JezVonSavage
Lost in the Supermarket
So, my cousin in 33 and has always been heterosexual. She's never had a "proper" relationship. She's overweight and insecure and although she's been out with blokes she's never maintained anything long term.
Last year, she starts a relationship with a female co-worker, which is not a problem to me in the slightest; I believe you can't help who you fall in love with. 9 months in to the relationship they are talking about marriage and she told me last night, whilst slightly gazeeboed, that she has already seen her Doctor to start a process of artificial insemination.
I'm in two minds about this. It's got nothing to do with me so why should I worry about it- it's her life and her decision. Nobody would have stopped me doing half of the stupid things i've done in my life. But then that's the other problem- I do think she's being a bit stupid. Gay or straight, I wouldn't recommend anyone having a baby so soon into a relationship (I don't want to offend those who have here, it's just not something I would do) especially in circumstances such as these. It's not only a new relationship, its her *first* relationship. To top things off, her Mum is of the opinion that if she lost weight and started getting male attention, she'd go for it. She seems to think that this woman is a stopgap- not really what she wants in a life partner but someone she's settled with out of nothing more than desperation.
She has already suffered from prejudice on this subject, her 2 best friends are no longer speaking to her and as I said her Mum has been quite vocal about her disdain for the relationship, that has echoed around the family. People are quite keen to say that they don't like the gf, although I have no idea if that is because she is an easy target or because they actually don't like her....I personally find her quite affable.
I've probably left loads out here, so feel free to ask any questions, but I just want some different opinions really. Do you think I should leave it or do I speak to her? Even though I know it won't have any affect. WWYD?
Last year, she starts a relationship with a female co-worker, which is not a problem to me in the slightest; I believe you can't help who you fall in love with. 9 months in to the relationship they are talking about marriage and she told me last night, whilst slightly gazeeboed, that she has already seen her Doctor to start a process of artificial insemination.
I'm in two minds about this. It's got nothing to do with me so why should I worry about it- it's her life and her decision. Nobody would have stopped me doing half of the stupid things i've done in my life. But then that's the other problem- I do think she's being a bit stupid. Gay or straight, I wouldn't recommend anyone having a baby so soon into a relationship (I don't want to offend those who have here, it's just not something I would do) especially in circumstances such as these. It's not only a new relationship, its her *first* relationship. To top things off, her Mum is of the opinion that if she lost weight and started getting male attention, she'd go for it. She seems to think that this woman is a stopgap- not really what she wants in a life partner but someone she's settled with out of nothing more than desperation.
She has already suffered from prejudice on this subject, her 2 best friends are no longer speaking to her and as I said her Mum has been quite vocal about her disdain for the relationship, that has echoed around the family. People are quite keen to say that they don't like the gf, although I have no idea if that is because she is an easy target or because they actually don't like her....I personally find her quite affable.
I've probably left loads out here, so feel free to ask any questions, but I just want some different opinions really. Do you think I should leave it or do I speak to her? Even though I know it won't have any affect. WWYD?