Don't you just hate it when....

[*Emsie*]

Lol men they have no idea lol

Its because I want boots I can walk in and he has other ideas ha ha

 

[DustQueen]

Its because I want boots I can walk in and he has other ideas ha ha

Lol

 

[peacelily]

When OH's depression is getting worse... Just when things seemed better.

He's been on meds (for the first time ever) for the last 9 months and things have been great, his eating has stabilised, he's started the gym and things have been "normal" for want of a better word.

2months ago he started a slow planned reduction in dose. He's due to finish them full stop next week.

But in the last fortnight he's suddenly declined. Binge eating, switching between low mood and just that horrible numb/indifference which in many ways is just worse, lost all interest in friends and the world in general.

Partly its a physical thing, but there is also a psychological aspect as he has been panicking about coming off them for ages.

I've talked him into going back to the doctors, but his usual doctor is away so but worried what the locum will tell him. Clearly he needs to go back on them for a bit, to stabilise things, but from a professional point of view (I work in pharmacy) I know he has to come off them eventually - the longer you're on them the higher the risk of side effects, becoming "resistant" to them, psychologically dependant etc.

It just breaks my heart. I have severe depression too so I totally understand where he is at, but currently I'm in an ok place and unmedicated. It's just so hard with us both in the same boat - constantly balancing who feels "worse" at any one time.

Just before he went on the meds last year he was actively suicidal and the thought of being back there - I was scared every time I went out incase something happened while I was out - it just makes me feel sick.

Hi jezzi. I agree and think the doc will recommend an increase in dose as it seems that he would benefit from an extended period given his history and how chronic his problems have been. You've mentioned you are working through some stuff using CBT and I wondered if he has been offered or is doing some talking therapy at the same time as the meds as its better to have had a course of both at the same time at some point as the evidence shows better outcomes with planned withdrawal (all of which I'm sure you know given your job). I know there's been a lot of stuff recently about dependency etc but it sounds as though your OH just hasn't had enough time on them to be withdrawing at this point. Hope he gets the care he needs and if he's struggling to ask for it, hope he can allow you to advocate for him or at least go into the GP with some concerns written down if he can't articulate it at this point. Hugs x

 

[Shirleen]

DYJHIW Adele sings 'Let the sky foe, when it crumboes,' in the Skyfall theme.

 

[jaylou]

DYJHIW Adele sings 'Let the sky foe, when it crumboes,' in the Skyfall theme.

DYJHIW Shirl posts the above and you can't stop singing it like that!!!!!

 

[donna88]

DYJHIW Adele sings 'Let the sky foe, when it crumboes,' in the Skyfall theme.

I've noticed she and a couple of others sing like that in a few songs and it does my head in


DYJHIW you have the most unsympathetic boyfriend ever, you moan about having to go out in the cold to run and he tells you its your choice, you mention your knee's are starting to hurt and he ignores you. Well he can sit there and eat his cookies and get fat and I'll be all slim and toned from my exercise...

 

[Arctic-BNG]

DYJHIW Adele sings 'Let the sky foe, when it crumboes,' in the Skyfall theme.

Didn't like it in the first place, but will not be able to listen to it without smiling now?

 

[peacelily]

Thanks peace lily, he definitely needs longer I just hope they see reason or We may have to resort to some slightly more backdoor routes to treatment.

I would love for him to look into CBT, even self guided stuff, but he did some before we'd met, and he said it did nothing for him - although I think it was more that he was not receptive at the time. In combo with the pills it could be different.

But I will advocate for him, and fight for him, and protect him, because that's my job as his wife x

Just wondering if you have an IAPT service in your area (increasing access to psychological therapies). They were supposed to be being set up everywhere but I think the uptake has been patchy in some trusts and with the move back to GP fundholders things are a bit on hold with some services as they haven't reached agreements on what will be commissioned. However, if you do, there should be quite a quick transition across from referral to initial appointment. I would agree that if he wasn't on meds when he accessed CBT before it may not have had much of an impact but might be different if he can find a therapist he gets on with.

 

[*Emsie*]

Dyjhiw hubby breaks up today but you don't break up till Friday and dyjhiw you always forget your itunes password because they insist you do such a bizarre one and you don't go on it that often so when you wanna get some songs its a right faff!

 

[Shirleen]

Dyjhiw hubby breaks up today but you don't break up till Friday and dyjhiw you always forget your itunes password because they insist you do such a bizarre one and you don't go on it that often so when you wanna get some songs its a right faff!

I use an old address with a random capital letter x

 

[Shirleen]

DYJHIW Shirl posts the above and you can't stop singing it like that!!!!!

*Giggle* sorry!

Didn't like it in the first place, but will not be able to listen to it without smiling now?

That's better isn't it?

 

[juicygooseface]

dyjhiw your friend who is always telling you how fat she feels weighs over a stone less than you at 6 months preggers. and if thats not bad enough she posts loads of pictures of her "disgusting fatness" as shes wearing a bikini. stop lying! xx

 

[DustQueen]

dyjhiw your friend who is always telling you how fat she feels weighs over a stone less than you at 6 months preggers. and if thats not bad enough she posts loads of pictures of her "disgusting fatness" as shes wearing a bikini. stop lying! xx

God yes I would hate that!
I have a friend who says similar despite being a tiny size 8 so when she starts I reply with "yes I was going to say I'm surprised you could fit through that door!" usually shuts her up

 

[Shirleen]

God yes I would hate that!
I have a friend who says similar despite being a tiny size 8 so when she starts I reply with "yes I was going to say I'm surprised you could fit through that door!" usually shuts her up

I have a friend like that too size 8 and fat!!! Mind you she should be every night she has half bottle wine and three bags crisps!

 

[DustQueen]

I have a friend like that too size 8 and fat!!! Mind you she should be every night she has half bottle wine and three bags crisps!

Mine starves all day so she can eat a mini pizza and bar of choc every evening

 

[juicygooseface]

god do we have crazy friends or what! yeah she picks like a little bird at what she eats - never fully eats anything and always tells me i look so skinny and im like "if youre fat then surely i look obese?" xxx

 

[MinkyDinky]

Dyjhiw another member of your family tells you 'you don't need to lose any more weight, please tell me your done'. Sigh.

 

[Jess<3]

DYJHIW my son was ill last month, it took 5 doctor app, & 2 hosp app to get him sorted. (docs said nothing wrong) been waiting to see specialist for so long now... hes now ill again with croup!! (but im glad it only took 1 app this time!!!!)

 

[WiiFitAddict]

Hope he's better soon Jess.

DYJHIW no1 daughter is playing Taylor Swift so loudly in her bedroom upstairs you feel like she's standing next to you as she's singing?!

 

[ScarlettStar86]

It's day 2 of migraine (off work today) and your boss doesnt understand that a migraine isn't just a headache! He has just rang me to ask if I can go in this afternoon as they can't get cover. Sorry that's not my problem, I am entitled to be off sick without getting a guilt trip! I managed yesterday but im pretty sure I would be feeling better today if I hadn't had to work all day.