peacelily
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Mrs.S. said:Thanks ladies. It's just the one thing I like to do. To be me. He does bath and bed for the kids and I then come home, refreshed and full of vigour for the plan and have a chilled few hours before bed.
Peacelily, I'm gonna sound really childish and poutish now, but I don't want to go to another group. I've gone to my own for a couple of years and feel like they're mostly my friends. Also. Why should I go.
I think I'm just hormonal and maybe need to go to bed and wake up refreshed?
And Sarah, I totally see what you're saying, but the time together really isn't an issue. It's time for me, to be me, and not be wife/mother/maid. Not that any of those things are things I want to change (maid maybe!!), but I just feel like I don't have a life? Maybe not helped as I'm still off work after op.
Just had a thought though, he didn't work extra hours Friday night when they asked because of the England game??! Hmmmmm.
You don't sound childish at all I know what you mean. If I went to another group I'd probably just weigh and go cos I like my group too. Maybe the issue is, like you say, that it's ok for OH to do all his things but if it's your thing it is bottom of the pile.
That was happening to me a few years back so I made it a rule in our house that Wednesday night would be my night out and he shouldn't arrange anything in that time. I try to organise friends into that time and rarely go out at other times. It didn't go down very well to start and he continually tried to put things in but I stuck to my guns. Even now, 6 or 7 years after first starting it, he still seems surprised that I am going out on a Wednesday night! To be honest even if I don't have something organised with friends, I still go out and (this sounds very sad) will sit in my car with a cuppa from McDonalds (used to also be food but now only SW friendly things) and either read my book or watch things I've downloaded on my iPad. It's just my time, I look forward to it and I think I'm less grumpy cos I know I have it to look forward to. Maybe Monday night should be your night and he can't take the overtime and you take the hit cos it sounds like you really need some time for yourself and maybe at this point it's more important than the money. Take care x