jaylou
Gold Member
Interesting thread.
I think that people don't really mean to be rude, it's just human nature to expect people to follow "the norm" and, lets face it, it's is more usual for women of a certain age, especially in a relationship, to have children.
I don't agree with the "you'll change your mind" or "tick tick" comments though. That's just not on. I admire anyone who takes the decision not to have children and I think it's a tough one to make.
I made the decision to only have one. I've had many "it's not fair" or "when are you having a second" or "only children are spoilt" type comments. At almost 40 I still get them but my daughter is my world and she gets everything I can give her - that's my choice.
As it is yours not to have children (and many others too!)
PS - I also hate the school holidays, I can't wait for them to be over as they make childcare a nightmare and I also can't wait for my daughter to be old enough to fend for herself and I don't have to go on half term time holidays and spend a fortune! That doesn't make me a bad mother and I don't resent her, I just resent struggling to get someone to look after her for 7 flippin weeks!!!
I think that people don't really mean to be rude, it's just human nature to expect people to follow "the norm" and, lets face it, it's is more usual for women of a certain age, especially in a relationship, to have children.
I don't agree with the "you'll change your mind" or "tick tick" comments though. That's just not on. I admire anyone who takes the decision not to have children and I think it's a tough one to make.
I made the decision to only have one. I've had many "it's not fair" or "when are you having a second" or "only children are spoilt" type comments. At almost 40 I still get them but my daughter is my world and she gets everything I can give her - that's my choice.
As it is yours not to have children (and many others too!)
PS - I also hate the school holidays, I can't wait for them to be over as they make childcare a nightmare and I also can't wait for my daughter to be old enough to fend for herself and I don't have to go on half term time holidays and spend a fortune! That doesn't make me a bad mother and I don't resent her, I just resent struggling to get someone to look after her for 7 flippin weeks!!!