Nikita10
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Am I being too hard???
My 14 year old daughter was excluded for 1 day from school for truanting. I was called into school the next day to see her head of year. He politely informed me my daughter was a persistant truanter......... He said she has 95.7% attendance at school, but her class attendance was less than 63%!!!!!
Since September she has missed 232 lessons!!!!! Yes 232 lessons (she was on school premises the whole time because they are locked in and can't get out of the school grounds!) and they were only just letting me know about it. I wasn't very happy to say the least, and after dragging myself off the ceiling I eventually left the office agreeing she should go on report for 1 month.
My daughter of course tried to deny everything, and blame the teacher! But eventually she realised that wasn't working, so I grounded her, took away her mobile phone, her laptop, her ipod, and left her with 5 items of her most treasured possession.... her make-up, I told her she was grounded for 232 dys the amount of lessons she missed which takes her to xmas eve!!!
That was 7wks ago tomorrow, and she is now asking if she can start going out! And telling me I am being too hard on her, I kind of agree. She is a diamond in the house, doing cooking, cleaning, ironing and looking after her younger brother.
But I just can't bring myself to trust her again and let her out! Am i being too hard on her? She says she has learnt her lesson and will never do it again....
Famous last words or is it me? I am now a single parent to 3 kids one 17yrs, one 14yrs and one 8yrs and it isn't easy!
Sorry a long one, but the stress is driving me mad. Feel a little better now I have vented, but i had hear food calling. I will of course not cave in but any help/advice will be much appreciated.
Honest opinions only please.
My 14 year old daughter was excluded for 1 day from school for truanting. I was called into school the next day to see her head of year. He politely informed me my daughter was a persistant truanter......... He said she has 95.7% attendance at school, but her class attendance was less than 63%!!!!!
Since September she has missed 232 lessons!!!!! Yes 232 lessons (she was on school premises the whole time because they are locked in and can't get out of the school grounds!) and they were only just letting me know about it. I wasn't very happy to say the least, and after dragging myself off the ceiling I eventually left the office agreeing she should go on report for 1 month.
My daughter of course tried to deny everything, and blame the teacher! But eventually she realised that wasn't working, so I grounded her, took away her mobile phone, her laptop, her ipod, and left her with 5 items of her most treasured possession.... her make-up, I told her she was grounded for 232 dys the amount of lessons she missed which takes her to xmas eve!!!
That was 7wks ago tomorrow, and she is now asking if she can start going out! And telling me I am being too hard on her, I kind of agree. She is a diamond in the house, doing cooking, cleaning, ironing and looking after her younger brother.
But I just can't bring myself to trust her again and let her out! Am i being too hard on her? She says she has learnt her lesson and will never do it again....
Famous last words or is it me? I am now a single parent to 3 kids one 17yrs, one 14yrs and one 8yrs and it isn't easy!
Sorry a long one, but the stress is driving me mad. Feel a little better now I have vented, but i had hear food calling. I will of course not cave in but any help/advice will be much appreciated.
Honest opinions only please.