If they do still go into the forum, then what's the point in having two seperate ones?
As it has been recently, then no...no point at all. If you go to a non blip forum and find a load of blip mentions, then it needs to be either sorted, or the forum needs merging. At the moment, I'm in the 'lets sort it' camp, rather than the merge, so people at least get a choice.
I think there should be one main forum - and if someone is going to start a thread mentioning food, just start it with "WARNING: Non CD food mentioned", and if people want to avoid it, they can.
There are times that the majority want to mention foods off plan (very often in detail). History has shown that most people don't want to use their subject headings every time they might mention it. We've tried that, and just end up with masses of discussion about why it shouldn't need to be put in the subject heading etc etc
However, I don't really agree with it at the mo.
Which is absolutely fine. There is no law that says you have to use the facility
I also still don't agree with the fact that, you can be part of a group on the 100% forum that everyone intends to stick to 100%, then if someone has a slip up they have to talk to 'strangers' who don't know their personal goals and ups and downs in the main CD forum, it doesn't seem very helpful or supportive to me.
Yes, but maybe that because people sometimes use this forum not as intended. If they chose to only make friends on a no blip forum, then if they then blip, they can either chose to not mention it, or make friends elsewhere. Otherwise, the whole point of the forum is a nonsense.
On the other hand, I do think there should be more slapped wrists in regards to people saying "its ok" to those who cheat.
I totally disagree with that big time. Because it is okay to cheat. And it's okay to cheat without a slapped wrist. All depends on that persons goals, where they are in their lives, what they are dealing with outside the forum etc. We don't always know.
I think more food issues come from people believing that cheating is 'bad' 'naughty' something to be ashamed of, and so need punishment, than just needing to get away from negative posts for a few minutes a day..or avoiding talk of (edited out description of MS food adverts and suchlike).
It isn't OK and it's not the way it's supposed to be done, it's supposed to be 100%! And how will that person then be able to ever learn?
It depends. If you want to get to goal as soon as possible, then yes, doing the diet 100% is the only way. People have different needs though and need support in different ways.
Some need a quick kick on the shins to remind them of what they need to do to achieve their goals. Some people need reassurance that they haven't blown it completely, that we do understand, and that they'll be okay. Really depends and it's very hard to know which approach to take on a forum. A case of trying to read between the lines.
I think "you know you made a mistake, put it behind you, don't let it happen again and move forward" etc is OK, but not "oh dont worry we all have a slip up from time to time, you'll still lose!"
And this is what some well intentioned people do, maybe because they are in that place in their heads. If we banned people from saying this, we'd be accused of being unsupportive etc and suggesting that people have really blown it for that week...possibly leaving some to have a major binge. Well, blown it, and the scales aren't going to show a loss, might as well finish off the rest of the fridge and be done with it.
See, we all different. Have different needs, need different kinds of encouragement and support. Hence different forums.
