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Hi all
Got a few personal probs atm (who hasn't? lol) and in trying to deal with them I have come to some unpleasant realisations. I have a couple of people who are not the friends/colleagues I thought they were. I would be interested to see how others deal with toxic 'friends' and others who take but give nothing back?
You know the ones, the ones who want to hang around and moan and despair and seek all your answers, take your hospitality and friendship, talk about themselves and nothing else.
Yet when the shoe is on the other foot and you need to talk or have a moan or need a bit of help or tlc - guess what? They don't want to know! No-where to be seen. Messages not replied to etc. And the ones at work, who need your help (freely given) but then take the credit for all you've done. Grrrr
I'm seeing a couple of peeps with new eyes of late, and starting to realise I've been a bit of a doormat. I always try and see the best in people, and give my time and friendship without expecting a return, but I'm feeling drained and I don't know how to tackle this. I need some assertiveness but I don't want to be a b*tch though, and be unpleasant - thats not me. I run from confrontation!
Anyone have this ever? And how did you deal with it? Tia xx
Got a few personal probs atm (who hasn't? lol) and in trying to deal with them I have come to some unpleasant realisations. I have a couple of people who are not the friends/colleagues I thought they were. I would be interested to see how others deal with toxic 'friends' and others who take but give nothing back?
You know the ones, the ones who want to hang around and moan and despair and seek all your answers, take your hospitality and friendship, talk about themselves and nothing else.
Yet when the shoe is on the other foot and you need to talk or have a moan or need a bit of help or tlc - guess what? They don't want to know! No-where to be seen. Messages not replied to etc. And the ones at work, who need your help (freely given) but then take the credit for all you've done. Grrrr
I'm seeing a couple of peeps with new eyes of late, and starting to realise I've been a bit of a doormat. I always try and see the best in people, and give my time and friendship without expecting a return, but I'm feeling drained and I don't know how to tackle this. I need some assertiveness but I don't want to be a b*tch though, and be unpleasant - thats not me. I run from confrontation!
Anyone have this ever? And how did you deal with it? Tia xx