JimJam87
Determined to do this
Oh I just don't know what to do I'm so torn and need some advice!
I'm 23 and me and my OH (who's 28) have been together since I was 16 - 7 years now. We were good up until about a year ago, when we started 'taking breaks' and become a bit on-off. We split up in February this year and only got back together in June. This means we've been back together for all of 3 months and I'm already doubting our relationship, that can't be good surely?! During the 4 months or so that we were split, I did a lot better than I thought I would do, and I think i grew quite a lot as a person. I wonder if this has anything to do with how I feel now.
I love him to bits but I dont think I'm IN love with him anymore. Everything he does at the moment just irritates me. We're not arguing loads, in fact not really at all, but I just look at him and think I dont want this anymore!
I'm not ready for this at the minute, but definitely in a few years I want to be thinking about getting married and having kids, and I dont think he has any interest in this at all. Surely at nearly 29, he should be thinking about settling down?!
The thing is when we split earlier in the year, he went to stay with his friends in their spare room because he didn't want to move back in with his dad as he saw it as a step backwards. I don't think he could or would want to go back to his friend's house and I feel like it's my responsibility to make sure he'd have somewhere to stay. i guess he could go back to his dad's if he really had to.
Sorry for the essay, I know I'm rambling and this probably doesn't make much sense, but it just helps to put it all down in words :sigh:
I'm 23 and me and my OH (who's 28) have been together since I was 16 - 7 years now. We were good up until about a year ago, when we started 'taking breaks' and become a bit on-off. We split up in February this year and only got back together in June. This means we've been back together for all of 3 months and I'm already doubting our relationship, that can't be good surely?! During the 4 months or so that we were split, I did a lot better than I thought I would do, and I think i grew quite a lot as a person. I wonder if this has anything to do with how I feel now.
I love him to bits but I dont think I'm IN love with him anymore. Everything he does at the moment just irritates me. We're not arguing loads, in fact not really at all, but I just look at him and think I dont want this anymore!
I'm not ready for this at the minute, but definitely in a few years I want to be thinking about getting married and having kids, and I dont think he has any interest in this at all. Surely at nearly 29, he should be thinking about settling down?!
The thing is when we split earlier in the year, he went to stay with his friends in their spare room because he didn't want to move back in with his dad as he saw it as a step backwards. I don't think he could or would want to go back to his friend's house and I feel like it's my responsibility to make sure he'd have somewhere to stay. i guess he could go back to his dad's if he really had to.
Sorry for the essay, I know I'm rambling and this probably doesn't make much sense, but it just helps to put it all down in words :sigh: