Hugs to you and yours Rachel. It is an unfortunate statement of the way we live our lives now, that police need to get involved, particularly at such a raw and painful time - but as the headlines show us everyday - they can never be too sure, or too cautious. But it's horrible for the good folk, like your family to have to endure such "procedure" at a time like this. It must be so hard. We have the sickos of the world to thank for that. I imagine the police do not like doing it, but they do have to.
It is going to take a lot of time, alot of love and support, and a huge amount of healing for all of you. Be gentle with each other, and yourself.
And never apologise for writing here - if it helps you in even the tiniest amount, then bang those keys. Thats what we are here for.
You're all in my thoughts.
xxx