decided to fall down some stairs and now im unable to lift so cant do that job anymore.
My daddy would never ever want to be 80, sitting in a nursing home. The wee 90 year old man beside him in hospital is basically dead and daddy keeps saying thats never going to be me. We have had a crap few days but dad will be happier like this. Sometimes everything happends for a reason in life, but its still hard.
He knew something was wrong with him and we had to tell him in terms that he would understand. That was hard but he said ok, lets get on with it cause we have fought so much.
Then we spoke to a specialist and our world came to an end. We thought with the steroids that he would maybe get a few months. The steroids will only work for a week or so, because the cancer is still spreading fast. We have been told its only a matter of weeks.
We have arranged a special bed and wheelchair and everything that he needs so we can bring him home which will be tomorrow and he cant wait. He has no idea thats its going to be that fast but everyone agrees that it would do him more harm to tell him.
We have been at the hosp from 6am to 11pm every day and im so knackered. We have all the nurses lined up to help, thank god I did my 3rd level of nursing years ago before I decided to fall down some stairs and now im unable to lift so cant do that job anymore.
My daddy would never ever want to be 80, sitting in a nursing home. The wee 90 year old man beside him in hospital is basically dead and daddy keeps saying thats never going to be me. We have had a crap few days but dad will be happier like this. Sometimes everything happends for a reason in life, but its still hard.
mod-karen79
rainbows holiday buddy :)
i'm so sorry about what you and your family are all going through - it's heartbreaking. i can't even begin to imagine how you're feeling.
take care of each other and if you need to offload we are all here for you xxx
take care of each other and if you need to offload we are all here for you xxx
