Katycakes, Porgeous, KD, Kira, and everyone else who has contributed - this thread has been a great one indeed, thanks so much
But one thing we haven't really said is that it isn't just the bad things that happen in life that can throw us off track...so to drive the point home further that food is not the issue (at least for me)... (and sorry in advance for the food reference on the 100% forum, but it is key to the story)
My biggest 'aha moment' so far came as quite the shocker. A few weeks ago, early in my CD journey I was feeling good and happy, and in control of my life for the first time in ages. I felt I was moving in the right direction - towards the person I really thought I was deep inside - and on a lot of fronts, CD/weight just being one of them. I'd just eaten my last pack of the day....then, quite scarily, I watched myself order a pizza, get the money out, pay the delivery guy, sit down on the sofa with the box on my lap (something I have never done!) and scarfed the whole thing (except the crusts as they were slowing me down!) and didn't taste a thing.
I posted about that on here when it happened, saying 'but it wasn't emotional eating as I was feeling great' and someone said that if I wasn't hungry then it was emotional eating, and that I just needed to figure out what emotion it was.
That made me think hard. And true enough, it was emotional eating - but not the sad, depressed, out of control, stressed type, but the opposite - happy, in control, positive emotions that led me to binge.
And it dawned on me - I'm not USED to being happy, in control, and positive about my life. Sure I'm good at pretending, but deep down inside, nope!
That just made it so crystal clear to me that it is my head and not my stomach that has ruled so much of my weight issues. It isn't real hunger at all. Which is why I'm so in agreement with everyone who says you have to sort out the mind & body in synch, and that's exactly what I'm doing.
As for the 'how to know if it is real hunger'...It was Porgeous or Lilypop who, early on for me, helped me see that even a rumbling stomach doesn't really have to mean you're hungry. After all, I'm getting all the nutrients I need in the packs. So I started to tell myself that the grumbling was just my stomach getting a workout
And then, when I did have that binge, Wow! did I feel it later - my stomach was no longer used to such masses of food and I felt so ill. Was never quite sure about the whole 'stomach shrinking' thing but I believe it now! I don't know if I really know what real hunger is yet myself, but I'm trusting that my body is getting what I need, and as I move through CD I'll learn.
Fact is, I managed through Christmas very well, and my 'losing the plot' at New Year was really as much down to the drink (and justifying eating because I knew I was going to drink), and being with friends who don't know I'm on CD. But I'm not kicking myself at all. I enjoyed myself and am back on track...and, rehydrating and getting back on track and I've lost 6lbs in the last two days.
So I know that I'm still heading in the right direction. I'm never going to be perfect, but as long as I'm heading in the right direction, not beating myself up, and sorting out the real issues, then I'm happy...and getting used to that feeling
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