Hope you don't mind me putting my two cents in. I was at my heaviest with my ex. He hated that I lost weight and wouldn't help at all. He wouldn't try making SW recipes (he was the main cook) and turned his nose up at everything I made. He was perfectly happy to have me sit at home waiting for him as I was too embarrassed of my body to leave the house - other than for work. He belittled my depression and the only shoulder I was given was one that left bruises. As soon as I started to lose weight and gain confidence, he pushed me away even more than he did before, both emotionally and physically. He even locked me in once!
Then I met my OH. He has only really known me since about 10st 7 (sounds funny to say it like that, but I know you can relate), but has shown me more love, affection and appreciation than my ex ever did. I'm not ashamed to admit that I left my ex for him - it is the single best decision that I have ever made! That relationship was so unhealthy for me. I realise now that his behaviour was due to his own issues and insecurities, although that is not an excuse. I realised that my life would be so much happier without him and left. Unfortunately not completely free from him yet as I own a flat with his mother and its all going through the courts. He still tries to belittle me at every given opportunity though. I've learnt enough about his behaviour now to ignore it, but it certainly doesn't help with my emotional eating!
Its amazing how differently people can react to change. I'm so much happier now. I have someone who accepts me for who and what I am and that's all that matters. We have such a connection, we know that we can make it through anything. I can't wait to make him Mr Downtownsuzie lol
Sorry for hijacking x