I could really do with some advice, im so upset and dont know what decision to make. It isnt directly weight related but it is playing a part in my emotions. I dont really know where to start..... my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years, so all through uni together with all the same friends etc. We get on amazingly well and have been planning moving in together/applying for jobs near each other etc. for when we graduate in 6 weeks. During our relationship there have been issues with him watching porn and talking to other girls on the internet. Most of these girls are strangers from around the world but occasionally he adds them as friends on facebook! There have been times when he has been chatting to one or two girls from near where he lives asking if they are single etc.
When i confronted him about this he got really upset and told me that he has some kind of addiction to online chatting and watching things, he says it is a virtual release of all his stress and he would never do anything physically. He said he was very upset about his parents break up when he was a teenager and that during that time it was the online stuff that helped him to cope. He said he finds it hard to show his emotions and doesnt want to get too attached to me incase it all goes wrong like with his parents, so online stuff is kindof his way of keeping a distance.
When he told me all this i gave him the benefit of the doubt and decided we could work on it. However, whenever he stays at his house or is on facebook etc. really late at night it gets me worried.
At the moment i am staying at his parents house for the easter break.... last night i went to bed and then about an hour later woke up and he still hadnt come to bed. I went to see what he was doing, when i walked into the room he quickly closed the internet and took out his headphones. I was suspicious so decided i would check his browsing history in the morning. This morning he jumped out of bed and went in the living room with his laptop, i figure he was deleting the history (he dfd). When i went into the living room a bit later he jumped when i walked in the room. He just left the house so i looked at the history and for half an hour he was watching porn this morning, just after his mum and brother had left for school/work etc.!!!
I dont know what to do, im at a cross roads in my life. I can stay with him and move to wherever we find a job in the country it may be ok... but what if down the line he actually cheats on me. Or i could break up with him and find a job near other friends etc. this would absolutely break my heart, for the past 3 years i have been planning and thinking about my life with him. I dont think i can handle breaking up with him and seeing him out during the rest of our time at uni talking to skinnier prettier girls etc. So should i wait and break up with him at the end of uni,to spare some of this pain?
I just dont know what to do.... any advice would be really helpful!
Thank you
When i confronted him about this he got really upset and told me that he has some kind of addiction to online chatting and watching things, he says it is a virtual release of all his stress and he would never do anything physically. He said he was very upset about his parents break up when he was a teenager and that during that time it was the online stuff that helped him to cope. He said he finds it hard to show his emotions and doesnt want to get too attached to me incase it all goes wrong like with his parents, so online stuff is kindof his way of keeping a distance.
When he told me all this i gave him the benefit of the doubt and decided we could work on it. However, whenever he stays at his house or is on facebook etc. really late at night it gets me worried.
At the moment i am staying at his parents house for the easter break.... last night i went to bed and then about an hour later woke up and he still hadnt come to bed. I went to see what he was doing, when i walked into the room he quickly closed the internet and took out his headphones. I was suspicious so decided i would check his browsing history in the morning. This morning he jumped out of bed and went in the living room with his laptop, i figure he was deleting the history (he dfd). When i went into the living room a bit later he jumped when i walked in the room. He just left the house so i looked at the history and for half an hour he was watching porn this morning, just after his mum and brother had left for school/work etc.!!!
I dont know what to do, im at a cross roads in my life. I can stay with him and move to wherever we find a job in the country it may be ok... but what if down the line he actually cheats on me. Or i could break up with him and find a job near other friends etc. this would absolutely break my heart, for the past 3 years i have been planning and thinking about my life with him. I dont think i can handle breaking up with him and seeing him out during the rest of our time at uni talking to skinnier prettier girls etc. So should i wait and break up with him at the end of uni,to spare some of this pain?
I just dont know what to do.... any advice would be really helpful!
Thank you
