slendablenda
Gold Member
Yesterday - we decided to have Mother's Day a week early to avoid the rush next Sunday.
I was very anxious about what to wear to go and see my Mum. Appearances are very important to her. Thin people are "good", fat people are "bad".
She has been very supportive and encouraging while I've been on LL, but is a person who eats very little, weighs herself every day (she's 86), will just eat yogurt for a day if she puts on half a kilo.
I wanted to dress to please her, so decided on a "grown up" classic outfit - put it on, felt frumpy, so changed into jeans and skinny jumper, felt too casual, so changed into long skirt same as BLs, boots, funky top, the sun came out, felt too hot!! so changed into a mini dress, ribbed tights, suede cowboy boots.
I felt good, but expected criticism from my mum that the outfit was too young for me.
No way - she said she didn't recognise my profile as I walked towards her, how great I looked, I'd shed 20 years and wrinkles as well. She couldn't stop telling me how proud she was of me.
We went into town, we were with my OH too. She wanted to go to Wetherspoons for lunch. I said I'd just have coffee and water and she went into a long schpeel to try and get me to eat something with them. I reminded her I was doing LL for a year and hadn't eaten with her during that time, but she went on and on, wouldn't it be a shame not to eat together etc, etc,.
Sabotage? I don't know.
Did I give in -yes. I had crayfish salad which was fine, the dressing was separate.
I gave it to her!
Afterwards we walked round the charity shops. I got some clothes (surprise!)
Enjoyed showing her they were size 8!
We did have a lovely day, I DID enjoy being with her, I am very proud of her as I'm sure she is of me, but I cannot stop analysing both our behaviour. i KNOW some of my weight issues stem from my relationship with her. But the fantastic change is that I no longer "blame" either of us.
It's just as it is and it's up to me to deal with it.
Interestingly I took my camera, but forgot to take any pics.
Sorry to go on, but I wonder if any of you have had similar issues?
I was very anxious about what to wear to go and see my Mum. Appearances are very important to her. Thin people are "good", fat people are "bad".
She has been very supportive and encouraging while I've been on LL, but is a person who eats very little, weighs herself every day (she's 86), will just eat yogurt for a day if she puts on half a kilo.
I wanted to dress to please her, so decided on a "grown up" classic outfit - put it on, felt frumpy, so changed into jeans and skinny jumper, felt too casual, so changed into long skirt same as BLs, boots, funky top, the sun came out, felt too hot!! so changed into a mini dress, ribbed tights, suede cowboy boots.
I felt good, but expected criticism from my mum that the outfit was too young for me.
No way - she said she didn't recognise my profile as I walked towards her, how great I looked, I'd shed 20 years and wrinkles as well. She couldn't stop telling me how proud she was of me.
We went into town, we were with my OH too. She wanted to go to Wetherspoons for lunch. I said I'd just have coffee and water and she went into a long schpeel to try and get me to eat something with them. I reminded her I was doing LL for a year and hadn't eaten with her during that time, but she went on and on, wouldn't it be a shame not to eat together etc, etc,.
Sabotage? I don't know.
Did I give in -yes. I had crayfish salad which was fine, the dressing was separate.
I gave it to her!
Afterwards we walked round the charity shops. I got some clothes (surprise!)
Enjoyed showing her they were size 8!
We did have a lovely day, I DID enjoy being with her, I am very proud of her as I'm sure she is of me, but I cannot stop analysing both our behaviour. i KNOW some of my weight issues stem from my relationship with her. But the fantastic change is that I no longer "blame" either of us.
It's just as it is and it's up to me to deal with it.
Interestingly I took my camera, but forgot to take any pics.
Sorry to go on, but I wonder if any of you have had similar issues?