Hey gals.. im sorry but ive come for a bit of a rant/ heart to heart/ get it off my chest before it drives me insane.
I dont know if anyone can relate to me.. this may all be in my head and i may just be acting like a stupid ungreatful cow..
The thing is.. my MIL looks after my lil boy when im at work, she offerd to do this and was really offended when we mentioned childcare. This is my 1st baby and I currently live with my inlaws.
While she is great in some ways, she very annoying in some aswell. For instance shes always very jelouse of me when i go out with my hubby and she throws tantrums for no apparent reason. And she also tried to stir things up with me and my hubby and then denys it when i confront her about it. Which makes my hubby and my fater in law look like liars!
While i was preagnant my mother in law didnt even care to look after me in the slightest! and i was in an out of hosp for 2 months... she never once asked me how my doc appointment went or how my scan went or even see the scan pics that u get!
Well since my son was born she's been very .... over the top with him. I appreciate her looking after him and i love that she loves him and that he clearly loves her. BUT she's always trying to claim that he loves her MORE than me. As if he even knows how. When he started to talk she would twist his baby talk in to things to make it sound like he's only talking to her..( if that makes sence) when he said mama she went on for a week or so saying he was asking for water!! Then mama became dummy. Then he started calling her "dadi" now this means grandma in urdu (my mother tounge) and he's probably saying daddy.
One of her kids said to me that my son never asks for me unless he wants something... that really hurt me. Then i satrted to teach him how to say "ami" this means mum in urdu.. And he was saying it sometimes.. obviously without meaning as he doesnt know what the word means yet its a sound to him at the moment. So when i came back from work she tells me (infront of guests) that he's been calling her ami all day ( so basically calling her mum all day) i corrected him and told him this is GRANDMA not mum! she made a face at this. Then later he was calling for "mama" she said to him "do u want ur artificial mum or ur real mum".
That was it! I was this close to slapping her after that!! I had a rant at my hubby about it and made it quite clear that she is not his mum, artificial or otherwise!! she is his grandma and he loves her all the same! She looks after him all day through choice. This does not give her the right to take THAT away from me aswell!
I feel im missing out on things asit is coz im at work all day (i have to work) and she makes me feel worse by banging on and on about stuff that i miss. As if to rub it in even more knowing that im already cut up inside about it.
My mother in law is my hubby's step mom. He cant even have a go at her as this will spoil THIER already fragile relationship and she will give his dad grief.
its a no win situation, i just live in hope that when we move out i will influence my son and he will come back to his REAL mom.
anyway rant over, i dont expect anyone to respond i just had to get it off my chest.
*sigh*
I dont know if anyone can relate to me.. this may all be in my head and i may just be acting like a stupid ungreatful cow..
The thing is.. my MIL looks after my lil boy when im at work, she offerd to do this and was really offended when we mentioned childcare. This is my 1st baby and I currently live with my inlaws.
While she is great in some ways, she very annoying in some aswell. For instance shes always very jelouse of me when i go out with my hubby and she throws tantrums for no apparent reason. And she also tried to stir things up with me and my hubby and then denys it when i confront her about it. Which makes my hubby and my fater in law look like liars!
While i was preagnant my mother in law didnt even care to look after me in the slightest! and i was in an out of hosp for 2 months... she never once asked me how my doc appointment went or how my scan went or even see the scan pics that u get!
Well since my son was born she's been very .... over the top with him. I appreciate her looking after him and i love that she loves him and that he clearly loves her. BUT she's always trying to claim that he loves her MORE than me. As if he even knows how. When he started to talk she would twist his baby talk in to things to make it sound like he's only talking to her..( if that makes sence) when he said mama she went on for a week or so saying he was asking for water!! Then mama became dummy. Then he started calling her "dadi" now this means grandma in urdu (my mother tounge) and he's probably saying daddy.
One of her kids said to me that my son never asks for me unless he wants something... that really hurt me. Then i satrted to teach him how to say "ami" this means mum in urdu.. And he was saying it sometimes.. obviously without meaning as he doesnt know what the word means yet its a sound to him at the moment. So when i came back from work she tells me (infront of guests) that he's been calling her ami all day ( so basically calling her mum all day) i corrected him and told him this is GRANDMA not mum! she made a face at this. Then later he was calling for "mama" she said to him "do u want ur artificial mum or ur real mum".
That was it! I was this close to slapping her after that!! I had a rant at my hubby about it and made it quite clear that she is not his mum, artificial or otherwise!! she is his grandma and he loves her all the same! She looks after him all day through choice. This does not give her the right to take THAT away from me aswell!
I feel im missing out on things asit is coz im at work all day (i have to work) and she makes me feel worse by banging on and on about stuff that i miss. As if to rub it in even more knowing that im already cut up inside about it.
My mother in law is my hubby's step mom. He cant even have a go at her as this will spoil THIER already fragile relationship and she will give his dad grief.
its a no win situation, i just live in hope that when we move out i will influence my son and he will come back to his REAL mom.
anyway rant over, i dont expect anyone to respond i just had to get it off my chest.
*sigh*