JanD
maintaining since June'09
I keep saying I've learned loads on this Lipotrim Journey so I thought - as I'm nearing the end of this first stage - I should qualify that statement. For myself as much as anything.
I've learned that - contrary to what I believed (and worried about) for a LONG time - I CAN do without alcohol ... easily actually.
And that NOT drinking doesn't make a blind bit of difference to any occasion I might attend, or visit to the pub with friends or whatever.
Ditto food. It hasn't worried me in the least cooking for others, being out with people who are eating etc.
And not eating doesn't make a blind bit of difference to those occasions either.
Once or twice I've pointed out to people when they say "it's not fair" or "it's not right" that they're eating/drinking when I'm not, that this is their issue. If I'm quite happy with it, the fact that it bothers them isn't really my problem. And do you know what?? It stops right there - they carry on enjoying themselves and I've become convinced that what they say is just noises they make because they feel they should. Once they see I'm genuinely not bothered, they really don't care. (and that's great!)
I've learned that while I'm at work I don't need all the snacks I used to think I did "to keep me going through the night" - that I was having them out of habit, or boredom or whatever.
I've learned that I can feel I want/need something and just not have it .... the earth carries on turning, the sky stays up .... I just don't have to satisfy any cravings - they go away just the same.
I use to think that a regime like this was completely anti-social but in fact my life has carried on in exactly the same way - I have been to (and catered for actually) celebrations and get-togethers. Have been to the pub with DH every week. Been to the theatre a couple of times and even been away to Scotland for a 5 day break and I haven't strayed from the programme once. I've never even been tempted so I've had confirmed something that I already knew. If I put my mind to something and decide I'm going to do it I give it 100% and just don't allow thoughts of straying to enter my head.
So I'm still strong-minded (some might say stubborn - but I couldn't possibly comment )
I've learned that if there's one person you can trust to tell you the truth about smelly breath it's a small child ..
I've learned that water truly is life-enhancing and there's not one issue on this plan that can't be helped by copious amounts of it ... (including !!!)
I've learned to love sparkling water (used to hate it!) and flapjacks LOL!
I've learned that food is an addiction and that - just like any other substance that we think we can't do without - of course we can. And that using this plan to break that unhealthy addiction and taking the opportunity to identify the issues within that relationship can change the rest of our lives. Provided of course, having realised we don't NEED to be the way we were before, we don't slide back into old ways in the future.
I don't need to taste everything, or indeed ANYTHING I'm making.
I don't need to be a human dustbin for leftovers.
It is NOT a crime to put food in the bin.
Well I think that's probably enough to be going on with. Sorry this is so long. I'd love to hear what YOU'VE learned too! xxx
I've learned that - contrary to what I believed (and worried about) for a LONG time - I CAN do without alcohol ... easily actually.
And that NOT drinking doesn't make a blind bit of difference to any occasion I might attend, or visit to the pub with friends or whatever.
Ditto food. It hasn't worried me in the least cooking for others, being out with people who are eating etc.
And not eating doesn't make a blind bit of difference to those occasions either.
Once or twice I've pointed out to people when they say "it's not fair" or "it's not right" that they're eating/drinking when I'm not, that this is their issue. If I'm quite happy with it, the fact that it bothers them isn't really my problem. And do you know what?? It stops right there - they carry on enjoying themselves and I've become convinced that what they say is just noises they make because they feel they should. Once they see I'm genuinely not bothered, they really don't care. (and that's great!)
I've learned that while I'm at work I don't need all the snacks I used to think I did "to keep me going through the night" - that I was having them out of habit, or boredom or whatever.
I've learned that I can feel I want/need something and just not have it .... the earth carries on turning, the sky stays up .... I just don't have to satisfy any cravings - they go away just the same.
I use to think that a regime like this was completely anti-social but in fact my life has carried on in exactly the same way - I have been to (and catered for actually) celebrations and get-togethers. Have been to the pub with DH every week. Been to the theatre a couple of times and even been away to Scotland for a 5 day break and I haven't strayed from the programme once. I've never even been tempted so I've had confirmed something that I already knew. If I put my mind to something and decide I'm going to do it I give it 100% and just don't allow thoughts of straying to enter my head.
So I'm still strong-minded (some might say stubborn - but I couldn't possibly comment )
I've learned that if there's one person you can trust to tell you the truth about smelly breath it's a small child ..
I've learned that water truly is life-enhancing and there's not one issue on this plan that can't be helped by copious amounts of it ... (including !!!)
I've learned to love sparkling water (used to hate it!) and flapjacks LOL!
I've learned that food is an addiction and that - just like any other substance that we think we can't do without - of course we can. And that using this plan to break that unhealthy addiction and taking the opportunity to identify the issues within that relationship can change the rest of our lives. Provided of course, having realised we don't NEED to be the way we were before, we don't slide back into old ways in the future.
I don't need to taste everything, or indeed ANYTHING I'm making.
I don't need to be a human dustbin for leftovers.
It is NOT a crime to put food in the bin.
Well I think that's probably enough to be going on with. Sorry this is so long. I'd love to hear what YOU'VE learned too! xxx