feeling like a big fat failure
- Thread starter klairbear
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aesir22
Silver Member
Incentives are a great idea 
Have you sought help about the issues in your past? They are very likely the root problem behind your weight, and getting help may help your weightloss journey longterm.
I don't know how big you are at the moment, but I personally started at 20 stone (a few months before SW) and I didn't really notice much difference, even with clothes, until I hit around 18 stone. This felt, to me, very demotivating, but I just slogged through it and eventually started having to buy smaller clothes. So keep going even if you spend some time not feeling any different.
Take regular photo's. I wish I had, so I could track my progress thus far! Make sure you are always prepared and have a wide variety of food in the house, for meals and for snacks, to satisfy any cravings that come up. Never shop on an empty stomach too, I have learned that the hard way!
Have you sought help about the issues in your past? They are very likely the root problem behind your weight, and getting help may help your weightloss journey longterm.
I don't know how big you are at the moment, but I personally started at 20 stone (a few months before SW) and I didn't really notice much difference, even with clothes, until I hit around 18 stone. This felt, to me, very demotivating, but I just slogged through it and eventually started having to buy smaller clothes. So keep going even if you spend some time not feeling any different.
Take regular photo's. I wish I had, so I could track my progress thus far! Make sure you are always prepared and have a wide variety of food in the house, for meals and for snacks, to satisfy any cravings that come up. Never shop on an empty stomach too, I have learned that the hard way!
klairbear
Full Member
I have sought help aesir, i had over a year of counselling from a specialist eating disorder team but this ended as they said i needed counselling specific to the abuse. I went for that and they said my eating and health currently needed to be addressed more urgently so signed me of. I feel everything is feeding into each other (imagine a circle with no start). So i've decided to access creative therapies in the hope it will address whatever my subconscious needs to address. Hope that makes sense...
Debridger
Getting back to Target
Incentives & rewards are great
How about some jewellery ?
A pair of earrings for 7lb a matching necklace for 14lb etc
Or one of those pandora style (the real ones are too expensive) but a bracelet you can add a new bead on for each 7lb - that's what I've done then when I'm finding things difficult I just fiddle with the beads I've added to remind me why I'm saying no to that extra beer, or glass of wine, bar of chocolate
Sending you positive vibes and warm hugs
How about some jewellery ?
A pair of earrings for 7lb a matching necklace for 14lb etc
Or one of those pandora style (the real ones are too expensive) but a bracelet you can add a new bead on for each 7lb - that's what I've done then when I'm finding things difficult I just fiddle with the beads I've added to remind me why I'm saying no to that extra beer, or glass of wine, bar of chocolate
Sending you positive vibes and warm hugs
downtownsuzie
Silver Member
klairbear
Full Member
I love my jewellery so thats a brilliant idea thank you.
So first day back on plan, and it was ok. Managed to order a healthy jacket spud for lunch, had lots of fruit and water. A left over tub of celebrations was doing the rounds too and I resisted temptation, having an options hot choc instead.
Have got my sister to take my pic today. I have weighed myself, measured myself and got me self a lovely little note book to put all the 'now' details in. I am going to think about why I want to be healthier and slimmer and list them. What my rewards will be and list them too. That book will be going everywhere with me so if I have a wobble I can look in and remind myself of why I am doing it.
Need to decide what to have for lunch tomorrow??
Thanks again for all the lovely comments.
KB x
So first day back on plan, and it was ok. Managed to order a healthy jacket spud for lunch, had lots of fruit and water. A left over tub of celebrations was doing the rounds too and I resisted temptation, having an options hot choc instead.
Have got my sister to take my pic today. I have weighed myself, measured myself and got me self a lovely little note book to put all the 'now' details in. I am going to think about why I want to be healthier and slimmer and list them. What my rewards will be and list them too. That book will be going everywhere with me so if I have a wobble I can look in and remind myself of why I am doing it.
Need to decide what to have for lunch tomorrow??
Thanks again for all the lovely comments.
KB x
downtownsuzie
Silver Member
I have a list of why I'm doing this and what I want to achieve (or not achieve) and have them stuck up on my kitchen cupboard.
For lunch, I usually take in to work a portion of dinner left over from the night before. Last night (and for todays lunch), I had syn-free KFC and chips
I'm doing chicken pasta tonight x
klairbear
Full Member
Another day, was ok (just ok). Spent most of the day feeling sick (smell of fresh paint being the problem) and ended up having to suck five imperial mints. Ho hum.
Still resisiting the chocolates and sweets at work. Had a salad for my lunch, have just had roasted veg cous cous for my tea, and I still have a HEB to have so am thinking a slice of toast for supper? Syns all taken for the day but now my shopping has arrived I have lots of fruit and yogurts that I can scoff if I feel the need.
I have dug out all my craft materials - I used to make cards, paint, draw, sculpt and make jewellry before laziness took over me and I became a couch potato plantation!! I have realised it it not just about healthy eating it is about changing my habits so out come the ds (puzzler world and professor layton are ace at distracting), my crafty bits and bobs (all my family and friends can expect lots of homemade gifts from now on!) and a good book with a mug of options (bye bye cadburys drinking chocolate :cry
What things have you found help distract you from reaching for the bickie tin or crisp tub?
Still resisiting the chocolates and sweets at work. Had a salad for my lunch, have just had roasted veg cous cous for my tea, and I still have a HEB to have so am thinking a slice of toast for supper? Syns all taken for the day but now my shopping has arrived I have lots of fruit and yogurts that I can scoff if I feel the need.
I have dug out all my craft materials - I used to make cards, paint, draw, sculpt and make jewellry before laziness took over me and I became a couch potato plantation!! I have realised it it not just about healthy eating it is about changing my habits so out come the ds (puzzler world and professor layton are ace at distracting), my crafty bits and bobs (all my family and friends can expect lots of homemade gifts from now on!) and a good book with a mug of options (bye bye cadburys drinking chocolate :cry
What things have you found help distract you from reaching for the bickie tin or crisp tub?
klairbear
Full Member
Really proud of myself today. Had a run in with someone, really stressful day all in all, and I found myself reaching for and taking a choc from the tub....but then I thought what am I doing?? I am not hungry I am not craving I am just stressed!! And I have power over my stress, not the other way around. I have kept that chocolate, just so next time I feel stressed and reach for the rubbish I can remind myself it is not what I need or want!
downtownsuzie
Silver Member
Well done! And as for keeping it in sight - your willpower is to be admired! It would be screaming at me til I ate it. You should be really proud x
klairbear
Full Member
well, weigh in day. I haven't been posting as I have had a weekend away, full board so to speak, with all dinners planned for me....whilst a little worried about how I would manage this I figured I would stick to the plan for all other meals, take lots of healthy syn free snacks and avoid the cakes and biscuits.....
and I can proudly report a 7lb loss
whilst obviously happy I am in shock too.
better go and order that book!!
and I can proudly report a 7lb loss
whilst obviously happy I am in shock too.
better go and order that book!!
charlie1620
Member
hi
just wanted to say hi to you and say hold your head up high you have started the rest of your life and you will do it !! we will give you the support and help you when we can.
be strong you can do it
charlie
just wanted to say hi to you and say hold your head up high you have started the rest of your life and you will do it !! we will give you the support and help you when we can.
be strong you can do it
charlie
klairbear
Full Member
Thank you....really not sure how I managed such a loss but I won't complain!!
I am also not complacent that I could break plan every weekend with the same loss. I am treating it as a one off. The next weekend (at the end of Feb) will be a bigger challenge though, as a night out will be happening too....
I am also not complacent that I could break plan every weekend with the same loss. I am treating it as a one off. The next weekend (at the end of Feb) will be a bigger challenge though, as a night out will be happening too....
klairbear
Full Member
Bit of a blip had today...
Had a funeral to go to so not a normal day by any stretch. And in the moment I have eaten way too much, and am now feeling like I have scuppered my hard work so far.
On the plus side (though it is hard to see one right now, very emotional I am :cry I decided I needed some fresh air and my sister offered to come a walk with me. I am a complete lazy a*** and know that exercise will really help, so I decided I would go for a longer walk than normal. We did 2.5 miles in 40 mins which I am pretty proud of considering how cold it was and how many opportunities there were to take short cuts. I was a bit sweaty and tired afterwards but hopefully I will have lessened some of the impact of the mammoth overeating I did (or maybe I am looking at ways of lessening the guilt?).
Hopefully I will allow myself to draw a line under it though I will be honest and say that I am really craving takeout...it is a stress thing, and I recognise that I am such an emotional eater, but it is just so blummin hard to break the habit which in turn makes me feel even more down on myself
Had a funeral to go to so not a normal day by any stretch. And in the moment I have eaten way too much, and am now feeling like I have scuppered my hard work so far.
On the plus side (though it is hard to see one right now, very emotional I am :cry
I decided I needed some fresh air and my sister offered to come a walk with me. I am a complete lazy a*** and know that exercise will really help, so I decided I would go for a longer walk than normal. We did 2.5 miles in 40 mins which I am pretty proud of considering how cold it was and how many opportunities there were to take short cuts. I was a bit sweaty and tired afterwards but hopefully I will have lessened some of the impact of the mammoth overeating I did (or maybe I am looking at ways of lessening the guilt?).Hopefully I will allow myself to draw a line under it though I will be honest and say that I am really craving takeout...it is a stress thing, and I recognise that I am such an emotional eater, but it is just so blummin hard to break the habit which in turn makes me feel even more down on myself
rockchick72
Full Member
Aw hun when we have a tough day it's so easy to go back to old habits. Tell yourself I don't do that anymore. I don't bury my feelings with food. I am sad. It is ok to be sad. Eating rubbish won't make me feel better. Whatever takeout you fancy there will be a low syn version on here. Be strong. Big hugs xx
