Cookeh
Recovering Cookie Addict
Hiya Trose
Well the date itself went well, I wasn't actually nervous and the conversation came easy. The problem is a) the photo's he posted weren't exactly recent lol and b) there was just no connection on that level if you know what I mean. He was very keen though and immediately on getting home emailed me to ask me out to dinner asap! Rather than lead him on, or go down the friends route, I just politely declined and told him that I didn't feel there was a connection to carry on dating and wished him well for the future. That was incredibly hard for me though, having never been really asked out before (my previous partners were all friends first) I've never declined anyone in my life and I felt horribly uncomfortable doing it but it had to be done.
I still have 2 stone to go til im in the healthy weight range and 3 stone to go til my goal so I know exactly how you feel. However, although I still feel flabby and out of shape I feel soooo much better now than I did 5st ago that I refuse to let it affect how I think people will judge me, ya know? Previously I was such a recluse because I always assumed people would just see the fat and not the person and I wouldnt put myself in a position for that to happen. Now I look around and i just feel normal, average, and so it doesn't bother me. That said, I am sweet on a friend overseas and although he has seen a photo of me as I am now (never when I was at my biggest though!) I wouldnt feel comfortable visiting right now as I want to be the best me that I can be when I see him so I can kinda understand where you are coming from with that too.
Good on ya girl though for having 2 guys texting you at once! lol I haven't met anyone else online yet. Communication starts but it never completes to the email stage. Oh well, Im seriously in no hurry at all so I don't mind and it's all practise at the end of the day heh
Good luck in the new year, I hope you will keep me posted!!! x
Well the date itself went well, I wasn't actually nervous and the conversation came easy. The problem is a) the photo's he posted weren't exactly recent lol and b) there was just no connection on that level if you know what I mean. He was very keen though and immediately on getting home emailed me to ask me out to dinner asap! Rather than lead him on, or go down the friends route, I just politely declined and told him that I didn't feel there was a connection to carry on dating and wished him well for the future. That was incredibly hard for me though, having never been really asked out before (my previous partners were all friends first) I've never declined anyone in my life and I felt horribly uncomfortable doing it but it had to be done.
I still have 2 stone to go til im in the healthy weight range and 3 stone to go til my goal so I know exactly how you feel. However, although I still feel flabby and out of shape I feel soooo much better now than I did 5st ago that I refuse to let it affect how I think people will judge me, ya know? Previously I was such a recluse because I always assumed people would just see the fat and not the person and I wouldnt put myself in a position for that to happen. Now I look around and i just feel normal, average, and so it doesn't bother me. That said, I am sweet on a friend overseas and although he has seen a photo of me as I am now (never when I was at my biggest though!) I wouldnt feel comfortable visiting right now as I want to be the best me that I can be when I see him so I can kinda understand where you are coming from with that too.
Good on ya girl though for having 2 guys texting you at once! lol I haven't met anyone else online yet. Communication starts but it never completes to the email stage. Oh well, Im seriously in no hurry at all so I don't mind and it's all practise at the end of the day heh
Good luck in the new year, I hope you will keep me posted!!! x
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